Insta Mum 3

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Why is the other thread closed?!? I was enjoying reading through it?!!

kat if you’re who I think you are I love your blog! And I thought you promoted the cruise ship well.

And you’re transparent. So it is a thumbs up from me.

@atalune the child is now under a paediatrician and dietitian due to severe weight loss and poor self image so I think these things often go hand in hand. So hard growing up with social media.

Oh look, it's the cady and Sofia show again!

Sofia why did you thank mumsnetHQ for deleting the thread?

Kat is DoesMyBumLook40 if we're allowed to say that (although I can't see why we wouldn't be).

And I'd describe Kat as fashion blogger who is a mum, rather than an insta mum.

She's also excellent at transparency and some of the previously discussed bloggers could learn a lot from her account.

What's that even supposed to mean, ABuck? It's inane comments like that that get the thread derailed.

On a personal level no one wants to hear that what they do can potentially contribute to the mental health of children, but that shouldn't make people exempt from having the difficult discussions for fear of hurting someones feeling. I would rather the discussion be had and potentially liminting impact and not and just see what happens 10 years later. Thats how policies and law evolve

I unfollowed her over the first holiday transparency issue. But have looked back since (because of mentions on here) and she’s much more transparent now.

mumofkids wishing you lots of strength.

On a personal level no one wants to hear that what they do can potentially contribute to the mental health of children

The discussion about the privacy of children online is an interesting one.
If say, I'm posting on IG, if I was to post a pic of the children, it'd be a from the back shot so faces weren't visible as I think privacy is important.

The kids and social media is so hard. It's so sneaky and some kids will deal with it fine, but some won't. You think as a parent you are in control and you've covered all bases and your kids are fine, but it's so easy for things to slip through. There's a case in a local school of a 12 yr old girl sending private photos of herself via Instagram group chat, that's out there forever. Yes its extreme but what made her do it and it will never be completely gone.
Now I'm not saying that in any way 'instamums' are related to that particular issue, just highlighting that there are so many ways for Instagram/SM to impact on young lives. Deleting pictures because they don't attack enough likes is the tip of the iceberg.
Some of the children exploited and used on accounts will suffer the negative aspects, it's inevitable and other kids will use anything they can to get at someone.

I was pretty relaxed about posting pictures when my children were younger. My Insta has always been kept fairly separate from FB (where I posted loads of pictures of them) and I anonymised my account. Most recently I have locked it and keep it very tightly controlled. I rarely show new pictures of my children on FB (and have come very close to binning it). I think as your children grow older, go to school, develop their own identities and personalities, perhaps you think about them less as an extension of you, and more as people in their own right (and with their own rights). I notice a lot of the mummy bloggers still have babies and pre schoolers so perhaps they are still at a different stage of thinking about it than I am and this may evolve for them as their children grow older perhaps?

When I did post pictures of my (then) 6 year old on IG in the past, he was asking "how many likes?" which made me feel really uncomfortable that he was measuring himself like that. It made me challenge myself about why I was sharing so many pictures on FB - who was I doing it for and why??

I'm so glad social media wasn't a thing back in the Dark Ages when I was at school
Seriously, though, the mental health aspect is an interesting and important one.
I have a 14 year old. I see some of his classmates uploading practically daily pouty poses of themselves to FB (do they not realise that by tagging 100s of their "besties" and "mainz" in there, they might as well be making themselves public? I could be anyone!)
Constantly searching for likes, validation on their looks etc - must be mentally exhausting.
For children, uploading to social media, and for adults looking at others feeds and feeling inferior too.
All the same, really.

Yes Cady, I think young people are much more comfortable with being in front of a camera than I ever was. The younger they are the more selfies and pouts on the facebook feed. I guess in my day you took a gamble when you took a picture that it would turn out well when it was developed (and mine rarely did, I'm not very photogenic ). Nowadays you can pretty much guarantee a good picture with all the filters and editing tools available. I know this is a fairly big generalisation (I have a friend from school who is not afraid of a selfie or three), but I do think younger people are more comfortable sharing on social media in general.

I deleted Facebook 2 weeks ago, and had pretty much stopped posting photos on their a long time ago. Instagram I have posted pictures with my younger children but I've halted since joining in discussion as I'm really thinking about the whole picture now. My account has none of our names or ages but due to afflilation with Facebook and how you get promoted I'm aware that people who knew me on Facebook would no it was my account. There's no photos of myself on there.

I get my kids photos on photo stream and they definitely are more confident with the selfie than I am! And pouting. How do you not laugh when you pout at yourself?

I was pretty angry when I realised FB had linked up with my Instagram account and people could find my Instagram from being friends with me on FB. I locked it down as soon as I became aware of that.

I think its telling how must adults asked are relieved that they didnt have social media as a kid, i know i am! But as adults some will post their children on there i mean anyone not just someone on Instagram , its intresting when they get older would they be allowed own account? I know i wont ne letting my child one untill its the absolutely latest.

miami I think Facebook owns Instagram now so yes, they'll be linked.
I know when I log into IG on my phone it'll suggest my FB friends already on IG,

Ive been debating in my head last few weeks when to delete my fb as im interested and have been following the Cambridge analytica scandal, the influencing of ads for political gain using social medi.

More targeting of ads not influencing

Why don't we all just be sensible and ignore the cady/sofia deliberate attempt at derailment?

That way discussion can continue