"Accidental" messages

[dinosaursgoroar]

My ExH keeps sending me texts that are intended for his new girlfriend 'by accident'
They are always full of soppy content and finished with hundreds of 'xxxx'

The things he writes in these messages don't really even make sense, telling her things that don't add up (Work times etc - I know his shift patterns due to contact with DS) and lots of messages have said things like 'missing you babe xxxxxx'

There have been loads of issues revolving around his new partner including her randomly messaging me with harassing and accusing messages which I never got to the bottom of it. He always says 'was half asleep' or 'didn't mean to send you that'

Now I'm pretty certain he's doing it on purpose for whatever weird reason of his, but AIBU in telling him that's it's not fair and it needs to stop? Although he keeps claiming he didn't mean to do it but I've had about 5/6 texts in the last 3 weeks. Does anyone even send texts to the Wrong person by accident any more?! Thoughts/suggestions please!

@TheStoic exactly. Like he doesn't care if I react to it or not as long as I've seen it and 'know how good he's doing' etc

The only thing men like this respond to is being laughed at.

Have you ever SEEN this new gf?

Because I know from experience some men are just this pathetic. He could have got a cheapo sim card and be messaging you from his 'girlfriend's' number.

He wants you to start wondering if you're missing out on a good thing.

I can tell, even through just the internet, that you most certainly are not

He is a little boy looking for attention. Don't rise to it as it is exactly what he is after juts delete don't even read them or do as you said block him except when he has DS. No one is that stupid to constantly send to the wrong person he wants you to see it. Ignore it don't even bring it up it will annoy him more or send it on to his mum!

@SadKitty86 😂 thank you. You're right. The gf messaged me thru Facebook, and when I clicked to see who she was it was a full profile I doubt she could've made it up. She knew details about my DS and was asking me if I still love him. Her spelling was much better than his ever was!

Doubt he could've made it up. Stupid phone

@Bowerbird5 I've tried involving his mum and she just says 'I don't wanna get involved between you and exh' So no help!

Ignore if possible. If he mentions it to you just say 'oh yeah sorry about your attention and memory problems. Must be hard dealing with all that at a fairly young age. Hope you have been checked out by the dr.' Ideally said in front of his mother.

He's doing this for 2 reasons
One to wind you and at the same time making his gf feel insecure about their relationship.
He's telling you she's a deluded bitch and he no doubt be saying the exact same things to her because that's how their warped minds work
he thinks he's control the deluded pos!
Just reply with 'you're the one that's the deluded you prat"!
You could set up a a new email address and use that to contact about the DCs pick. Then you can block the prat!

My ex used to do this, trying to make me jealous it’s fucking pathetic.

If his girlfriend gave you shit when they had an argument I bet he's feeding her lies about YOU still chasing after him!

I like the idea of texting him an "accidental" text about your stupid ex trying to make you jealous, but I feel like that has the potential to cause more hassle from him. Maybe a slightly more subtle approach?
Can you take a screenshot of the next soppy message he sends and later send it back to him, saying "This is the lastest one!" wih the crying-laughing emoji, followed by "Oops sorry that wasn't meant for you?" There's less for him to react to, but he'll still know you're laughing at his antics...

@shouldwestayorshouldwego god don't when we split up he tried to blame some of his ridiculous behaviour that couldn't be blamed on me already on the fact that he thinks he has adhd. Although he is completely the opposite!!! He doesn't even know what it means! He's a total hypochondriac and would love the thought of 'having something wrong with him' to get attention and sympathy!!!

Is he 12?

Do not respond to the messages, delete them the minute they arrive on your phone. When he apologises for sending them, just ignore that message too. Don't involve his mother or family, just ignore.

It is all so childish and pathetic, don't allow him to drag you into it.

The motivation for his new relationship is obviously to make you jealous, he should've getting ZERO reaction from you.

She’ll have another profile stalking you. Post screen shots on fb and make the post public 😁

@SwimmingInLemonade
If his girlfriend gave you shit when they had an argument I bet he's feeding her lies about YOU still chasing after him!

^ this is exactly what all my friends and family said. She used phrases like 'I hope you sort things out and are happy together' 'well done' and 'I hope your happy' very weird 🤔

Have we not all sent a text to someone by mistake? Question is how many texts can one send to someone by accident? Lol he obviously is trying to make you jealous and stir something up, ignore and don't response.

Send them to the new gf and say I think this was meant for u. Then reply to him and tell him you forwarded it to the rightful owner so he dont have to! Very likely he'll stop then

Maybe it's his new girlfriend doing it to get a reaction out of you

@Lemondrizzlee exactly! When we were together he used to do it very occasionally like he'd send me maybe one every 3 months that was meant for his Mum or something - but not this often! Is obviously deliberate and I will say something when he/they get here! I'll update later 😂

I do this lots- clearly the only one? I read the message when it appears on screen, unlock the phone to answer & message the person on the last open conversation.

Update for you if anyone is interested. Lol his family didn't even bother to show up. My sons 1st birthday but apparently they're all ill with the same thing 🤔 course they are. Said what I wanted to say anyway but there's no talking to the dickhead. He just shrugs at you or rolls his eyes waiting for you to shut up

block his number and tell him to contact you via email only

I actually find this a bit creepy. Sending messages meant for his new partner to you to make him look desirable / keep you involved / mess with your head? If you mention it again, I’d say that this is what creepy men do and you want no part of it. He can email you but his number will now be blocked.

You could always block his phone number and unblock it if he ever takes your child out (in case he needs to contact you) and block his number again when he brings your child back to you. He sounds immature more than anything really.

My ex did that once to me. Tried to claim that the text was to me and I believed it as he left me about 2 hours beforehand after dropping me home after I took an overdose because of my severe PND.

Then I found out, he did it to the gf he had after me. Apparently, that one was meant to be for his mate. It had kisses on the end, so yeah right, a mate.