WIBU to put off newborn visitors this time?

[rosesandjim]

I'm currently pregnant with dc2. When I had dc1 I had a horrific tear which resulted in surgery and a haemorrhage. Then my baby was very unwell and also needed surgery, which was absolutely terrifying.

At the time dc1 was the first grandchild on both sides and the first baby in both families for 25 years, so everyone was very excited.
The excitement however soon turned into selfish demands and expectations. Everyone wanted to 'pop over' and basically be waited on by us at every bloody opportunity.

My in laws had a really bad cold/flu virus so DH asked them to stay away for a couple of weeks until they were better. MIL still goes on about how she didn't meet little one when they were born and that she was 'robbed' and this time she's meeting them straight away!!!
Thing is we had such a horrible time last time, it really affected me physically and mentally for a while and this time, I don't want anyone for at least a week or two, not even our parents.

AIBU to tell everyone this before hand and stick to how I want to do it?
We aren't planning anymore and if all is well this time, I'd like things to be a bit more enjoyable and also give dc1 some time to adjust.

“Cut the cord” and “see my GC every 2 or 3 days”. I’m a GM and I didn’t attend any of the births of my GC. I wouldn’t want to. I also keep my distance until invited. I remember the happiest times with just my DH when my DC were newborns. I want my DC and their partners to have that lovely time as a new family without barging in and making it all about me.