To think it's odd that dh lied about this?

[Pinkwintersocks]

I probably am bu here. Sorry if I ramble on but I want to give context. It's about something that's none of my business, but I can't understand why my dh lied so that's what's puzzling me.

Dh works for a very small company, maybe 15 employees. He works alone a lot but when he sees his work colleagues he usually comes home and tells me all the gossip, so to speak. If there's a new employee dh always tells me about them if they're married, if they've got kids, i never ask, but dh just tells me, I suppose doing the type of job he does it's just something to talk about., but he even tells me personal things about colleagues that they've told him.

Anyway we were discussing holidays and dh mentioned that one workmate, I'll call him Fred, has been taking a lot of unpaid leave, dh commented how this guy can afford it because he lives in a caravan. Now I know, because dh told me before, that this man Fred was married with 3 dc and had a really nice house (dh told me all this), so I asked if Fred was living in the caravan with his family and dh said yes and how they wanted to save money and live and outdoor lifestyle etc. I didn't think anything of it.

Anyway, just by chance and being a small world it turned out that I know someone who knows this guy Fred. A friend of mine was telling me ages ago about their brother who'd split up with his wife and was living in a caravan with his new girlfriend. It was only later they said his name and I realised Fred was their brother, and works with dh.

So, next time dh said he was working with Fred he was going to have to meet him to vehicle share, I just asked if Fred was still living in the caravan, dh said yes he loves it, I said "Fred lives with his new girlfriend now doesn't he", dh said no what gave you that idea? So I told him that I knew someone that knew Fred and how he was divorcing.

Dh then said how Fred had split up from his wife, but they'd got back together (this isn't true either).

I know none of it is any of my business but I can't understand why dh made a point of lying.

“My husband and i even share stuff that we have been told to keep quiet yes.“

Utterly disgusting.

I dont see why the immediate assumption is that your dh is lying and not that he probably didnt know the full story, or got muddled up (seeing as he stores so much information about his employees and their family’s and their family’s family’s lol)
Or that Fred hasn’t been completely forthcoming about his personal lofe, cos why would he.

I'm not really worried about dh telling me bits and bobs about his work colleagues. He's not malicious but we can't always have interesting conversations. A lot of it is "Bob has this for tea he says we should try it", "John goes on holiday here, he said it's great", "Fred's wife works there and she's having problems".

I have a "Fred" at my workplace too... also a small gossipy company. Perhaps its the same guy?
His Mrs kicked him out and he ended up shacked up with his mistress in a caravan. Then the wife forgives him and he moves back in with her. Then the wife kicks him out again, and he moves back in with mistress. And so on, and so on. It's worse than a soap drama.

Perhaps just crossed wires, OP? Seems an odd thing to lie about.

sign your relationship has probably run its course.

ran out of things to talk about so instead you are gossiping about other peoples living arrangements, misfortunes etc and getting worried that fred might have a girlfriend or 5 in in his caravan of love.

get a grip. get a life.

he's deffo shagging Fred

Then there's the people with such sad lives that they spend their time reading thread on mumsnet, then get angry about other people's trivial stuff. They post nasty aggressive replies because it makes them feel far superior.

Lol@pinkwintersocks

Pinkwintersocks

Ignore them, it sounds like you and your husband have a good, close relationship and talk about everything