noblegiraffe Sun 14-Jan-18 11:41:32
"Football chants, the army chanting as they run, reciting prayers, mantras, affirmations."
There is a difference because anybody who joins the army or takes up a place on their team knows that this is part of a tradition: if you don't like it (and I wouldn't), you just keep away from that kind of environment.
Most teenagers don't have any choice about their environment: they have to go to a school that their parents can afford, that they can get into, and that is within travelling distance.
Naturally, they have to obey rules there, even rules that they don't immediately see the point of. No community can work without rules. But it's a fine balance when you introduce new rules, rules which may not be part of any known secondary school tradition, rules which may be sending the message to the local community that "we don't think you're good enough".
Wearing silly hats and sticks at Eton is fine, because it's part of an established tradition. Singing a Latin prayer at the religious boarding school I visited briefly in my teens, also fine. Like the football chants or army slogan, it's part of their tradition and fits in with what they are. That doesn't mean introducing boaters into a comprehensive in a deprived area would be sending the same message. Chances are it won't. Context is all.
The message underlying the Eton uniform is "I can afford to look a little silly because my kind rule this society". Forcing a teen from a council estate into the same uniform will not be sending the same message- because they know it's not true. So they'll start wondering what the underlying message actually is.
My son never got into any trouble at his secondary. He is not a trouble-maker and he knew we would never stand for it. But it didn't take him many minutes for him to work out what the new head's new rules were all about, and the chance of the school ever arousing any feelings of loyalty in him plummeted from the first day of the new regime.