To think dd isnt getting spoiled by this

[Edinburghlass1991]

Long story short ds 2 has had many problems since birth that has caused a lot of worry and stress. Dd5 has been great with it but still has suffered. Ive booked a hotel room about an hr away for me and her to have some time alone without my son which does seem mean but he wont even notice and ny dh will be with him.
My plan is to bring dvds junk food and go out for dinner and breakfest. She will have a full 24 hrs where it will be all about her and she can choose something to do.
Ive told some friends all have told me she will grow up spoiled. Aibu

It sounds lovely.

Just make sure the hotel room has a dvd player!

They're being ridiculous, it's quality time with your daughter.

I think it is a lovely plan, and wouldn't think she will get spoiled at all.

Hopefully, when DS is older, you - or DH- will be able to take him for some one on one time too.

Sounds awesome. It's not going to spoil her as a one off/occassional treat

Yes. Terrible things happen to children in later life who are spoilt by their parents love and attention

Ignore your stupid friends and have a wonderful day with your daughter!

Grow up spoiled because of one day?

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Your friends are talking rubbish. It'll be good for you too. Go and enjoy!

Utterly ridiculous. Your friends are mad.

I'm planning on a trip to London with my dd - hotel, Les Miserables in Westend and shopping. My ds doesn't even have any special problems, we just fancied it! (And neither dh or ds are interested in Les Mis)

Blimey, some people have weird ideas.

I have DD(8) and DD(2). Our 2 year old is disabled and takes so much of our time between illness, appointment and the fact she can't walk or talk or be left ever or sleep well.

This sounds lovely. I haven't done this with my DD (but I may now I have the idea!) but we regularly make sure she gets 1 to 1 time with both of us. Rarely both of us together, but she needs our time as well. Go for it. Have fun & ignore your friends xx

I think it's a lovely idea, and no way is she going to be spoiled by having a day with her mum. What an odd thing to say...

Your friends really said that? :/ I think it's a lovely thoughtful thing to do, don't listen to them

Sounds lovely! Your DD will have a fabulous time. Ignore your "friends" and go for it!

I have 4 DCs. DC3 has learning difficulties and needs a lot of attention/ support which DC1&2 often help with.

I take them out alone and together - once a year we try and do something ‘big’ with them that DC3 can’t cope with - like a theatre trip for example.

I’m not spoiling them. They are being rewarded and recognised for the part they play in DC3’s life and given some time off from the stress of our normal.

Sounds like a great idea to me!

It sounds like your friends are either looking for things to complain about, are jealous that they didn't think of it first or have martyr complex.

My friend does something similiar with her two every year - a 24 with DD doing her stuff and 24 with DS doing his kind of thing.

Yanbu. Your friends sound like dicks tbh.

I would make it a regular thing not a one off.

Your DD won't be spoiled, and you need to look for new friends.

That sounds lovely! She won't grow up spoiled at all. I think your friends are being ridiculous. I'd love to do that with my DS who is 5!

Sounds to me as if your DD deserves every minute of it.

Your dd will remember this fondly. 'Grow up spoiled'? Sounds like envy talking.

I think it's a lovely idea, and that your friends don't know what they're talking about!

I also think it could be something you do every 1-2 months :)

Lovely idea! Your friends are stupid.

They havent really understood my sons problems and dismiss them by saying he will be fine when he wont. .my dd is looking forward it and so am i

They sound jealous. It's a lovely treat for the both of you, especially if it's hard to have quality time at home sometimes. Maybe you need some new friends.