AIBU about OH’s parents expectations....

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OH parents live down South, but are due to come and stay with us at the wknd. They have only ever met our son once (7wks old, he’s now 2) when we went to visit them. Contact with LO has been sporadic and only ever through FaceTime since.
They have mentioned a few times that they are going to take LO out for the day on their own, I feel this is ridiculous as he has never really met them, he is super clingy with me and often even shys away from his dad. I feel so anxious about this suggestion.
We have also had a trip to a&e over the wknd as LO was so poorly, he’s on antibiotics and still recovering from a nasty infection.
Surely it makes sense that we would all do something together, seen as they are only here for one full day? It just seems a bit unrealistic to me.
Am I being ridiculous about the situation?

Firecracker, They have only ever met our son once (7wks old, he’s now 2) when we went to visit them From the OP's opening post.

firecracker
Some kids have issues being away from thier mothers and it has nothing to do with the mothers being anxious about them. I have worked with families with this problem and its very trying having a baby/toddler screaming when the mum so much as leaves the room or even gets up from playing with them on the floor even if dad is there. It takes a lot of work to wean the child off this behaviour of expecting to be with mum 24/7. The mum has huge guilt for trying to do something without a child tagging along constantly and feels like they are doing something wrong and dad feels rejected.
All kids are different but with a bit of work they get over this and become more independent from thier mums. I know kids who are now confident individuals with great relationships with both parents.

Sarcasm towards op is unecessary and shows you know nothing about ops child or life nor even read the ops first post properly.

Btw if you had read ops posts Firecracker you would see her child goes to nursery and is happy to go with other family members.

Op is hardly stopping him forming relationships with other people.

The gps do not know the child at all so why should she let her child go with strangers?

Firecracker.....no, I have actually visited them 3 times, twice before our son was born and again when he was born. They have never made an effort to come to us until now. They live in Plymouth which is a good 6-7hr drive from us, more difficult with a baby and a dog than it is for them to just jump in the car!

As Willow has also mentioned, I am in no way hindering my child’s independence, I would like nothing more than to have a less clingy child but I’m also not going to cause him stress by forcing situations he is not ready for or comfortable with! He will get there in his own time.
They have zero relationship with my son, this is the issue, not my parenting!

Fair enough not. No need to be defensive nobody criticised your parenting.