Getting DDs name wrong

[peachweach]

A person I know keeps spelling my baby DD's name wrong, at first I thought it was just a mistake so made a point of texting back mentioning DD's name with the correct spelling but now constantly since birth this person has been spelling it wrong. Think changing the end of the name from 'y' to 'ie'.

Person I'm talking about is very close immediate family on partner's side and has seen DD lots and had cards etc with DD's name in it, we have a WhatsApp group with DD's name as the title for picture sharing etc and all the other members of the group get it right. Surely it can't be just a mistake anymore? I've known the person in question for 10 years and they are harmless really but they do have form for being a bit funny with me sometimes, like I get in the way of their relationship with partner sometimes sort of thing.

I know it's a first world problem and really doesn't matter at all, but it's really starting to annoy me. Is it so hard to spell it correctly? AIBU?

My aunt spells my abbreviated version of my name wrong - y not ie 😂 I always write it the way I like it but can’t be bothered to tell her tell her

Could it be a nickname or variation of her name? I wouldn’t get too worked up a pit it tbh.

Change how you spell her name?!! So if she is called Diana, email her “Dear Diama”. See how she likes them apples!!

YANBU at all. DS2 has a name which is consistently misspelled and it irritates the shite out of me. His name is the traditional proper not unique spelling and it pisses me off more than it should. Especially when it’s close family or friends.

I had a colleague who did this to me about my name. I sent her many emails with my name as the email address, signed off by me but she still replied using the wrong ending. Eventually I had had enough so I asked her why - she said it was because that is what autocorrect changed it to so she just left it. Is your family member particularly lazy?

My aunt spells my step daughters name wrong and as it's a flower you would think it would be easy but that's just the way it is - it's only been 7 years...

Mention it if it bothers you, if you are not going to mention it, you will have to include being irritated as one of your hobbies.

Some people can't spell.

Something like Maisie/Maisy? A family member constantly doing it in the circumstances you describe would annoy me

My Dhs grandad spells his name wrong and has done since he was born 37 years ago. It wouldn’t bother me tbh.

Could your mil be slightly dyslexic? Looking back on it, we realized that my mother was- she had trouble spelling a couple of her grandchildrens’ name- one she always spelled Osca.....

Does it really matter?

My mum often spells my DDs name with an ie rather than a y. She has got a bit better when here the other Christmas and DAD pulled her up on it but this year's card reverted to ie. DD tends to just shrug now.

Fuck sake, she got better when DD pulled her up on it.

People have been spelling my name wrong for 27 years.
Including my late great Nan.
There's worse things to get worked up about, but if it bothers you then you could say something.

I have a name that can be spelled with ie or y, I spell it with a y but often get people spelling it ie, it is just one of those things. Most people I've pulled up on it have said its just because they know someone who spells it the other way, who they've either known longer or whose name they write more often.

Every year my grandma would sent me a cheque with my name spelled wrong. Every year I'd have to send it back with the message "thank you very much grandma but can you send a new one with the right spelling" because the bank refused the cash it in otherwise. I don't know why she didn't just check, and why we had to go through this every year for a decade

My dd ends in ie. Always has. My sister has always written her name with a y. As this has gone on for 20 years the moment has passed.

Or maybe she knows other children with the other spelling? Dh has two godchildren, one called Katy and one called Katie. I'll admit we sometimes get the muddled.

I have a friend who does this to me and it's very annoying. It's like they can't be bothered to learn the difference.

She has to use the correct spelling to email me but then will start the email with Hello xxxx and spell it wrong. I have mentioned it, it made a difference for all of about a week.

I know how you feel, it shows a lack of interest for you.

Have you tried coming right out with it and saying "it's spelled Maisie, not Maisy"?

If they still can't get it right then they're a lost cause.

People are allowed to make spelling mistakes.

My name is a very well known one and you would not think that people can mis-spell it but hey - some manage it !

Maybe she has known someone for years with the 'wrong' spelling.

You say you sent her a message with the correct spelling, but did you say 'sorry 'x', but dd's name is actually spelled with an 'ie', not a 'y'

Or did you just expect her to notice without bringing it up?

Maybe she thinks you’re spelling it wrongly and this is her way of letting you know. Over and over.

I think this is so common with names that have alternative spellings. People just find it hard to remember. It will probably happen a lot during her lifetime so try not to get worked up about it.

as you say she is close immediate family I think she should learn how to spell your daughter's name - remind her directly - don't just think she'll pick it up from you spelling it correctly, she probably won't notice that.