Cosmetic surgery on Dd(8) ears?

[motherfiver]

Over the last few months Dd has become very aware of the fact that her ears are very prominent, I think sparks by playground comments although she denies this. She is refusing to wear her hair down and and there has been many tears over this.
Surgery to pin them back was something I really considered when she was little but decided they weren't that bad and I'd let her make her own choice, they have got worse as she has gotten older.
Tbh I'm not really opposed to the idea as I hate for her to feel insecure and unhappy, but I don't have any family or friends on my side, DP (who is not DD's biological father) has said he is really against it.
Short term I 100% think it would be beneficial for her but I'm worried long term it will be damaging.
If it's relevant me and DD's adult sister have both had cosmetic surgery .

AIBU to really be considering letting her have surgery?
WWYD?

My friend was going to look into this

www.royalfreeprivatepatients.com/treatments/earfold-implant/

For her daughter

formerbabe

I think most of the “frowning upon” piercing a child’s ears is when it’s done without the consent of the child. I.e when they are babies or toddlers.

Personally I don’t have a problem with pierced ears if my dd wanted them done as she’s only going to get them done later anyway. And I’d much rather make sure they were done safely, i.e at a proper piercing place with a sterilised needle specifically for ear piercing than somewhere like Claire’s where an inexperienced shop assistant uses a gun and blunt trauma.

But back to ear pinning - I think it’s important to make distinctions between cosmetic procedures.

Ear pinning is a relatively small procedure unlike a nose job so why would you subject your child to years of waiting until she’s old enough to get it done without your permission?

I don't agree with ear piercing on a baby or toddler. But on an 8-year-old, if she wants it, I think it's fine. I think most people on MN who are against ear piercing are against it because the child is too young to consent.

I wouldn't agree to pinning ears back on a 1 year old anymore than I would ear piercing so that is a nonsense argument. OP's child is old enough to express her own opinions on it and I highly doubt the OP would force her to have the operation.

I think it is easy to spout "teach your child to be resilient" when it isn't your child being bullied.

From 5 yrs according to NHS

www.nhs.uk/conditions/cosmetic-treatments/ear-correction-surgery/?