AIBU to take the couple from the bar's DD swimming?

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Just that really.

DP and I are staying in a Hilton hotel for our anniversary this weekend. We met another couple in the bar last night and got to chatting, nothing amazingly in depth. Just the odd bit of small talk when we happened to pass each other.

We were heading to the pool today and the woman approached me in the changing room with her DD and asked if I could watch her in the pool as her and her DH had arranged to go sight seeing. She said her DD was below the minimum age to take responsibility for herself and needed an adult present.

I said no flat out. I'm not comfortable with children at all and was definitely not up for babysitting someone else's especially when I didn't know them. She huffed for a bit then apologised to her daughter because she couldn't go swimming.

Tonight she has approached my DP at the bar to ask if we can take her tomorrow and claimed that I had said it would be fine.

Obviously the answer was still no. DP seems to think I'm being unreasonable though. To be fair I would question the judgment of anyone that would trust a stranger with their DC but that's just me.

Title should read refuse to take her swimming... sorry for confusion. I still don't want to.

YANBU - you don't know the child at all and, presumably, you are away with your dh to enjoy time together.

The woman is a cheeky fucker.

You and your dh are away on our own with no kids of your own for your anniversary? Why the fuck would you want to babysit for a strangers child so they can have kid free time? Massive cheeky fucker and a definite no!!!!

Yeah you weren't being unreasonable.

Who would ask a completer stranger to watch their child, very odd.

Yanbu.

This women is a CF!

And even if I wanted to look after her child, the fact that she lied to your dh would make it an absolute definite no.

Nope. Definitely not being unreasonable. What if something happened? You don’t know how confident she is at swimming. It’s their fault she can’t go swimming not yours

How old is she? Poor kid being dumped like that. Yanbu to say no. It's a big responsibility taking someone else's child swimming.

How old is the child? Not that it makes any difference, I'm just curious.

I'd actually let the staff at the hotel aware that they're trying to palm their dd off with strangers. Yanbu.

Really ?

No, would be fine maybe if it was a friend's child, perhaps. Definitely not a complete stranger.

DH is not the one who's going to watch her if you say yes, is e? So he'S BU to think you're BU.

The woman is a CF.

Wth?!?! Who does that?! Selfish bloody parents.

gosh what a surprising story - how awful

YANBU. That's a huge responsibility. And very odd that she would be happy to leave her child with a stranger.

Odd that random people you have just met are asking you to babysit? Why don't they want to spend time with their DC.
YANBU in the slightest!

Whaaat? No YANBU!!

I wouldn’t leave my child with a stranger anywhere, let alone to go swimming.

I’m not easily appalled, but....

Yanbu. What a strange lady to leave her child with a stranger.

Something's not right here - that poor child

I’d be terrified of a pool accident whilst I was there with a child! On top of the fact I’m not a free babysitter. Imagine the life changing devastation if the child turned out to be a poor swimmer and a risk taker and you missed something, of all places a pool is madness

No way - you're not being unreasonable at all. Stick to your guns!

I had to read it twice to make sure I'd got the circumstances right.

if the child was just slightly younger than the official age to be left and could really watch herself and you had similar age children she would be company for, it would still be a cheeky request, but it might suit you all.

As you don't I'm just that anyone would have the front or even consider leaving their child with strangers. if she's less than a teen, I might even consider making some sort of referral (I'd have to find out who to ring first!)

Why does DP want to have her?

Hmm I'd say maybe like 8/9? Not 100% sure though. Not a toddler but not a teenager. I'm not great at guessing kids ages. I think the policy is that under 16s need an adult so definitely younger than that.

I'm terrible with children so I'd really worry about her judgment if she genuinely thought I'd be a good option. Literally no experience with looking after them at all and I was hungover as anything. Disaster waiting to happen

Do it and send her a mahooosive bill at the end

You are absolutely not BU
Sight seeing would take most of the day I assume.
Who would ask a stranger to pretty much look after their child for a day. Undress them, put them into a swimsuit. Trust them to not let the child drown and dry and dress again. How crazy!
It would have been different if they were sitting at the side or something.
But I would have said no too.
And how very strange to lie to your partner.
Watch your personal belongings around them in case they where going to steal as they knew you where busy.
(I know I am super suspicious of everyone )