AIBU to take the couple from the bar's DD swimming?

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Just that really.

DP and I are staying in a Hilton hotel for our anniversary this weekend. We met another couple in the bar last night and got to chatting, nothing amazingly in depth. Just the odd bit of small talk when we happened to pass each other.

We were heading to the pool today and the woman approached me in the changing room with her DD and asked if I could watch her in the pool as her and her DH had arranged to go sight seeing. She said her DD was below the minimum age to take responsibility for herself and needed an adult present.

I said no flat out. I'm not comfortable with children at all and was definitely not up for babysitting someone else's especially when I didn't know them. She huffed for a bit then apologised to her daughter because she couldn't go swimming.

Tonight she has approached my DP at the bar to ask if we can take her tomorrow and claimed that I had said it would be fine.

Obviously the answer was still no. DP seems to think I'm being unreasonable though. To be fair I would question the judgment of anyone that would trust a stranger with their DC but that's just me.

Well. That’s odd!

That is completely insane!

She’s suffering from cheeky fucker syndrome imo

People actually do this?

Presuming you're telling the truth, I would report her to the hotel staff to warn them.

This isn't just rude, it's completely unacceptable. I would be livid and tempted to tell her a few home truths. Who does she think she is?

I don’t believe it.

She huffed and puffed and apologised to her dd that she couldn't go swimming, erm Yes she could if she didn't go sight seeing
shagging and took responsibility for own child instead of expecting stangers to.

A couple you don't know in a hotel ask you to mind their child ..... you need to report to the hotel

wow that's beyond odd that poor little girl. initially I thought you meant a teenager that was just hanging about hotel whilst parents went out, that would be weird too, but this poor child that's crap.

Does the hotel not do a club for kids? Even so, that's shocking, I'd never leave my kids apart from the fact that I love being with them, leaving them with a virtual stranger? My DDs would have sobbed their hearts out at that age.

Wow! What sort of parent would dump their child on strangers and also expect you to supervise them swimming with all the potential dangers/liability! Imagine if the child made some form of allegations too!

who would do that?

You’re on a holiday away to celebrate your anniversary. It’s definitely not babysitting territory. And even if you had 10 DC with you, who asks a complete stranger to take their child swimming so that they can go sight-seeing?!

what a surprising story! I just can’t imagine this happening irl, but it takes all sorts I suppose.

Obviously, it isn’t U to say no to some random woman trying to dump their child on strangers. How odd.

Even assuming nothing went wrong, why do they think you would want to be tied to the pool with their child until they get back? What if you wanted to go and get a drink, or have something to eat - or even go sightseeing yourselves!

Well done for saying No to this cheeky fuckery.

If I wrote down what my CF neighbours have done over the years you would not believe me and it would identify me.

But, these type of people DO exist. They live in a passive aggressive bubble of indignation!

YANBU in the slightest but YWBU to hide from them. Why should they stop you doing what you want to do? If she tries it on again just say 'no way, what a ridiculous suggestion! I don’t even know you and we're away for our anniversary'

Not sure what those suggesting reporting to the hotel expect them to do but if this bizarrity really happened, OP what you've done is fine. Can't imagine anyone doing otherwise.

What was she doing in the changing room if she wasn’t going to be taking her daughter swimming?

Personally I would be having a word with hotel management. Who the fuck trusts a complete stranger to look after their child.

That is really odd behaviour, and it took me until half way thru the thread to realise that you had no child of your own with you.
Avoid Avoid Avoid!!!

"What was she doing in the changing room if she wasn’t going to be taking her daughter swimming?"

Looking for someone else she could ask to do it.

Not sure what those suggesting reporting to the hotel expect them to do

I'd report it in case the couple have approached others - it might be worth flagging up.

What was she doing in the changing room if she wasn’t going to be taking her daughter swimming?

Looking for someone to look after her child, I assume?

OMG is this woman mental or just ultimate cf.

You should have sorry we cannot look after children unsupervised due to the court order. Goodbye cheeky bitch !

Battleaxe- because these tools sound like the sort of people to plop their child in front of the tv with a bag of sweets in a hotel room and go out for the night. Personally if I was running a hotel I would want to know if there was an unsupervised minor in one of my rooms

K1092902 Excellent point.

Apart from feeling sorry for the poor child, I would wonder why they think it is acceptable to ask complete strangers to babysit, especially as you have no children of tour own.

And because I am a suspicious sort I would be worried for you if you did accept. They could say anything afterwards about a couple who nagged to look after their child, who they had never met before and who insisted that they leave the child with them whilst they went out... You need to protect yourselves on this and not just be thinking about the poor girl.

What country are you in? UK?

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