Am I being a little too British

[MrsMaxwell]

At a dinner party the other evening at some friends house where there was also another couple and one of their relatives who were all very nice and was first time they had met DH and I and they did not know much about us/what we do for work.

During course of the evening the lady started talking about her what her relative (who was also there) does for a living and then she said “you will never believe what X earns - he earns more than everyone in this room put together” mortified host tried to stop her but she proceeded to tell us all how much he earns (it wasn’t more than the rest of us put together). I felt totally mortified as have always been brought up to never discuss how much you earn or how much anything costs but am happy to be told I am an old fart.

Is this just an uptight British/Cultural thing or does anyone else feel uncomfortable discussing wages? The relative did not seem embarrassed at all and I wonder in other cultures is it the norm? Should we be proud and have a bit of a boast rather than than be all stiff upper lip about it?

Er, ok. Earning 100k isn't that brag worthy in my opinion. It's only 50k after tax. How do the sums on that work out then? £11.5k allowance, 20% on income above that up to £45k and 40% on the rest. Leaving about £71,300. Or are you including VAT, petrol tax, IPT etc ..? Certainly not something to brag about, but it's more than 97% of the population earns, and 4 times the median income, and most people would not describe it as "only..." either before or after tax.

Trés déclassé but potentially quite salacious revelatory.

If you got a funnel and poured a bottle or ten of 🍷 down her throat, perhaps she’d have warmed up even further on any number of topics that are considered off the menu at British dinner parties? 🤗

She did 😂😂

100k is more like 65k after tax. You lose some of your personal allowance plus you lose benefits such as free 30 hours childcare.

There should be more transparency in the work place regarding wages but it is quite another thing to be asked by a neighbour, relative or friend what you earn. It is plain old nosiness as it is of no benefit.

Meh, but what’s £15k at the end of the day

What else did she say? Too outing?

Meh, but what’s £15k at the end of the day

Wardrobe budget 😉

Maui budget

He does not work in the UK.

The other things were sex related but too outing

Omg I really hope it’s not his dad or his cousin... or his Mum. If it’s not his partner then... 🤮

listentotaxman.com - 100K is £65,780 after tax.