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To make my bf wait hours for his blind date

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 12:17

Ok so I've not been on here for years ...... but I'm raging. My bf has been behaving suspiciously so I checked online and right enough the wanker has a POF profile!

So I catfished him and we're meeting today at 12:30 ..... well he thinks we are ... I'm not turning up. Want to see how long I can make him wait!

If you're in Swindon feel free to give him a wave!!

Am I being unreasonable to make him wait a couple of hours. Will I be able to drag it out that long .....

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geekone · 04/01/2018 15:16

OP take a deep breath and block him. Don't even give it a second thought you deserve better. Flowers my friend in her early 50s found out her husband of many years was a cheat and liar (though she knew) she left him and her first internet boyfriend went all wrong too however her second is lovely and they got engaged. Don't give up hope.

AhNowTed · 04/01/2018 15:16

He was checking your response.

FFS how many more cheating lying bastards... they seem to be multiplying

StormTreader · 04/01/2018 15:17

I'm not surprised hes being nice, he wants to have a "cheer me up" sex session.

CardinalCat · 04/01/2018 15:17

he sounds like an absolute chancer. And who knows, maybe having had his interest piqued and then been let down, it has been a ROAD TO DAMASCUS revelation and he is cured of his wandering eye and he has realised how much he LOVES you, and only you OP. Even if that is the case- Boo. Fucking. Hoo. Too late for that, you festering prick!

Far more likely that he realised that he has better keep the bird in his hand warm, since the others were fleeing the bush. So to speak.

Eliza9917 · 04/01/2018 15:21

Fuck with his head, he deserves everything he gets.

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck · 04/01/2018 15:21

Bibbidee how do you change your WhatsApp photo? Xmas Confused

Anniethinggose · 04/01/2018 15:22

Sounds like his phone call was testing the waters and also an attempt to heal his bruised ego. He was hoping you would be equally gushing about him and what a great guy he is....

swingofthings · 04/01/2018 15:26

Indeed, testing the waters and praying that his gut feeling that it might be you was wrong. He now probably thinks he got away with murder! How you managed not to say anything, I don't know!

So what's the next step?

dustarr73 · 04/01/2018 15:28

He was being overly nice to get over the guilt.Cause maybe he thinks someone saw him.

But i dont think he knows its you,he would have to say something.

AdalindSchade · 04/01/2018 15:28

I reckon he was testing the water to see if you would talk to him and also reassuring his little ego that he still has you on the hook after being disappointed by catfish

Hissy · 04/01/2018 15:33

Oh I hope you are as good a liar as he is, I hope he utterly believed you, but tbh, it really doesnt matter.

he is a slug and won't be darkening your door again

Gravelface · 04/01/2018 15:33

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck

On your main WhatsApp screen, click on the vertical row of three dots at the top right of the screen.

Select Settings and click on the picture next to your name.

Select the little camera icon and go to Gallery to pick a new picture.

:-)

whiskyowl · 04/01/2018 15:34

My guess is

  • he suspects/fears it might have been you behind it
  • the call was to ascertain whether it was you
  • the "you're wonderful" is the reaction to being stood up by someone else. It will become "OMG she was amazing, what have I done" when he realises he has been dumped.
  • the niceness is a combination of guilt and actual acknowledgement ecause these scumbags actually capable of feeling both at the same time.

So sorry this has happened. You've handled it brilliantly, and with great spirit, but you must be upset, shocked, devastated. Please don't think all men are like this. They're not. There are plenty of wonderful and faithful ones out there. But a good percentage are cheats, and you've just been unfortunate in meeting a couple of those.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 04/01/2018 15:34

I think Annie has it. He's trying to salvage his ego Poor Ickle Wounded Soldier Grin

crackerjacket · 04/01/2018 15:34

I'd get back on POF and pretend to be a hottie gagging for him...

These men!!! Shock

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 15:36

Yes his call was def testing the waters and he was so relieved at the nice welcome he got from me, that he couldn't help himself gushing all the niceties.

He probably was suspicious but def isn't now. Anyway .... I won't be answering many more calls or texts as I slowly disengage. He won't have learnt his lesson but I can walk away with my head held high.

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swingofthings · 04/01/2018 15:38

The nicer he was, the more likely you were going to tell to 'stop the F...off because you know the truth', so that he then knew where he stood, which is what he would have wanted at this stage so good on you for going along with it because he will now be reassured and not see it coming when you finally tell him how it is.

AccidentallyRunToWindsor · 04/01/2018 15:38

I applaud you @RedTartanLass 👍🏻 sorry you went through this but it sounds like you have your head screwed on

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 15:38

Plus I may have to catfish once or twice again ..... so he'll never know if anyone is genuine online mwhahahahaa

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Gravelface · 04/01/2018 15:39

I personally rather enjoy the drama of a big dump..

swingofthings · 04/01/2018 15:39

By the way, I assume you are certain it was him because his picture was on the profile? Did he not ask you for a picture at any time? This is a bit unusual. Did you meet on POF too? If so, did you have your picture on your profile?

gunsandbanjos · 04/01/2018 15:40

I like a big dump too, very satisfying.

Weezol · 04/01/2018 15:43

Red Oscar nomination is in the post. Definitley ghost.

I would be very, very tempted to set up a one off Hotmail in the name of the catfish and send him a link to this thread at 10am Saturday morning. I wouldn't do it, but I'd be very tempted.

SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 04/01/2018 15:43

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BewareOfDragons · 04/01/2018 15:43

Almost tempting to string him along until he's supposed to pick you up to go the wedding next weekend. You can do it in sweat pants when he opens the door and are clearly not ready to go or be 'out' when he arrives to collect you and text him along the lines of, 'Sorry, you're dumped. I'm not going to a wedding with your cheating, lying ass. You can explain it to your relatives. Have fun!"