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To make my bf wait hours for his blind date

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 12:17

Ok so I've not been on here for years ...... but I'm raging. My bf has been behaving suspiciously so I checked online and right enough the wanker has a POF profile!

So I catfished him and we're meeting today at 12:30 ..... well he thinks we are ... I'm not turning up. Want to see how long I can make him wait!

If you're in Swindon feel free to give him a wave!!

Am I being unreasonable to make him wait a couple of hours. Will I be able to drag it out that long .....

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Kentnurse2015 · 04/01/2018 13:53

Apologies if I missed an answer. Getting my toddler to nap Confused

I think you should just come clean now though and get on with it. Not fair to yourself otherwise. You want to call it a day then just admit it and do it

Oldraver · 04/01/2018 13:54

No I dont think there is anyway he thinks it you.

But you dont know how long he has been doing POF and could of pissed someone else off...maybe he thinks someone is getting revenge.

gingergenius · 04/01/2018 13:54

I'd whatsapp him now saying - "hey babe just thought I'd take you for lunch - my treat - turned up at the gym but you weren't there! They said you haven't been in all day??? You ok Hun? X"

LexieLulu · 04/01/2018 13:55

LOVE this thread!!! Well done OP

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 04/01/2018 13:55

Red, I'd behave totally normaly so he doesn't think catfish was you. It would spoil it otherwise. Then after a few days of being normal either dump him or ghost him, whichever you feel would give him the biggest mindfuck. Let him think 2 women have rejected him.

fairgame84 · 04/01/2018 13:55

I'm really sorry he's such a twat OP. At least you found out sooner rather than later Flowers

gingergenius · 04/01/2018 13:55

I know we're enjoying the drama on your behalf OP but it really does suck. So sorry x

EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck · 04/01/2018 13:56

I second Justbreathing's post ginger Xmas Grin

babybubblescomingsoon · 04/01/2018 13:56

OP you have to tell him it was you! The only person who will look stupid is him! He will be embarrassed and feel stupid.

snash12 · 04/01/2018 13:56

I definitely don't think he knows it is you.

I'd just ghost him and never tell.

gingergenius · 04/01/2018 13:56

@EvilDoctorHogmanayDuck I'm multitasking!

TeaAndToast85 · 04/01/2018 13:56

Yep definitely don't dump him yet and blow your cover, give it a couple of days...but that could be horrible for you, so actually maybe just leave him without saying a word. He doesn't deserve any more of your time. Thanks

knowwhereyourheadis · 04/01/2018 13:58

Afraid to say I did this once too.

Found a lot of activity on the history of the PC (we shared, as living together). So when I was at work and he had a couple days off, I set up a fake profile, catfished him.

He told catfish me he was single, and I could confirm it was him as he gave catfish me his actual mobile number and a description of his car.
He arranged to meet catfish in a carpark of a local park and ride for a shag!

He told real me he had a call from the bank who needed him to bring paperwork in (he was sorting out remortgage at the time, hence he had time off - but the bank appointment was the next day).

He waited 2 long hours in a freezing cold car park for catfish me - I told him the car had broken down and I was waiting for the AA!

I didn't dump him there and then, but I slowly gathered more evidence, ensured it wasn't a one-off and hit him with everything I knew.

C0untDucku1a · 04/01/2018 13:58

Taken so long for me to reas im probably behind but i wouldnt be telling him who i was/

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 04/01/2018 13:58

I'd just ghost him and never tell.

Agree. I wouldn’t respond to any of his contact to you on WhatsApp or phone calls. Ignore. He’ll work it out eventually. You owe him nothing.

Mxyzptlk · 04/01/2018 13:58

Well done, TartanLass.
It's not your fault you mistook the creep for a decent human being.
Flowers

RemainOptimistic · 04/01/2018 13:58

Block him on whatsapp too, social media and anything else. Cut him off like a manky toenail!

You're my hero x

GreyMorning · 04/01/2018 14:00

What a cock! It will be interesting to see if he thinks it's you or someone else!

Is ignore him (as you) and see if he gets in touch.

Whowhatwhy · 04/01/2018 14:01

Just RTFT and wishing you well OP. You sound like a tough cookie who won't stand messing! Good for you!

lastnamefirstfirstnamelast · 04/01/2018 14:01

Men are Wankers.

MotherCupboard · 04/01/2018 14:03

I don't think he does know it's you I think he is trying to get you to confess it was a wind-up.

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 14:05

Ok I'm pretty sure he doesn't know it's me. So tonight I'll wjataops and ask how the gym was. We don't live together, he hasn't even met my kids yet. That was the next step!

We're meant to be seeing each other at the weekend and going to his fri nd's wedding next weekend..... obviously none of that is going to happen. I'll cancel Saturday then ghost him!

Fuck it that's all he deserves!

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TieGrr · 04/01/2018 14:05

Mess with his head. When you're chatting to him (as normal) later, tell him you were supposed to meet a friend for coffee and she never showed.

Tinty · 04/01/2018 14:06

Good for you Red, but don't tell him, just mess him around for a bit, then dump him. Start 2018 as you mean to go on, strong and proud, I am very impressed with your attitude towards this waste of space.
Flowers for you.

Justbreathing · 04/01/2018 14:07

well done op. and I'm sorry.

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