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Seeing someone and kissing

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 03/01/2018 23:35

First of all, sorry about the username Blush

Can I ask a personal-ish question?

When you started seeing your partner/DH/DW, how did you know when it felt right to kiss? Blush Did it just feel right? Was it straightaway or a few dates down the line? Blush

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LadyB49 · 03/01/2018 23:37

First date, kissed goodnight.

Birdsgottafly · 03/01/2018 23:43

I need a spark of physical attraction to be interested in someone, so it would be the first date, even if just a few kisses goodbye.

It's a very personal thing.

Mrsfluff · 03/01/2018 23:43

First date, we were snogging across the table about an hour after meeting Blush

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 03/01/2018 23:45

It is - completely agree, Birds. I just feel like waiting a bit. Don't feel ready yet. Did a peck on the cheek (on first date tonight), but not anything more.

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BuzzKillington · 03/01/2018 23:45

We had full on snog before we started dating 😉

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 03/01/2018 23:45

Wow Mrsfluff! 😂😂

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MsVestibule · 03/01/2018 23:47

First few dates - a kiss on the lips. Fifth date - proper snog.

TBH, I couldn't believe how slow things were moving!

SleepIsForTheWeek · 03/01/2018 23:48

I went for a first date last week and was totally up for a snog at the end of it before I'd even gone. But as the evening went on I went from "yup definitely up for a snog" to "run like hell".
Just do what feels right.

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 03/01/2018 23:50

Oh Christ sleep Shock what happened??

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OkPedro · 03/01/2018 23:51

First night I met exdp we kissed I fancied him a lot and then swapped numbers. For me personally if I fancy someone I would at least kiss on the lips on the first date. We're all different though..Did you fancy him daily ?

PaperdollCartoon · 03/01/2018 23:51

DP and I met through friends, I knew straight away I wanted to be near him. A couple of weeks after meeting he came back to mine (to sleep on my sofa as had had a few drinks) and I jumped him, for want of a better word. It just felt right. Never looked back. We never dated.

StrawberryFieldsWhenever · 03/01/2018 23:52

We were friends first.. I went round for a drink and a chat.. we hugged at one point and I knew I didn't want to let him go. There was a moment where we looked at each other, think he felt the same way, then the kiss just happened. It's 2 years on now and I still love kissing him.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 03/01/2018 23:54

We had a few drinks and then I snogged his face off on our first date. It got quite heated - we were so distracted that he had his wallet nicked off the table Grin Blush and then we went back to mine and slept together

I'd want to know if there was any chemistry there before getting too far down the line, and in this case there certainly was!

SleepIsForTheWeek · 03/01/2018 23:57

Daily it's too funny a story not to share but too outing so I will send you a PM. Just for perspective cos you seem to like this guy, amiright?

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 03/01/2018 23:58

Did you fancy him daily?

OkPedro, I did. We were both a bit nervous at the start, but relaxed into it :) I think I'd just prefer for things to be taken quite slowly, so just wanted to feel comfortable and not to rush into anything. I'd like to get to know him first.

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GrooovyLass · 04/01/2018 00:00

Snogged him the night I met him, just before I went home.

Went on a date the next weekend and snogged all evening.

Went to his for a cup of tea the day after that and I, erm, put his hand on my boob because it wasn't moving quick enough for me!

I've always been a bit of a goer...

TheGhostsOfPresidentsYetToCome · 04/01/2018 00:04

Goodbye snog on the first date. If I don’t fancy them there’s no chance of any kissing but i did and I wanted to see if there was a spark of attraction there. He said afterwards that he wasn’t expecting it so soon but I wanted to know.

Atkinson1910 · 04/01/2018 00:11

I snogged on the second date.

AnathemaPulsifer · 04/01/2018 00:12

If I definitely like them a peck on the lips at the end of the first date. If I think they have potential maybe a kiss on the cheek. If I’m really not keen an awkward wave as I back away.

If you’re not ready to kiss yet it shouldn’t be an issue, but be aware that he may take it as a sign of disinterest.

19lottie82 · 04/01/2018 00:12

If I didn’t want to snog someone after the first date then I don’t think I’d go on another!

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 04/01/2018 00:24

I just get quite nervous - that's all. It's no reflection on him at all - I did fancy him. We've set a provisional second date for a couple of weeks. I just get really nervous as I haven't actually kissed anyone before Blush (can't believe I'm admitting this). Just a bit nervous and scared.

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 04/01/2018 00:24

Daily Mail (or any newspaper), if you're sniffing around for stories on this thread, you can fuck off. You're twats.

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BoomBoomsCousin · 04/01/2018 00:34

First date (or, in my younger days, before the first date). I wouldn't really think of it as a date if we didn't kiss. It would just be a meal/movie/drink/whatever with a friend. But I haven't ever dated anyone I didn't know as a friend first, so that might make a difference.

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DailyMailFuckOffNow · 04/01/2018 00:35

Met them on Tinder BoomBoom.

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Stickystickstick · 04/01/2018 00:35

Spent an evening snogging in a pub before going on a date. Ten years and 2 kids later I’m still waiting for my first date.