Seeing someone and kissing

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First of all, sorry about the username

Can I ask a personal-ish question?

When you started seeing your partner/DH/DW, how did you know when it felt right to kiss? Did it just feel right? Was it straightaway or a few dates down the line?

Ah - things are so different now. We snogged first then went on a date. 20+ years ago - just out of Uni. We were "friends" Still together.

I'm not sure I've ever been on a proper date

It's a bit artificial tbh. The whole concept of Tinder and other dating sites is so weird!! It sounds so hypocritical to say, but I don't agree with it at all. I'm still amazed that it's so popular.

I think maybe I'm scared of intimacy and rejection but I don't want to admit that (eventually) to the person I'm seeing, because they'd probably run a mile, and because it's not fair at all for them to deal with that.

First date I snogged DH and more and we've been together ever since,best decision I ever made was to let him become more than just a friend.

Snogged him, then dated him.

I tend to think if they're a crap kisser, there's no point so you might as well go for a test drive.

My DH was an appalling first kisser. The first time he tried I thought he was about to collide with my face and dodged out of the way

First date a hug, second a kiss on the lips, third date a proper kiss if it feels right.

Ah ok daily you're dipping your toe into the world of online dating. Take your time. I'm scared shitless of intimacy 😩
For you

I wanted to snog the face off mine the minute I first saw him (OLD). Snogged the face (and most other bits of him) by the next morning, and two and a half years later am still snogging the face (and other bits) off him. I was well into my 40s with a marriage and a long term relationship behind me, and have never felt chemistry like it. Luckily, he feels the same!

I’m an older woman in my mid-60’s and so my ideas about first dates might be out of date, but here goes;

It was a blind date and he picked me up on time and took me out to dinner and then dancing. We kissed first on the dance floor, then back at the table, then in the car park, then in his car. Back at my place he spent the night and next day we had a nice day looking at waterfalls and feeding the ducks. 6 months later we got married and have been for 34 yrs.

Didn't kiss on the first date, or the second. Kissed and shagged on the third. Next month is our 12th wedding anniversary

We were talking then he just looked at me and kissed me. It was 20 years ago and felt like the most nirmal thing ever. Can’t imagine kissing anyone else now.

Kissed DP on the first date (and more ) a friend had set us up so we had been speaking for around a week and a half over text etc. We were very boozy and I apparently lunged at him but I think we both "knew" even before we met how things would go down.

I practically ran away from our first date. Had an appointment to get to & was running late. Didnt say a proper goodbye. I just got in my car & left.
I messaged him later apologising and the next day we had our first kiss.

If I’m really not keen an awkward wave as I back away

That made me laugh!

Started first date (after 6 years celibate) with a song and sex then went out to supper.

A snog not a song. I didn't serenade him. He's now very DH.

Wallywobbles - I love the idea of a song on the first date 😀

OP - first date with ExP from OLD we chatted for hours then a quick peck on the lips. Definite spark. Next date I stayed over and that was it. Now I’m single again at 49 and to be honest too anxious to do OLD again. Am hoping to meet Mr Perfect by chance, you know like it happens in romantic movies!

He was supposed to be a one night stand so there was no first date so snogged straight away six months later we got married two kids and 13 years later here we are .

I don't think it matters when the first kiss is, as long as it feels right. Although in saying that, when it's the first time, the nerves might be that overwhelming it may feel harder to go that bit further and actually kiss. Just go for it I say. If he's right for you he won't mind the nervousness. Plus he's bound to be nervous too!

I kissed my husband before we started dating! But then, I had a friendship group as a teen that was very into spin the bottle, so I'm a bit desensitised I reckon
It's natural to be nervous though, butterflies and all that!

My last first date we ended with a hug and I didn't want to let go so I knew there was something about this guy and it quickly led to a snog, which was amazing...when you know you know and it will happen