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To just fuck off and not come back? [Edited by MNHQ]

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TrinitySquirrel · 03/01/2018 22:52

Ok, not for good, but for several hours? And maybe eat a cake in my car by myself Grin

'D'H has forgotten it's my Birthday. Which tbh is very unusual. But this is my first Birthday as a Mum so not only has he forgotten but because of this and his always buying last minute, he's forgotten to get me a card (I just wanted a first card to 'Mummy' - we tried for our Son for over a decade), he forgot to get the theatre tickets he promised for months (I haven't had a birthday present - or Christmas - in years because we always have other stuff to get but this year we had enough) and he forgot he would cook so we ended up with a shitty meal out the freezer :'(

None of my friends remembered either. Happy Birthday to me Sad

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Snowman41 · 03/01/2018 23:23

Happy Birthday Thanks

mummmy2017 · 03/01/2018 23:24

Ask him for a redo for tomorrow

DoubleAces · 03/01/2018 23:25

Happy Birthday. I'm sure he will make it up to you.

StarWarsFanatic · 03/01/2018 23:26

Happy Birthday Flowers Cake Wine.

My birthday is also this week and while husband hasn't "forgotten" mine he did forget to buy me a Christmas card and hasn't had a chance to buy a birthday card and hasn't bought me a Birthday present and bought me something he knew I would hate for Christmas because MIL suggested it which I had to take back for a refund. And he forgot to buy the concert tickets I asked for as our anniversary present (just before Christmas).

Oh, and while reading my post aloud he asked 'Did I?' about the anniversary present and has just apologised. So I am 3/3 in less than 2 months and feel your pain and my DH now looks rather abashed.

longtompot · 03/01/2018 23:27

Thats bloody not fair! Bad enough he forgot on his behalf, but to forget on your babies behalf, esp after so long of trying for one, is just :( I really hope he makes it up to you, but in the meantime, go, eat cake, drink something yummy.

To just fuck off and not come back? [Edited by MNHQ]
ConciseandNice · 03/01/2018 23:27

Happy birthday!

I am so sorry that he forgot it. I am guilty of this as I never place much importance on birthdays. I hope that he'll make it up to you. I am sure he will. YANBU to go out, far away, for a few hours and eat lots of cake.

PostcodeJack · 03/01/2018 23:28

Happy birthday! Am singing Happy Birthday dear squirrel!

I feel for you. Did you remind him though? I take no chances and remind random strangers for ages before mine! I don't know how to sen
d cake or else I would. And flowers.

Xxx

KC225 · 03/01/2018 23:28

Happy Birthday. If he's a day behind, then surely that will all come tomorrow. I know its not quite the same but if he's usually very good.

PostcodeJack · 03/01/2018 23:31

Have just toasted you with cafe patron btw. It's birthday law.

stayathomegardener · 03/01/2018 23:33

Waves at virtual birthday twin.
To be fair the 3rd of January is a rubbish date for a birthday, everyone is back to work, broke and on diets.
At least your DH obviously just forget rather than chose not to celebrate.

I remember about 20 years ago staying at my Mums and everyone forgot, DH, my sister and Mum. That was bad. I made it quite clear how disappointed I was.
I'm assuming he will step up next year.

BulletFox · 03/01/2018 23:33

Happy birthday!
You have me craving cake and tea now

Weezol · 03/01/2018 23:35

He needs to make sure you have cake for breakfast tomorrow as a bare minimum. Is there a 24hr garage nearby you can send him to?

mehhh · 03/01/2018 23:45

Happy birthday!!! 🎉🎉 eat alllllll of the food and enjoy yourself!

(Another mummy who missed out on their first "mummy" birthday card back in October, it was literally the only thing I asked for-- DP made up for it at Christmas though so I have let him off the hook... guilt trip him and drop hints for him to make it up to you!)

2018SoFarSoGreat · 03/01/2018 23:48

such a shame, Trinity - and a very happy birthday to you!

Cake Glitterball Flowers

Why don't you give him a Do Over? Tell him to pick a day and try again. Just this once. Yoiu can have a very happy unbirthday instead. You deserve it.

Redact · 03/01/2018 23:54

Happy Birthday 🎂

Congratulations on your baby too. I hope your DH makes it up for you tomorrow. Better late than never! I also have a Jan birthday and have had this happen to me too

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 04/01/2018 00:04

Happy birthday!

In our house we have birthday eves and birthday boxing days. So hope he gets himself sorted to give you an awesome birthday Boxing Day CakeFlowersGin

Funkyferret · 04/01/2018 00:06

Happy birthday! Having also had a birthday this week, a significant one, my husband really was in danger of ending up under the patio. No card, but he managed gifts: something I have have several of and no need for more, two things which he actually wanted and I have no interest in, and something so aesthetically hideous that it has left me speechless. Slightly firm but calm words were had. He's got form for this and my "wow, I should be so grateful, anything else is grabby" pot of unicorn sparkles had run dry. He took it surprisingly well! Hope your DH makes it up to you!

Atkinson1910 · 04/01/2018 00:16

Happy Birthday to you! Men can be such twits at times! Mine forgot our 1st wedding anniversary even though he said on the wedding day that it was the best day of his life and he would remember it forever! MEN!!! Have yourself some lovely cake and forget his birthday when it comes around!!! Sending you love and hugs. x

Emily7708 · 04/01/2018 00:28

That is beyond shit. I can understand maybe forgetting one thing but not everything. I would be so upset and livid. I know you are putting a brave face on it but please make sure he knows that this is absolutely unacceptable and you won’t tolerate being forgotten again. Otherwise you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointing birthdays. You do matter and deserve a fuss so I hope he makes it up to you. Weird how your friends forgot too Sad.

MiddleClassProblem · 04/01/2018 00:30

Belated happy birthday! I’m so sorry this happened. First mummy birthday and all. Hope he can somehow make it up to you x

user1485778793 · 04/01/2018 00:36

Take his cr

user1485778793 · 04/01/2018 00:37

Take his credit card and book a spa day....or weekend away

DM74 · 04/01/2018 00:50

Happy Birthday for yesterday my lovely! Dx

InsomniacAnonymous · 04/01/2018 00:50

"Bad enough he forgot on his behalf, but to forget on your babies behalf, esp after so long of trying for one, is just Sad"

That makes no sense! How could he possibly remember the OP's birthday for one and not the other? He forgot! The OP said "He went whiter than white when he realised. He knows he's done wrong. I think he just thought he was a day behind.", so it was obviously not deliberate.

NeilPetark · 04/01/2018 08:24

So he’ll be making it up to you, yes?