Not to let DH see me naked anymore?

[ParisGellar]

We are usually a fairly happily naked family, changing clothes and things in front of each other, however I am now much more conscious of my body after having ds 2.7 and don't fancy parading it around anymore. Also DH usually insists we leave the door opens when using the bathroom for the toilet, shower, everything! AIBU to start to insist on some privacy?

Why does your husband insist you leave the bathroom door open? Does he not understand the word "privacy"
Frankly I would be very unhappy listening to my partner haveing a dump. Yuck !! That is gross.
Your not unreasonable to expect some privacy. Shut that bathroom door and keep your clothes on when and how you like

Why does he "insist" that you leave the door open when using the loo/showering? Very strange

No one gets to insist to see you naked. If you want the door shut to have a shower or go to the toilet then shut it. I give my 7 yo that level of body autonomy let alone my DH.

“Insisting” on leaving the bathroom door open?

What's he like generally? Insisting on leaving the bathroom door open is a red flag to me.

Insists?

Sorry what? Why would he insist on that?!

Cheeky fucker who made him boss?

Also DH usually insists we leave the door opens when using the bathroom for the toilet

WTF? He listens to/watches you poo???

That is seriously weird.

I would be very sad if my partner didn't feel comfortable being naked around me. I would rather she shut the bathroom door when she poos - I shut the door even if I'm alone in the house...

We're none of us as gorgeous as we used to be.... doesn't mean we don't want to be comfortable with intimacy

He's generally a bit of a control freak in fairness which makes me feel rebellious against him like a teen against a parent!

What else does he control? If you insist on closing the door, what do you think will happen?

Also DH usually insists we leave the door opens when using the bathroom for the toilet, shower, everything

That's terrible, OP. He has no right to insist on this, and I think this is abusive.

This is damaging to you and your son.

What would he do if you went for a poo and shut the door?

There's a woman at work who is perfectly happy being in the bathroom while her partner uses the loo & vice versa-personally I find it very strange, you needn't share fucking everything ffs.
He has no right to insist on anything, do as you wish.

I've insisted on it recently and he acts confused and like it's meant to be an insult to him. Not shouting or anything

That is the weirdest thing I've heard in a long time, why on earth does he insist you have the bathroom door open & why do you agree?! We don't have locks on the bathroom/toilet doors since having DD but we would never walk in the toilet when it's occupied & if the bathroom door is shut its assumed the occupant wants privacy & we don't go in

You have a right to shit in peace. Close the door and call him out on being a controlling weirdo if he kicks off.

As far as the naked thing - I wouldn't want to get naked in front of someone who watched me drop a deuce on the regular so YANBU.

So really.. Pooing with the door open? I thought you were saying 'insists' as a turn of phrase, not that he actually pushes for the door to be open. Tbf, Op you might want to mention that you'd prefer him to poo in peace as well :)

So if you are in the bath or on the loo you have to have the door open? Why?

I couldn’t do it. Have been with DH for 20 yrs & he still doesn’t know I poo, or fart. I definitely feel more self conscious naked these days. I can manage it better while horizontal!

Insisting that the loo door is open is not normal OP. You are a grown woman in your own house and entitled to privacy.

I was going to come on with some body confidence talk but not being allowed to pee in peace is weird. My 5 year old likes privacy to go to the toilet and get changed I can't imagine not allowing anyone to have it. Gives me the chills.

The loo thing is weird. If you only have one bathroom, I wouldn't have an issue with leaving the door unlocked in case anyone was desperate while I was in the bath/shower but otherwise not. I can't pee if I think someone is listening never mind fecking watching!

I have no issue with accidental/routine nakedness in front of DH if I'm getting dressed or dried as he comes into the room. Not in front of DSs since they got to school age. I wouldn't however parade about in the nip for ogling but have no issue with naked sex in the light.

I think there is a balance. And OP a post baby body is nothing to be ashamed of.