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AIBU paying for cancelled holiday

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Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 11:42

We had booked as a group(6) to go on holiday paying a deposit. The deposit for the group was £1200.

My friend and her partner have split up and he thinks everyone should lose their money. She thinks they should pay £1200.

It is a lot of money to lose but we no longer want to go if they aren’t. I am not sure whether I should just let my £200 go. Well £400 for myself and partner.

Who is BU?
Also have you lost any money on holidays ? It seems that some things are beyond insurance control.

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GreatDuckCookery6211 · 02/01/2018 16:17

The other couple should stump up your deposit imo.

ReanimatedSGB · 02/01/2018 16:19

It sounds like you are all wringing your hands and whining but not doing anything. How about you contact the travel agent or booking company, and find out what the options are (no need to give them gory details about your tiresome friends' tiresome relationship issues, just say that it looks like one of the party will have to drop out of the trip). Then, when you know what the possibilities are, let the rest of the group know and see what the majority preference is.

Though I appreciate that the idea of going on holiday with a couple who are 'working on their relationship' could be pretty grim if it's a villa miles from anywhere: you, your DP and the other couple won't have much fun if you are expected to act as unpaid relationship therapists for the whole trip, with one or other of the couple whining and crying, trying to cop off with the locals, sulking or throwing things... it might be best to bin the problem couple from the trip and find someone else (couple 3 might know two people who would come along.)

worridmum · 02/01/2018 16:20

The other couple are not stopping you guys going on holiday its just that you dont want to go without them.

The holiday is still there.

Hissy · 02/01/2018 16:20

Why would you take a hit? and if you are this daft, why not send me a cheque for £400 too while you are at it!

I agree with SGB

PerfumeIsAMessage · 02/01/2018 16:24

You may find it's not that easy to cancel either, depending on the company. Also if it was a "low deposit" (which £200 x person may be) even if you cancel now, you may be liable to pay the rest of the deposit. Check the t/c very thoroughly. Thomson for example have you pay like this.

MiddleClassProblem · 02/01/2018 16:35

This is so frustrating. Especially if my July they’re “stronger than ever”.

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Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 17:11

We are going to meet tomorrow to drop discuss the options.

I knew I should of just stuck to going away with my oh. I am usually precious about my child free time.

As it stands the other couple want to pull out of the whole thing. They would rather lose £400 than waste 2k plus on a trip with people they don’t really know.

Maybe I can convince them to go but have separate days out etc.

Thanks all for the ideas

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whoareyou123 · 02/01/2018 17:54

The holiday is still there.

Is it still there though at the original cost? I assume the cost was based on splitting the cost of the villa by 6 rather than 4.

MiddleClassProblem · 02/01/2018 17:57

Its difficult but you and DH could have a fab holiday for £1600.

Are the “splitting” couple coming to the meet up?

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Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 18:38

Is difficult but you and DH could have a fab holiday for £1600.

Very true! It is looking more and more appealing at the moment. I hate relying on other people.

No they aren’t coming they are understandably struggling.

It is just the waste of £400. I know I got an eye roll for saying I wish I blew it on champagne. My point was I would rather waste on frivolity than waste it on nothing.

An expensive lesson.

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Original poster
Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 18:42

I will investigate more myself tomorrow but it seems we either cancel and lose £400.

Or pay the difference on the villa. No exact cost yet but probably more than the £400 I would lose.

Sigh.

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Viviennemary · 02/01/2018 18:49

Contact the travel agent and see where you stand. It's a bit odd that nobody can go on holiday because one person drops out. It would still be worth it to pay the extra. Surely the villa rental won't be extra for less people. It will be the cancelled flights you lose out on. How annoying. I refuse to go on holiday with anyone else because of this unreliability factor.

paniconthestreetsofdreams · 02/01/2018 19:06

It is just the waste of £400. I know I got an eye roll for saying I wish I blew it on champagne. My point was I would rather waste on frivolity than waste it on nothing.

I take back the eye roll. I kinda knew what you meant and was being grumpy Blush sorry Cake

Original poster
Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 19:11

I take back the eye roll. I kinda knew what you meant and was being grumpy blush sorry cake

Now £400 of cake that would be nice Smile

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Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 19:12

Surely the villa rental won't be extra for less people. It will be the cancelled flights you lose out on.

It will not be extra but we would have to pay for their share of it.

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StickThatInYourPipe · 02/01/2018 19:17

This is why I never book group holidays. If going away with friends, everyone books their own individual travel / accommodation. If someone backs out, it doesn’t effect you.

Plus avoids holiday cottages! Hotel rooms all round so even if one drops out and the other still goes, you won’t be stuck living with people you don’t know too well.

Personally I wouldn’t ask for the deposit back from the couple who have just split up, nor would I expect it or accept it.

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Tinkerbec · 02/01/2018 19:24

Never again. I feel bad enough when I go away without my daughter ( she goes away with her dad)

I just hope we don’t have to pay anymore like some people have when it is advertised as a ‘ low deposit ‘.

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yrhengi · 03/01/2018 10:12

Between the warring break-uppers and the other couple who've more or less said immediately that there's no way they're holidaying with you alone, it sounds like a Mike Leigh film in the making... if the holiday somehow still goes ahead because no one wants to take the £400 hit. [popcorn emoji]

Bananacakerocks · 03/01/2018 17:47

Some "friends"!!!

They're being very unreasonable about this. If they're cancelling the holiday, they should give you your £400 back that you're losing from the deposit!

Who knows, they might be together again and all's rosy come July and you would have paid £400 for them to have a tiff!

I'm with the other couple and would be furious about it too!

Never ever book a holiday with these plebs again OP

FluffyWuffy100 · 03/01/2018 18:00

If they are canceling the holiday - they oew everyone the deposit.

If you can all still go on the holiday then either the man or the woman still comes and either brings a mate or or pays extra since they get a spare room.

Or, you bin them BOTH off and get another couple to come.

PyongyangKipperbang · 03/01/2018 18:03

The cancelling couple should pay, they are causing all of this, they should pay. Is the male of the couple always this much of a selfish asshole? If so tell the woman to not bother trying to work it out with him.

19lottie82 · 03/01/2018 18:08

If they are canceling the holiday - they
owe everyone the deposit.

Of course they don’t. The other couples can still go, they just don’t want to.

rothbury · 03/01/2018 18:19

Why doesn't your friend still come and bring a mate? Then you still have six people.

July is ages away - she could have a new partner by then Grin

Aragog · 03/01/2018 18:25

But I can understand why the OP is not sure about going, and likewise the other couple. They don't really know each other. They are just friends of friends with each other. The splitting couple were the friends in the middle. Not sure I'd be keen on going away and staying in a villa together with a couple we didn't really know, without the common denominator friend there too.

I can see also why neither of the two split couples want to go away too - constant reminder on the holiday that they have split and all that.

Pinklady1982 · 03/01/2018 18:33

How didn’t it go today op? I work for a villa company, and you would be able to change villa usually to something smaller maybe? It’s the flights that are tricky, and you def won’t get out of your deposit I’m afraid, but worth speaking to them to see if just the 2 of you can amend the holiday? Good luck x

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