Declining a wedding invite because I'm being a mardy arse

[GrumpyOldBagFace]

AIBU to decline a wedding invite to an old old friend's wedding because I don't give a shit about her nuptials since she hasn't bothered to meet either of my children?

Backstory: she's a old friend and she was one of my bridesmaids 15 years ago. We moved overseas and made every effort to visit her whenever we were in the uk. Had my first child 2 years ago, prem and poorly, moved back to the uk 1 year ago, second child born 6 months ago. She hasn't bothered to see us once since we moved back. If there's any contact it's me initiating. Wedding invite drops through the letter box and a Facebook group to organise the hen do.

I'm not going to a wedding where I don't care about either the bride or groom but is it unreasonable for me to feel like this?

Grumpy - don't regret the times spent with friends over the years. They were your friends, they wanted to spend time with you, and unless you had an awful time whilst doing it then it was time well-spent.

Just focus on what you want to do from here on. You can guarantee your friends won't have realised how hard a time you were having when you moved back. Sometimes a friendship can move past these things and sometimes they can't and that depends on the individual friendship because each friendship has a different dynamic.

If you miss this friendship, then you could try being honest with your friend. If you don't, find an excuse and then say you are very sorry but you can't make it but you'd love to buy her dinner and hear all about it next time she visits. Then leave it with her.

You moved away and don't seem to understand the impact that had. Friends will have moved on and settled in with their own evolving lives etc.

Rather than being bitter that they dared do that, focus on making new friends and either go or don't to the wedding. It's an invite not a summons and given how you talk about them declining would seem to be the only option.