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To leave dh and ds on NYE?

73 replies

yippyyappy · 31/12/2017 14:51

So after my thread yesterday about what to do NYE ds has come down with the vomiting bug dh and I had earlier in the week. AngrySad

We were meant to go to a party, obviously we can't take ds even if he perks up as he'll be contagious and we unlike the stupid, stupid cunts that gave it to us don't want to get everyone else sick.

Dh has said why don't I go alone. It would mean me staying over as we live too remotely to get home. So dh would stay home with ds.

Am I being a selfish cow to consider it? We don't see friends very often and I've been looking forward to it for weeks. I bought an outfit and everything. As i said, we live remotely so I rarely get to go out, the last party I went to was last bloody NYE.

Dh never really wanted to that much, it's more that he'd be home alone. But the last few NYE he's been in bed by 12 anyway.

I do know that his parents would think I'm the antichrist if i went away. I've only spent one night away since ds was born (he's 4) and I got so much HmmHmmHmm for that.

And will our friends all think I'm a massive evil cow? I can hardly tell them dh didn't really want to come in the first place. Grin

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StealthPolarBear · 31/12/2017 14:52

Of course not! I thought you meant leave leave and that this would be a sad thread

OuchLegoHurts · 31/12/2017 14:53

Go! Can't believe your in laws think badly of you for going out ONCE in four years. What kind of life do they expect you to have? You know that's not normal, right?

HariboBrenshnio · 31/12/2017 14:53

Your totally overthinking this. DS is poorly, DH has volunteered to stay in with him. Enjoy your evening! I would go and I have the same age DS.

StealthPolarBear · 31/12/2017 14:54

And tbh if I was your dh I'd relish a night in alone.
Unless your ds is likely to be actively vomiting and difficult to handle. Then I'd appreciate help. But if ds just needs a cuddle and a good sleep it wouldn't bother me at all. Nye is just a day.

Rossigigi · 31/12/2017 14:54

Go and enjoy yourself!!

PurpleWithRed · 31/12/2017 14:55

Good grief, do go - and have a fantastic time. Your IL are nuts.

yippyyappy · 31/12/2017 14:55

Fucking hell no! I can barely get out for a bloody coffee let alone leave them!

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Charley50 · 31/12/2017 14:56

Omfg! Just go! Can't believe you are asking. You are two different people. You can go on your own! And what the fuck have your in-laws got to do with it?

MrsJayy · 31/12/2017 14:57

You might still be carrying the virus I dont want to be a party pooper or anything but do youreally want to infect half a party?

Charley50 · 31/12/2017 14:57

Sorry to be harsh. I'm in a bad mood.

Sandsnake · 31/12/2017 14:57

Go! Absolutely go! Be honest with your friends (to a point) - 'DH knew how excited I was about the party that he volunteered to be the one to stay in'. I'm sure your friends will simply be pleased that you enjoy their company so much. Have fun!

yippyyappy · 31/12/2017 14:58

I am worried about what people will think on the contagion front though. I last threw up Thursday morning so don't think I'd be contagious? I wouldn't want to give it to everyone for the new year, that wouldn't make me very popular!

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BrownTurkey · 31/12/2017 14:58

Go and enjoy. Don't mention the v word though or everyone will feel anxious or repulsed.

MrsJayy · 31/12/2017 15:00

Just it took 10 days to get frommy mum to me via a few others

gingerbread88 · 31/12/2017 15:01

I would go and go guilt free, put my new outfit on, let loose and have some drinks and drive home in the morning.
Sod what the in laws may think - why would they find out anyway?
Go and have fun, life is for living and enjoying. Happy New Year!

Andrewofgg · 31/12/2017 15:02

Go for it and enjoy!

yippyyappy · 31/12/2017 15:04

The inlaws unfortunately live next door.

@MrsJayy If it was via others though you the 10 day thing wouldn't have stood though?

I thought it was 48 hours from your last bout of vomiting?

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MrsJayy · 31/12/2017 15:08

If you think you will be fine if it is 48 hrs just go have a nice night and meh to the inlaws .

yippyyappy · 31/12/2017 15:11

No one will be kissing me at midnight that for sure!

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speakout · 31/12/2017 15:16

I wouldn't go.

Just my opinion.

speakout · 31/12/2017 15:17

I suspect if you were a man and asked the same question you would get a different response.

FoggieFishieCarpeDiem · 31/12/2017 15:18

thisnis a much less serious / sad thread than I orginially anticipated.

Enjoy your evening. DH volunteered.

ElephantsandTigers · 31/12/2017 15:18

You're an adult. Your inlaws don't get to tell you what to do.

I'm in a bad mood too. DS going out which means no early to bed.

CuriousaboutSamphire · 31/12/2017 15:18

If your DH is happy and you are feeling stir crazy then go!

Your ILs will have to be placated by their son and your friends will all understand, probably make sure you have a whale of a time Smile

Have fun!

ForalltheSaints · 31/12/2017 15:19

DH has suggested it. And he was not keen on going. So you should have no guilt at all if you go.

Just say DS is unwell, not reasons why.

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