To leave dh and ds on NYE?

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So after my thread yesterday about what to do NYE ds has come down with the vomiting bug dh and I had earlier in the week.

We were meant to go to a party, obviously we can't take ds even if he perks up as he'll be contagious and we unlike the stupid, stupid cunts that gave it to us don't want to get everyone else sick.

Dh has said why don't I go alone. It would mean me staying over as we live too remotely to get home. So dh would stay home with ds.

Am I being a selfish cow to consider it? We don't see friends very often and I've been looking forward to it for weeks. I bought an outfit and everything. As i said, we live remotely so I rarely get to go out, the last party I went to was last bloody NYE.

Dh never really wanted to that much, it's more that he'd be home alone. But the last few NYE he's been in bed by 12 anyway.

I do know that his parents would think I'm the antichrist if i went away. I've only spent one night away since ds was born (he's 4) and I got so much for that.

And will our friends all think I'm a massive evil cow? I can hardly tell them dh didn't really want to come in the first place.

Pfft, a few vodka tonics will kill any lingering bugs still floating around your system.

That's science, that is.

Go and enjoy yourself for goodness sake - and if your IL's decide to comment just go over the top gushing about the superhuman son they have raised being able to look after his own child for a night.

Go and have fun! Silly in-laws. Wash your hands thoroughly after leaving the house.

Go as long as you don't think you are carrying a bug. Your Dh has said it is ok to go so go.

You'll be fine. Even our local hospital only restrict visitors for 48 hours. As someone who is still quite emetophobic, if I think it's ok, it's probably fine!

You’re overthinking it. Call a taxi and go and put your make up on.

It’s NYE. At least half the party guests will be vomiting tomorrow whether you go or not.

Have a good time!

I should think you are fine. Just don't mention you being ill.
I always get it in the neck from my mother if I manage to do anything without DH and kids. Because she's have never left me with my dad

I asked dh for the 1537th time what he thought and he told me to shut the hell up and leave him alone or he'd walk out for the night.

Omg. I'm going to a NYE party ON MY OWN!

My Mum? Oh she'll LOVE this. It'll be another stick to beat me with for at least the next 6 months. Just last week she told me I was at risk of dh leaving me because I've put on weight. (Because I'd had a bad break in my leg and was off my feet completely for 3 months.)

Yay!!! Go get those glad rags on.

Enjoy yourself!

If your husband is happy for you to go, then go for it! Party time!

Go, have fun....just avoid licking anyone's face, food or glass and all should be well.

Go and have fun op . Your mother sounds a right nasty cow 🐮

Do whatever but your in laws being scornful should have no bearing on your decision.

Clearly your DH doesn't mind so I'd go, in fact I'd do the same for my DP as he'd be the one who'd like to go.

I can't imagine you'd pass the virus as you won't share food/ drink or kiss anyone.

Go, there’s no point in you both missing out! Just remember it and next time so thing like this happens you be the one to stay home. Have a lovely time x

After reading back through the thread definitely GO. Then at midnight make a pack to stand the fuck up for yourself and tell both your mum and in laws to either treat you with a bit of respect of get out of your life. Go 2018.

Jengnr This made me LOL

It’s NYE. At least half the party guests will be vomiting tomorrow whether you go or not.

But would you all be annoyed if someone who last threw up Thursday morning came to your party?

If it was Thursday night, yes. Sunday night? Fine.

Go. And I say this as someone who rarely goes anywhere without my DC and is always a bit at some of the threads on here saying it's fine to leave toddlers with grandparents for a fortnight. Come home in the morning. It's win win, to be honest. You want to go and get to go. Your DH doesn't want to go, doesn't have to go and gets all sorts of brownie points for facilitating your going.

Have a great time!

If you were last sick Thursday you are outside the 48 hour rule. Go for it. If anyone suggests you are unreasonable then that's them having a martyr complex.

Your DS can't go. Your DH isn't bothered and is happy to take on babysitting duties. You want to go.

There are zero reasons for you not to go.

OP please say your new years resolution is to start telling horrible family members to go fuck themselves more often?

It will be most liberating for you.

By the way, I think if you last threw up on Thursday morning then you're fine to mingle tonight, especially as you feel fine.
Don't over-think it, just go and enjoy yourself

Definitely go.

Had been male though OP, you'd have been called every name under the sun for even suggesting going out. And had you come on saying you'd given the ok for your DH to go out tonight, you'd have been advised to pack bags, change locks and get your ducks in a row!

So bloody enjoy it and have a drink for your DH too.