To leave dh and ds on NYE?

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So after my thread yesterday about what to do NYE ds has come down with the vomiting bug dh and I had earlier in the week.

We were meant to go to a party, obviously we can't take ds even if he perks up as he'll be contagious and we unlike the stupid, stupid cunts that gave it to us don't want to get everyone else sick.

Dh has said why don't I go alone. It would mean me staying over as we live too remotely to get home. So dh would stay home with ds.

Am I being a selfish cow to consider it? We don't see friends very often and I've been looking forward to it for weeks. I bought an outfit and everything. As i said, we live remotely so I rarely get to go out, the last party I went to was last bloody NYE.

Dh never really wanted to that much, it's more that he'd be home alone. But the last few NYE he's been in bed by 12 anyway.

I do know that his parents would think I'm the antichrist if i went away. I've only spent one night away since ds was born (he's 4) and I got so much for that.

And will our friends all think I'm a massive evil cow? I can hardly tell them dh didn't really want to come in the first place.

Go amd have fun!And worry less what your ILs think.You aren't married to them!Enjoy!

If your Dh doesn't mind then why are you even doubting it? Of course you must go.

Go, I hate nye so would gladly use DS illness as an excuse to stay home, your DH probably feels the same but knows you really want to go, everyone is a winner if he stays and you go.

Go enjoy yourself. I went to dh brothers birthday party and took the kids home at 1030 dh on the other hand stated on which I told him I didn’t mind at all and literally fell in the front door at 2.30 this morning 🙈. His sister had to walk him n8me thankfully she only lives round the corner. Just because I was tired and wanted to get the kids home didn’tmean he shouldn’t enjoy himself.

And perhaps stay at your original friends if you don't have to leave at 6 - unless that complicates things further.

Go and enjoy yourself, stuff what other people think of you.

Go and enjoy! See your friends!

And if your inlaws say anything snotty or snide, tell them to nip it or you will move the grandchildren far, far away from them.

Not really. But oh I'd so want to if they felt it was ok to judge me like that!

If you want to go, go! The in-laws can fuck off.

Go go go! As someone who will be nearly 36 weeks so will be tucked in by midnight with a shot of gaviscon the most hardcore thing l will be drinking all night, you must enjoy the party on this random stranger off the internet's behalf.

And yes your DH volunteered. Who care what the in laws say. And if they do say anything DH should tell them to sod off!

Enjoy

Of course you should go. You’ll be wishing you had probably if your bloke goes to bed and you see it in alone. Just do it and have fun!

Go, go, go........

Is the ILs that you're worried about?

Husband didn't want to go, doesn't mind if you do.

Computer says-why are you even asking?

You should go.

Your DH doesn't mind.

And you really want to.

Go!

Go! Definitely go! Sod the ILs, they are v weird.

But would you all be annoyed if someone who last threw up Thursday morning came to your party? I'm sure I'm over it and pretty sure the contagion period is 48 hours.....

No problem leaving DH and DS at all. Why shouldn't you?
But... my DC's family all had the bug and it was 4 clear days since the last one of them finished vomiting when they came to visit us. We went down with it within 48 hours. So the 48 hours clear didn't work in our case.

just go and have fun!

Oh fuck. That's what i feared. Fml fml fml.

unlike the stupid, stupid cunts that gave it to us

Nothing like you then.

Go! Have fun!

The last NYE I was out for was 2013, and it was less fun as my friends - who had 12 of us there for dinner - had clearly had a row and weren’t speaking to each other (one actually went off to the pub at about 11:45).

DH is always out for NYE as he’s a muso and gigs. Until recent years, I stayed home with dd. Now she goes off on NYE too, but these days I’m too knackered by evening to go out alone. This year dh’s gig was cancelled, and it only took me saying “Oh, we can spend the evening together” to have him desperately phoning round trying to find a gig......

@speakout I found out one of their kids had finished vomiting just that morning.

A bit different to almost four days later. Plus being in someone's house where they've actually been vomiting is way higher a risk.

And the official advice for schools around here is after 48 hours from the last vomit to return to school. I will be 84 by the time I see people.

GO! Have fun!! Thursday morning will be 3 and a half days ago! People have just as much chance of getting germs from someone in the supermarket or the street, you can't stay in isolation forever! Go and wear your new outfit!

IF you've been careful, I would still go.

I've managed to contain the vomiting bug almost every time we've had it in the house, as in it didn't pass from child to child and I didn't catch it either. It can be done.

I wouldn't go solely because I would fear infecting people, 48 hour rule is not rock solid safe and also you may be carrying germs from DS although if you wash hands, face, wipe handbag etc after saying goodbye to him it might be ok. I am a bit too much of a worrier re that though maybe.

No other reason not to go so if most people think infecting others not possible go for it! If in laws are unreasonable that is their problem.

Go!!!
Go go go.