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DH dreamed we divorced

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Boxhike · 31/12/2017 09:28

DH told me last night about the really vivid dream he had the previous night, I thought it was going to be some normal dream.
He said he dreamt we had divorced and he was due to re-marry someone else but that fell through so rather than cancel that wedding he decided we should re-marry, he suddenly felt guilty in his dream because it meant his family would have to travel and make an effort to come to our wedding again.
I was a bit shocked this was going through his head as we have been having a few issues. We watched an episode of the crown and I went straight to bed as I just didn't like hearing that dream being told so casually. Am I over reacting?

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kaytee87 · 31/12/2017 09:29

Yes, you're over reacting. It's only a dream and the fact he's telling you about it means he doesn't see any significance in it. Also in the end he married you again so that's a good outcome is it not?

Namechangetempissue · 31/12/2017 09:30

Yes you are. I've dreamed crazy stuff over the years, including DH having an affair with a triceratops and me running off with Matt Damon as Jason Bourne. Its nothing..

AlonsosLeftPinky · 31/12/2017 09:30

Yes you're massively overreacting.

IntoTheFloodAgain · 31/12/2017 09:31

You are overreacting yes

Chienrouge · 31/12/2017 09:31

Yes you’re overreacting. I dream all sorts of random things. I have sex dreams about people I wouldn’t look twice at! I dreamt DH died and I married his best friend once Blush

keepfingerscrossed · 31/12/2017 09:32

Yes you are over reacting.

But I can see why you're sensitive if you're having problems within the marriage. The fact your husband said anything, and casually too, suggests he sees nothing in it though so I wouldn't worry.

keepfingerscrossed · 31/12/2017 09:32

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CycleHire · 31/12/2017 09:32

It’s just a dream. People dream about all sorts. If you think he’s trying to start a conversation about your marriage you could ask him that neutrally - ‘do you think it means you’re worried about our marriage’. But if he was just ‘hey aren’t dreams weird?!’ then I wouldn’t worry about it.

realwoodlogs · 31/12/2017 09:33

Definitely over reacting.

I’m very happily married, yet have cheated on mynysband so many times in my dreams. We’ve also split up countless times too. I’ve also been with other people and had affairs with him.

It means nothing.

genuineidiot · 31/12/2017 09:34

Yes, overreacting. Dreams don't always mean what they may appear to.

Kolonya · 31/12/2017 09:35

Yes, big time. I've had the same dream too! Don't worry about it.

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Boxhike · 31/12/2017 09:36

Thank you, think I'm massively PMT and needed some mumsnet perspective.
Our son doesn't sleep and that combined with terrible sickness throughout the family all winter has not helped the bickering.
The triceratops comment made me lol!

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millionsofpeaches · 31/12/2017 09:37

I dreamt last night I had going to take heroine! It was just a dream, doesn't mean anything and I'm definitely not going to start taking class As!

ShirleyPhallus · 31/12/2017 09:38

Over reacting.

I dreamt I took ecstasy with my parents last night then we climbed over a rickety old bridge and then I matched with Tom Hardy on Tinder but he didn’t reply to my message

I doubt this is a reflection of my real life. Sadly.

C0untDucku1a · 31/12/2017 09:39

My husband had an affair in my dream a few weeks ago. I told him when i woke up and he refused to apologise. Bastard. Grin

Of course youre over-reacting. But what about dealing with the issues in your marriage instead. What are the issues?

Dahlietta · 31/12/2017 10:28

I dream my husband leaves me all the time. He's really horrible to me in these dreams too. He does apologise though when I tell him in the morning Grin.

BahBumHug · 31/12/2017 10:42

I dreamt I was scuba diving with Jamie Redknapp, he kept ‘helping’ me in the water, putting his arms around me and holding me up. Very attentive IYSWIM. If only dreams could be real sometimes Wink

Whitney168 · 31/12/2017 10:44

I dreamt last night that my MIL fell out with me because I hadn't brought round her cat food in time and she'd run out.

a) She died earlier this year
b) She never had a cat anyway!

DarthLipgloss · 31/12/2017 16:51

I have extremely detailed dull af dreams.
Last night I dreamt I was grating a big bowl of gruyere cheese. I would prefer a bit of dream drama tbh :)

MimsyFluff · 31/12/2017 18:42

I've had several dreams where DH has cheated too and he turns into a complete arse. It's takes me a while to forgive him the wanker. I much prefer the GOT and WD dreams

gunsandbanjos · 31/12/2017 18:45

I dreamt my uncle hunted down and murdered my aunt. He hasn’t to date...

Floellabumbags · 31/12/2017 18:46

Am I over reacting?

Enormously.

SheepyFun · 31/12/2017 18:50

I regularly dream that I'm not married - DH has either died, is just a friend, or goes off with someone else. I would say we're happily married (and I don't tell DH about the dreams). I think it's more my brain playing through my worst fears than something that's particularly likely to happen.

x2boys · 31/12/2017 18:57

I had a dream last night that I was following dh, sister around asda and we sorted out our differences ,she died nearly three years ago its just a dream!

scottishdiem · 31/12/2017 18:58

This kind of reaction helps feed the stereotype that women are irrational and emotional over nothing. Well done.

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