That my husbands ex keeps contacting him?

[JustVent]

They weee together 19 years ago, I met him 18 years ago when I was 17, and been together ever since. They were together for a year.

She calls him randomly despite never meeting since they met, when she is pregnant. Random times that ‘remind her of him’. Tonight because she is in the area and her husband isn’t.

She is married with kids. He is married to me with kids.

She contacts him once a year to meet up? He never had. It’s always in front of me, he always says no, I trust him

Why does she keep trying?

It’s fucking weird.

If his handset can't block a number then his network provider can do it.

What did you say in your message to her?

I asked her outright why she was calling my husband. I told her it reeked of desperation, still calling after 18 years.

Stupid bitch. And it’s really pissed me off that he was so fucking delighted to have heard from her.

If you're not friends with her she might not see your message, probably have to add her in messenger.
Your dh Just sounds like a wanker tbh.

The reason she was calling was to meet up. She wanted to see him last night and he said no.

Did I post that bit already? I can’t remember what I’ve said.

So why is your dh even answering? I highly doubt that this women has been contacting your husband for 18 years with absolutely no encouragement from him. He must have met her.

Well I’m sure she will delight in telling me once she gets my Facebook message.

She lives 200 miles from us so it can’t be that easy for them to meet up.

She just happened to be visiting a friend, apparently.

You sound so immature OP ‘stupid bitch’ and going on about her FB pics.

I don’t for one minute believe your husband hasn’t met up with her or hasn’t contacted her in this time .. there would be no reason for her to keep him in her life.

He could always you know not answer the phone?

So old friends, who live miles apart, keep in touch on a sporadic basis and one is passing where the other lives.

All he needed to do was say yes of course, but I’ll be bringing Just with me. You could’ve acted like a grown up, then all the heat would’ve been taken out of the situation.

Instead, you’ve called his old friend desperate and made yourself look deranged (which I’m sure you’re not).

Blimey, OP is getting a hard time here.

I don't think she looks deranged.

YANBU OP, it is your DH who is BU.

He's getting off on the fact that the situation is making you feel upset and insecure.

It's a double whammy for him - ego boost that Ex GF craves his attention, and you feeling all insecure as a direct result.

It is a bit undignified that you've contacted her, though, but you've only done that because your dick of a DH is playing games. I'm sure he'll be outwardly aghast but inwardly delighted that you've done that - another stroke for his ego!

He's a puppet master. Sadly I think there's more to come - I second everyone who says that it's likely that he has been contacting her without your knowledge, possibly even meeting up. It's very unlikely that this has been a one-sided situation for so many years.

You sound like you are drunk! You have absolutely no right to have sent that message and you've made yourself look like an immature idiot.

God this is nothing compared to what DP's exW has done. I had 4 years of her bunny boiling and trying to make our lives hell.

You have made the situation worse by sending that message and bringing this shit into 2018.

He was delighted to hear from her so what's your problem? Do you not trust him? He's happy hearing from a friend, they're not meeting up so he's not cheating, I really don't see what's your issue here. You seem to be the slightly deranged, desperate one here.... And sending her a message... Can't think your poor DH will be too happy with it... If she does want him back (which seems unlikely) you have played into her hand really...