Dp and pictures of women

[Elizanotlittle]

Would it bother you if your partner got off over images of p3 women?

It's not a porn debate as such as that is more to do with ethics. But p3 or pictures of scantily clad celebrities.

Some of my friends say it doesn't bother them. Others it would.

It would me. AIBU?
Are there any other ways of looking at this.

Nobody?

Nope. That wouldn’t bother me at all.

But there will be lots of people that it does bother.

Is he wanking over them? Or needing them to shag?

If its the first one, I think that’s fine. If it’s the latter that’s not ok.

If it’s the former then would you prefer him not to wank? Or wank and use his imagination?

You don’t have to answer any of this of course.

I would bother me deep down as I’m very insecure about my body. But I also know that’s my own issues so I try to keep them to myself when in relationships. If my OH was having an occasional wank over pictures of page 3 girls then I’d try and just let it go. It’s very rare to find a man who will never, ever get remotely aroused by looking at images of topless models. I also know it’s hypocritical to get annoyed as I’ve occasionally had sexual fantasies about male celebrities

I honestly don't know what I would prefer.

Wanking in his mind over Sue from the corner shop or p3. Rather he just focused on the feeling.

Don't know why it would bother me. It just does. I have 36 dd too. Aghhhh

It would really bother me, as I would compare myself and feel inadequate as I don't have massive boobs. And if that's what a partner is looking at then I would feel bad.

I know most men look, but I feel better about it when it's at least at women with relatively similar body types to mine!

Then again, I guess variety is the spice of life...

Men wanking over images of women is grim.

It wouldn’t have any of it personally. They are real women so if he is blatantly keeping pictures of other women to get aroused then to me, it’s no different to having pictures of women he knows. If I’m not good enough and not enough of his fantasy then I’ll fuck off and find someone who thinks I am.
Totally get we all take sneaky peaks at others and think hmmm nice etc but keeping pics or having a ‘fantasy woman’ that isn’t me just isn’t good enough for me.

However, what is ok for one person might not be for someone else and it’s very personal so judge it entirely on how you feel.

It would bother me, i would talk to him and see if maybe theres something he would maybe like you to wear or something to make DTD a bit more exciting for the both of you?
On the other hand i suppose having a wank over the p3 gals is better than him sleeping with someone else.
Have a chat with him and see if theres anything new he would like to try to spice things up in the bedroom?
Im sure some of us ladies have had thoughts over some hunky celebs

Wouldn’t really bother me. The reality is....

1. not sure I could police how another adult wanks
2. most men are quite visual and would be turned on by a naked picture of a woman - it’s not a personal thing towards the woman they are with or a suggestion that she doesn’t turn him on.
3. most men fancy, and would fantasise about a half naked model, many woman would too, BUT would acknowledge that in real life they would never be in a position to date that model or prefer them to their actual partner - I don’t think that’s what wanking is about. It’s not making a choice or stating a preference of what they want from a partner. It’s just a nice pair of tits. So I don’t see the need to feel insecure about a partner using a picture of another woman to wank over. If he hasn’t got it in front of him he would just close is eyes and recall one from memory surely, or a past partner, how is that better?

....not sure I would refuse to allow my mind to wonder when fantasising about anyone other than my partner.

My dh did this and I found out when I was 7 months pregnant. It completely destroyed any self esteem I had left being so heavily pregnant and I was hurt beyond belief. If it upsets you it upsets you. Everyone and every relationship is different and if it effects you believe me it's not easy to get over.

That's the thing.

How would we ever know?

As you say we can't police thoughts.

Even if they don’t look at an image of boobs again, they’ll have seen enough of them in their life to conjur up images in their minds when wanking. I’m sure your partner loves your body so just try and put it out of your mind unless you get proof that he’s doing it all the time and it’s causing issues in your relationship

Yes it would bother me. It would be a deal breaker.

He said he would not do it. He said he respects me more but he doesn't believe there is anything wrong in other men doing it.

I find both grim, and both a turn off.

I do too. Just wondering if I was being unreasonable.

What's p3?

Page 3. I'm an idiot

Yes it would bother me hugely. An ex of mine did this, screenshotted girl's Facebook pictures to wank over.

We broke up, although about a year later.

It is disgusting.

It would bother me and I would expect any partner to have enough respect for me never to find out.

Jolly you actually made me smile

I thought it was something to do with PlayStations......

Probably is play station porn images out there.

It doesn't bother me at all. DP has his pictures of scantily clad/naked ladies that he gets off to, and I have the equivalent pics of men. Doesn't make me love him any less, and he loves me. I find him attractive, and he finds me attractive. But I don't police the things that turn him on and he doesn't police mine. It works out great.