Dp and pictures of women

[Elizanotlittle]

Would it bother you if your partner got off over images of p3 women?

It's not a porn debate as such as that is more to do with ethics. But p3 or pictures of scantily clad celebrities.

Some of my friends say it doesn't bother them. Others it would.

It would me. AIBU?
Are there any other ways of looking at this.

I get what you are saying.

It really makes me feel sick though.

I just don't like it. I don't really fantasise about other men.

When I vibe its usually the feeling. I haven't got Tom Hardy in mind.

Oh had said he won't do it as its not really a big thing anyway but he doesn't see anything wrong in it.

I do get where you are coming from as I used to be the same when I was a bit younger. I remember practically having a mental breakdown when I found porn on an ex’s computer. And I found porn mags under another ex’s bed once too. I just don’t care anymore though and I know it’s hypocritical of me to care because I fantasise about other men too and like looking at other bodies.
It’s great that you can get yourself off just from the feeling. The world would be a much simpler place if we could all do that. But unfortunately the majority of people need visual images in front of them or in their minds to be able to reach climax.

Some of these threads make me laugh 😂

How can anyone even get worked up over something like this?!

This thread is bloody ridiculous

I'd be disgusted! The very idea that I'd married someone thick enough to purchase/read the Sun would be a massive turn off.

Pictures of half naked women though? Perfectly normal wank fodder.

But it does work me up. It does bother me.

I wish it didn't.

Why can't one person be enough?
It is for me.

@elozanotlittle because monogamy isn't actually natural, it's a social construct. It is therefore reasonable (imo) that a man can be both monogamous, whilst also still having a drive to look at other sexual images without that having any reflection on your relationship. One doesn't equal the other.

Candy I guess so.
Sad though. As evolved beings.

So why are so many people sure that their partners don't do this or do people say they don't?

Surely they can't all be liars?

Aghhhh

Most men look at those kind of images, and sorry to break it to you, but most men also watch porn.

I know alot of women say this isn't so, but they do.

It is better to focus your energy on allowing yourself and your partner to be completely honest and open with each other, accepting of each other's preferences and also each other's boundaries, without policing of condemning.

It is a far healthier relationship to accept each other, rather than police each other, you will be far happier for it.

I think the difficulty with a thread like this is that everybody draws the line in a different (largely arbitrary) place. But (almost) everybody does draw a line. So those saying they never police their partner's behaviour and he's free to do whatever, unless you're all in open relationships you just draw your lines in a different place to others of us. The difficulty arises when we start ridiculing the boundaries that others wish to have in their relationships. Some are happy with an open relationship, some are happy with strip clubs but not private dances, some are happy with porn but not strip clubs, some are happy with flirty texts while others aren't, some are happy with close opposite-sex friendships/dinners etc and others aren't. There isn't a right or wrong place to lay down your boundaries OP, you just need to figure out what kind of relationship you and your partner are happy in. Regardless of whether anyone else would be happy with those exact same boundaries.

Women are much more likely to be insecure about these sorts of things than men, and men will often swear they don’t look at other women to avoid arguments.
You can’t expect someone to be with you and then never find someone else sexy. It would be lovely if we only ever found our partners appealing, but that’s sadly not the case and never will be

It would upset me far more than porn. It shows an attraction to an individual, he's imaging having sex with that particular woman. Porn, however, is more about the act and watching it than fantasising about the people involved. Though some men have favourite porn stars and that would upset me too.

The fact that your partner has already said that he will not look at pictures of nude/scantily-dressed women, but you are still insecure, suggests that you have more of a problem than the rights or wrongs of porn, or of monogamy.
Persistent insecurity which leads anyone to make demands on a partner and refuse to accept the partner's word regarding these limitations is absolutely poisonous, unethical and unreasonable. Was your last partner unfaithful, or critical of your appearance or your approach to sex? Is the current partner a good fit for you sexually, or does he have a higher libido than you?

I think it comes down to people's ability to compartmentalize and detach. It is very likely your partner doesn't see you and the page 3 woman as related at all. You are a real life person, she is a picture on a page.

You ask why is one person not enough for him? It is. You are that person. Those boobs on a page are not a person to him.

Thanks everyone.

Yes my last partner met men from craigs list to suck them off and used prostitution. He searched porn at work for hours.

I still think I felt like this before that though