Smoking weed is......

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Just trying to make sense of things. Is it me or smoking weed is not normal? I am fed up of this excuse to the point, where I think I need some reconfirmation , to make sure I am not the only one thinking that.

I'm allergic to weed. I tried many times over the years to smoke it but had the same reaction, so gave up in the end.

My only concern is that so many people who I have known have turned into complete losers after smoking lots of weed. Always talking about grand plans but never doing anything. I also know a lot of people who have ended up with mental health problems after doing a lot of weed and I can't help but feel there is a connection.

Each to their own, but I don't believe smoking weed is a good thing, due to how it has fucked up people who I know. I'm not being judgmental, I know that alcohol does the same.

He's an addict and that means that he loves smoking g more than you, you will always come second

Not normal in my world. It would be a total dealbreaker for me (well, I wouldn't have got together in the first place with someone who smoked it).

My only real experience of it is as a teacher, seeing teenagers (mostly boys) go off the rails when they start smoking it regularly. I find the idea of adult stoners pretty pathetic.

My exh smoked weed every day and it was one of the reasons we split. He would roll them on the kitchen counters and stink of it when with our children :(

Not normal in my world. I don't know anyone who does it.

Except that there is no medical evidence that cannabis is physically addictive

Perhaps not - but the OP's other half is a psychological addict - she says he has to have it every day and gets edgy if he doesn't. That's a dependence, an addiction.

There may not be evidence to say that weed is physically addictive, but as someone who has suffered at the hands of someone who was paranoid when smoking it and horrendous when he couldn’t get hold of it and had a range of withdrawal symptoms like insomnia, then nightmares, mood swings, agitation and violent temper tantrums, I really did’t see the difference between that and any other addict who couldn’t get their stuff.

Jesus op just leave him. Get financially independent. Look at entitledto.com He is a shit father and is setting the standard for your children.

I meant shit partner sorry

My only concern is that so many people who I have known have turned into complete losers after smoking lots of weed. Always talking about grand plans but never doing anything. I also know a lot of people who have ended up with mental health problems after doing a lot of weed and I can't help but feel there is a connection

I can agree with this 100%

The worrying thing is that they think you are the loser if you say anything as they have grand plan and in the end you look on and watch them flushing their life down the toilet. As they never move on.

Went back to an area I once lived in years before and the same people were doing the same thing talking about the same plan.

Went out with a friend one night I was expecting to have a chat and a laugh and a dance. Knew she smoked. What I got was a boring evening looking after her whilst she lay down on a bench and was virtually mute the whole evening. The day after she was so bubbly about the great night we had.

Normal for me and some of my friends, others will take a toke if it goes round, others will never touch it but break out the coke like it's Miami in '88.

It's up to you where your boundaries are, and people (including yourself) should respect that.

Ok Iv thought about this thread since I posted last night and while everything i said about my views are still true.

I think I'd like to add because I'm not in your situation so it's easy for me to just say no strong opinion because it's in a bigger picture sense.

My experience around it have been distanced from my home/rest of my life because dp and I don't smoke it (I have in the past taken one toke of a joint every few months but never really been in to it)

I have been able to be around it at say a friends house and then gone home to my non weed smelling house and my never stoned partner.

That's a very different scenario to yours and really thinking about it I would probably hate it! Really really hate it!

So my view is I don't have any issue about it in a bigger picture or a friend doing it sense or even visiting a house where it's being smoked but I wouldn't want someone living with me smoking it regularly or be in a relationship with someone who does either.

I'm sorry if my last post came across badly. I still think you won't change him and will probably have to leave to be happy but I hope this post has come across as less uncaring.

common knowledge, find your own link, you will have a choice of many many many

Greenshoots you made the claim, the onus is on you to provide the sources.

It's not normal.

Normal for me and a few people I know. Not normal for other people I know which is fine. It's up to you where you draw the line.

common knowledge, find your own link, you will have a choice of many many many
I really don't think it is, otherwise you wouldn't have people asking you to back up your claims.

In my opinion, parents should not do drugs or get drunk. People who don't have children or dependents can do whatever the fuck they like.

I'm surprised at how many people see weed as such a big deal - I've never known people in real life to have that view. No more than I've come across people who are adamant that a bottle of red wine and a packet of crisps are disgusting and dangerous. I would say that both of tge above examples are not brilliant for you, but also not a big deal in moderation.

That's not the same as excessive drinking, smoking or over eating which is what you're asking about op.

I wouldn't want to live with someone who couldn't moderate his behaviour either. It's not the weed that is abnormal or problematic, it's the amount he uses. Same as an alcoholic. Hope you're able to free yourself.

I’m also surprised at the people so against weed. Doing it occasionally is no more dangerous than drinking or smoking cigs occasionally. But I agree that smoking weed very regularly like the OP’s partner is a recipe for disaster, just as getting drunk or chain smoking fags is too. I would much rather spend an evening with a stoned person than a drunk one though

Robotic, couldn't agree more. Indulging in illegal drugs when you are a parent is purely selfish and sets an awful example to the children. Plus puts them at risk, like when drunk, as reaction times etc aren't normal.

I think it's so lame for grown adults. If you're past 16 I'd be so embarrassed to be smoking weed!

MistressDeeCee it’s a common misconception that the issues we see with depression, paranoia etc is down to people smoking skunk and not good quality cannabis

But that’s not true that isn’t to say that skunk isn’t causing these issues for some but so is good quality cannabis that is so often thought of as a non dangerous drug as it can be used for medicinal purposes

@Jess do you also think it’s embarrassing to get drunk when over the age of 16?

As I understand it, weed is detectable in the body for a long time afterwards. Where I work random drug and alcohol testing is very frequent. In some roles a positive test could result in instant dismissal. In my role a positive test would result in a very long and embarrassing conversation with HR. It's just not worth the risk.

it's not usual in my social circle but I'm of the booze generation.

Unpredictable. Some people are fine. Others get addicted and it addles their brains. Know someone who now suffers psychotic episodes and can't even read anymore. It's not the innocent drug people paint it as, well not for everyone.