to think he should just fuck off

[brizzledrizzle]

I've been ill all over xmas, now DD is ill. The house is a tip as a result.

Dd's boyfriend is here, she's in bed ill and I feel like crap but I am now cooking his fucking lunch. I just want to slob in my pyjamas.

Surely he should just do the decent thing and fuck off home?

Rant over...he's lovely but I don't want him here right now.

I get what you are annoyed @brizzledrizzle but the poor lad is not psychic. He doesn't know you're massively irked by his presence. You need to tell your daughter to ask him if he can go home. Just say YOU are not feeling well and want to go to bed for a bit.

As a few people have said, you are making him feel welcome, so of course he is going to stay.

Although why any young-ish man wants to stay in the company of his girlfriend's mom while the girlfriend is in bed does baffle me tbh. Especially as you don't sound particularly close. (If you were, you would feel comfortable asking him to pop off home so you can get on with some stuff in the house.)

YABU, sorry.

@EvilRingahBitch

I’d have a quiet word with DD and say “your BF is lovely but I feel like shit and need some space, could you please very nicely suggest to him that he buggers off or you both go to the cinema or something? It’s not personal - I’d love to see him again any other time”

This. Say this .

So you live alone?

Yes, usually it's just me.

What did you cook him???

I'd HATE someone hanging about trying to hold my hair when I was vomiting. Vomming is a pivate activity IMO.

Also he'll probably get her illness. Yuck.
However seeing he's there hanging about in the vomitorium, ask him to give you a hand with housework - washing up and cleaning the bathroom would be a good start.

The op is just clearly one of them women who like to be a martyr so no point pressing her, she’ll never change

Consider this an opportunity.

You're too ill to dress, to cook (he can get a take away or ready meal) or to clean.

Ask him to do the cleaning as you're both so, so ill. Sit back with the cup of tea and enjoy.

With any luck he'll either do it or toddle off back to his place.

I'd HATE someone hanging about trying to hold my hair when I was vomiting. Vomming is a private activity IMO.

Same here. I find the idea of it so weird, and have never known it in real life. It's something you only see in daft American chick flicks.

I wonder if the OP's daughter's boyfriend cleans the skids off the loo after she has had a shit too?

Keep him, tell him he's being a great help so far (holding the hair back etc) so now he can wash the pots, hoover and dust. If he doesn't like the idea he will fuck off home!

I’d never heard of this holding hair thing until I was in my late 20s when mum mentioned someone doing it for her when she was ill. It’s a horrible idea, and mum hated it when this kind woman did it her. That was why she didn’t do it for us in our youth. I don’t want anyone doing it for me ever.

If dd’s bf was hanging about when she was ill, I’d expect him bring a sarnie with him.