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AIBU to really not like New Year that much?

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WellAlwaysHaveParis · 29/12/2017 00:27

Off the back of another thread, does anyone feel indifferent to NYE or not like it? It feels wrong just typing that Blush

I've never really liked it, no matter what I'm doing for it! Blush And have always felt pressure to 'do well' and to achieve things in the following twelve months, rather than feeling hopeful and excited about the New Year.

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Imsorrynow · 31/12/2017 04:37

Will spend the evening trying to pacify the poor dog once the fireworks start.

OhHoHoOurBilly · 31/12/2017 05:52

Never really been my cup of tea. The year I have a one year old with a cold. DH is at work (doorman) and NYE brings every nutjob outdoors which is an extra worry. I'll be at home having a wild night pumping calpol into the baby who won't be put down and malteasers into me, might go completely wild and have a can of pepsi and do some online shopping for my dsis birthday.

Hoping the fireworks don't set the dog off and was the already tetchy exhausted baby.

Flowers for everyone who lost a loved one at this time of year.

KitKat1985 · 31/12/2017 06:15

I can't be arsed with going out on New Years. Everywhere is rammed and puts their prices up, and it's impossible to get a taxi so getting home is a nightmare. Plus it's usually freezing cold and pissing with rain. I'd rather just stay at home.

mydogisthebest · 31/12/2017 08:19

Never really like NYE as I find another year passed so quickly depressing. As I have got older I have found it more and more depressing.

Me and DH have spent 3 New Year's away - Paris, Prague, Berlin and those I really enjoyed.

We will just have a nice meal and watch some tv. We would quite like to go out for a meal but can't as one of our dogs is scared of fireworks. Would be ok if people only let them off at midnight but idiots where I live usually start them about 7pm.

WorldWideWanderer · 31/12/2017 08:39

I always used to feel the pressure to be doing something, or to be at a party, or to invite people round. I never liked it.
Now I don't do any of that and new Year's eve is suddenly nice again. I have a lazy day and stay up until midnight, I love watching the fireworks on TV, and the displays from round the world. I make wishes (!) at midnight - must sound ridiculous but more fun than resolutions - and go bed ready to face a new year.

juneau · 31/12/2017 09:21

Yes, I find it melancholy - reflecting on the past year and hoping better for the next (but knowing, in my heart, that it will just be more of the same shit - Brexit, Trump, plastic pollution, etc).

DH and I don't do anything. We used to go skiing for NY, before we had the kids, and that was nice because you could book a fancy dinner at a slopeside restaurant, linger over a lovely meal, have a bottle of wine, then champagne at midnight and it was all festive and lovely, but since having the kids they want/need to be in bed so going away is crap and we've been stuck in our hotel room when we've done it. So we stay at home, watch a film and drink a glass of champagne at midnight in our PJs. It's just another night really.

namaste86 · 31/12/2017 09:26

I love Christmas but am indifferent about New Years. Its just another day to me. Last year, I was heavily pregnant so went to bed early, way before midnight. This year, I'm working until 9.30pm, and back in early tomorrow morning (7am). DP will just have a chilled evening and put the baby to bed as normal, then we may watch a film when I get home. Just as we would on a normal evening.

mizu · 31/12/2017 10:43

Haven't read all the thread but am with you OP. Looking back I don't think I've ever liked it that much. Forced fun Xmas Grin

Love Christmas, love my birthday but NY leaves me cold, all that new me stuff and fresh new year, I don't buy it. And hate the adverts on TV for diets and stuff, all so predictable.

YouOKHun · 31/12/2017 11:26

B15Girl you’re going to have to pull a sickie (something contagious and non-negotiable) to start to break the habit of you being present then start making it clear in January that you’re doing something else in Dec 2018; start managing expectations for next year as soon as you’re out of your ‘sick bed’. It’s the only way...

displacementofwater · 31/12/2017 11:32

I'm with you here and I've never liked NY that much. Nothing will be different tomorrow to how it is today and I don't ever have that feeling of hope for the coming year that some people do. But then I am cynical by nature!

scrabbler3 · 31/12/2017 11:46

I've had some great nights out over the years - the first one (late 1980s) was when I was 16 in sixth form and we went to a club, which was amazing. In recent years, it's been more sedate, with gatherings at people's houses or dinner at a local restaurant where they then push the tables back and stick on some cheesy music.

However, I have had some bad ones. Two years ago, my husband had just moved out and I was still exhausted, scared, in shock. There was one where my baby son was in hospital and I had a terrible cold. Another when I was about 20 when all my friends were doing things with their boyfriends and I was newly single, so I saw the new year in by listening to cassettes in my bedroom! In fact, there was another like that a few years later but without the cassettes.....

I dislike the introspective nature of it and have never made resolutions or reflected on my failings. However, it's hard not to feel low sometimes.

Tillymintsmama · 31/12/2017 11:58

I'm on my own for NY as DD is with her dad til tomorrow. Don't know how I feel about it really; just trying to ignore it I guess. Trying to stay away from drowning my sorrows (being single still at this time of year...) in a bottle of red wine!

OuaisMaisBon · 31/12/2017 14:20

Hate it. Always have done, but now married to a man to whom it is important. Would happily go to bed now (4 hrs ahead of UK) but am obliged to go out in a couple of hours and pretend it's all good fun. Hope to be in bed by midnight, though.
Happy New Year, everyone!

TrashTalk · 31/12/2017 15:58

I find the enforced nature of it a wee bit exhausting. I've just written a piece on the 'Ten Commandments of New Year's Eve' for anyone that fancies a giggle...

the-trashy.com/2017/12/31/the-ten-commandments-of-new-years-eve/

Flappergirl86 · 31/12/2017 16:24

I loathe new year. So much pressure to have fun and it's invariably disappointing ! We're staying in with a bottle of wine and a box set. Maybe go out for a walk tomorrow to shake out the cobwebs x

Oldraver · 31/12/2017 17:05

I've never liked New Year, apart from when I used to go clubbing as they dont make a whole fuss over it and you are there for the music.

As it was we were out on Friday, and OH (who isnt a clubber) has just told me he would prefer to do that again...We're still recovering though as we didnt get back till this morning...And damn the younger ones still partying in the morning keeping us old un's awake Grin.

We are going to try and make it through to midnight as we love to hear the drunken bells in the next village

halfwitpicker · 31/12/2017 17:06

I hate it.

It's such a waste of time! We don't have a babysitter so couldn't go out if we wanted to.

Bah humbug amigos

Sallystyle · 31/12/2017 17:16

I always feel quite low this time of year. Xmas is all over, nothing much to look forward to until spring/ summer. Just another few months of shit weather.

I am going to my friends tonight for drinks and food which is always lovely but I would enjoy doing that any day. NYE means nothing to me.

CurryWorst · 31/12/2017 17:16

How is ny a waste of time? It's just a sunday night like any other, what time are you wasting exactly?

Topseyt · 31/12/2017 18:25

Can't stick it and have hardly ever bothered with it.

thenightsky · 31/12/2017 18:32

DH just asked me if I was up to going to the pub later. I peered at him over my glasses and said 'nah, can't be arsed to get changed and put make up on'. I'm sat here is a bolognaise sauce splattered t-shirt and too bloated and fat-feeling to squeeze into my good clothes.

nannybeach · 31/12/2017 18:36

Just anyother day/night, always used to work it, because of neighbours parties going on till 5am. Seems to be an excuse to get drunk, Babysitting for DD, (grandkids) so she can go out.

Bellamuerte · 31/12/2017 18:42

I hate NYE. It's ridiculously expensive, you can't get served at the bar because it's too busy, and there's always a feeling that you should be having fun but aren't. I'd probably enjoy it more if we had a group of friends to invite to a house party, but we don't. It's usually just me and DH sitting on the sofa with a bottle of wine, wondering why we're not more popular.

ihatetosay · 31/12/2017 18:45

just another day like Christmas =going into Town would be my idea of hell

Springprim · 31/12/2017 19:52

SmileAndNod
I'm so sorry you feel this way and are going through such a difficult time. I just tend to treat New Years Eve as another and try to be grateful for the blessing that I have, which can be quite hard if you're feeling so low.

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