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AIBU to really not like New Year that much?

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WellAlwaysHaveParis · 29/12/2017 00:27

Off the back of another thread, does anyone feel indifferent to NYE or not like it? It feels wrong just typing that Blush

I've never really liked it, no matter what I'm doing for it! Blush And have always felt pressure to 'do well' and to achieve things in the following twelve months, rather than feeling hopeful and excited about the New Year.

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Newyearnewyew · 30/12/2017 00:46

I feel slightly optimistic but yes it's tough I don't think I have ever been happy on new years

SheilaHammond · 30/12/2017 00:52

Generally Christmas and NY are bad times for me MH-wise. I try and focus on staying neutral about it and not thinking too much about anything.

DH always works so that makes it easier in a way as less is expected of me. I always offer to do transport for my teeens who want to go out with friends, again, it lessens the of having to feel celebratory.

I just have a normal evening, tv, reading, or whatever, but avoiding any NY crapola on the telly. Lots of cups of tea. Then go and pick up teen DC at whatever time, come home, then a lie in on NYD the next day.

If DH is around we might go for a walk or a pub lunch on NYD which I don’t mind- it’s not as pressurised as the countdown to midnight rubbish.

I make one achievable resolution that is very low key. Last year I removed not to use single use plastic bottles for water (I bought a nice posh metal one). That’s been reasonably achievable.

Stinkbomb · 30/12/2017 00:52

NYE is always a let down - Christmas Eve is the best night to go out (Pre-children) as everyone is in good spirits.

Then my DD died on NYE, and we had to travel back from the hospital that night, looking out at all the fireworks. It's just her I think about, and the past, and what could've been - don't need to do that in public.

SheilaHammond · 30/12/2017 00:53

Sorry stinkbomb that’s so awful. I bet she was lovely.

Fakingit36 · 30/12/2017 15:35

Have always hated it. In university I was invited to a swanky cocktail party out in the country. Picked up a stomach bug and have never been so ill - missed the entire thing and emerged from the bathroom all wobbly about 48 hours later. NYE still makes me feel sick now. However, DH and I got married on NY day — having that as our anniversary is great and gives us an excuse to opt out.

User700800 · 30/12/2017 15:46

Yanbu

SingingBabooshkaBadly · 30/12/2017 17:06

stinkbomb. I'm so, so sorry. How awful for you and DH. I've been reading this thread and feeling surprised that so many people feel the same as me - hate NYE and suffer MH issues around it. I've dislike NYE for most of my adult life but always loved Christmas. Then NYE a few years ago I found out DM was dying so I hate NY even more now but stinkbomb it doesn't compare to your experience. Unimaginably awful for you. [flowes]

SingingBabooshkaBadly · 30/12/2017 17:07

Flowers sorry...

therealposieparker · 30/12/2017 17:45

I hate it and will be going to bed.

whatisforteamum · 30/12/2017 17:52

Dreading this one.not because I'm working and NYD too because df died so it will be my first.NYD in 51 years without him.....Roll on spring.

Ivy79 · 30/12/2017 18:04

I have mixed feelings. I have had some NYE's that have been brilliant (local pub, all my pals in there, some family too, free buffet, lots of dancing, and only a 15 minute walk home.) And I have had some shit ones; ill as fuck with a chest infection, and asleep at 10pm, or on my own coz DH has had to work (7pm til 7am.) My kids (now grown) had gone out with their mates and I was alone. THAT was depressing, Sad

Then we had a night at the pub several years back, and some woman I fucking detest, managed to pin us up against the wall in the pub for 3 hours, moaning all night about her job, her sister-in-law, and her neighbours. And her DH griped to my DH about the problems with his computer and his car and HIS job. We didn't get a chance to mix with anyone else and were bored to tears with their boring whining. We tried to move away, but they kept following us about.

This year I am gonna be alone til 10pm when DH comes in from a 10 hour shift, but at least he will be here at midnight, and he has no work til the 3rd after that, so we can get very sozzled, scoff the rest of the Christmas snacks, and watch some shitty NYE programmes. Grin

MycatsaPirate · 30/12/2017 18:15

I think (and please don't shoot me for this) that NYE is for the younger folk. The younger ones don't seem to object to paying £20 to get into the local pub, pay more for drinks and then have the hell of trying to get home afterwards. Everyone I know prefers to be either with friends at home or mostly in their pjs watching a DVD (because the TV is shite) and eating the last of the Christmas chocolates.

We don't do much, we will eat some snacks, watch TV and then on New Years Day we go down to the quay to watch the Bath Tub race which is brilliant. Then we go for a wander down the quay, probably bump into lots of people we know, maybe go for a lunchtime drink or for a coffee and then come home again.

And this year kids are back at school and dp back at work on the 2nd. No one wants to waste the last day of the holidays with a hangover.

cathyclown · 30/12/2017 18:26

MycatsaPirate

I think you are right about it being a young person's gig. For pubs I mean, house parties seem to be the norm for slightly older folk like myself!.

I used to enjoy it in my day, but every dog has one of those!

Once our loved ones passed away it was never the same. But we do make an effort sometimes, depending on the mood. I find forced jollity difficult though.

This year we are going to our lovely local pub about 6pm, have a bite to eat and a drink or two, then by the time we are leaving around 8 all the young ones are arriving and it is great fun looking at the clobber and the skyscraper heels. I love people watching!

If we manage to stay awake, then it's Jules Holland and once midnight strikes, I open the back door for a second to let the old year out, and open the front door to let the new year in. Old tradition here.

Best wishes to all.

Allabitmuchisntit · 30/12/2017 18:34

Cba with it AT ALL!

MongerTruffle · 30/12/2017 18:39

As Daffy Duck said:
"New Year's is a holiday invented by the media."

MongerTruffle · 30/12/2017 18:40

There was meant to be a Grin at the end of my post.

Eolian · 30/12/2017 19:02

I liked NYE parties when I was younger and have loved spending the few days round NY with my sister and her dh, and her dc, for the past umpteen years. This year it's just me, dh and the dc but we will have a lovely dinner, loads of board games and a LotR watching marathon. We never manage to stay up until midnight anyway .

The problem with NYE is the weight of expectation. Just do something you enjoy (be it party or watching tv with a mug of cocoa) with people you like.

B15Girl · 30/12/2017 19:04

I hate it. For the last 16 years we have gone to a friend's house, it started when the children were little and it was easy and fun and they were good enough to host as they had the biggest house. The problem is now we are stuck in a rut, the evening is always the same and I would love to do something different as it's quite frankly boring. A quiet night in with an M&S dine in meal, a good film and some fizz and I would be happy. How do you get out of this rut without offending our lovely friends?

BarbaraOcumbungles · 30/12/2017 19:05

It’s ds 9th birthday tomorrow so we’re goinf to the cinema and he’s requested spag Bol and then it’ll be a normal night, we’ll be in bed at half ten ish and will watch the fireworks over our town as we’ve got a fantastic view.

I’ve always found NYE to be a complete non event.

Bluelonerose · 30/12/2017 19:10

Nope I don't get it either.

I'm bewildered why people would pay ridiculous door prices, then drink prices jacked up, then an extra £10 to get a taxi home.

No thanks. Hopefully I'll be asleep before midnight but we normally get loads of fireworks going off.
That's another thing I don't understand about new year. Why fireworks ??

MsHarry · 30/12/2017 19:13

I dislike the expectation, prices for pubs, tickets and taxis. Love a family party though. A couple of years ago we rented a barn in Suffolk with our teens, had a cosy night with takeaway and games then my favourite part was a big beach walk on NYD. DD17 is invited to a party this year so that means I'm the taxi! Great!

MsHarry · 30/12/2017 19:15

B15girl why not invite your friends over on NYD instead and say you fancy a quiet NYE.

Lily2007 · 30/12/2017 19:18

I usually love it but this year we are at home and DH is away. Just been on holiday for a week so still feeling quite happy just seems a bit of a non-event for use this year. Normally spend with friends celebrating which is what DH is doing but there's too much to sort out at home.

B15Girl I would just say to your friend. We used to have like a disco each year then someone made it into a formal meal and it all felt very middle-old aged so I said and a lot of people supported going back to a disco. Though obviously have to be diplomatic.

HolyMountain · 30/12/2017 19:19

When we were young, energised and child free we loved NYE, staying out til sunrise and get the free breakfast for still being there etc.

Now, many years later,we’re at home , telly on then go to bed at our usual time. I don’t mind the fireworks actually, as there are no small children here to disturb it doesn’t bother us.

CPtart · 30/12/2017 19:20

I've had some great NYE over the years up and down the country. Now older with DC it's all different. Wouldn't dream of going out now. Have lost many close family members in r cent years and it just all makes me feel rather sad and wistful. Am glad to get back to our normal routine come January.

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