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AIBU to really not like New Year that much?

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WellAlwaysHaveParis · 29/12/2017 00:27

Off the back of another thread, does anyone feel indifferent to NYE or not like it? It feels wrong just typing that Blush

I've never really liked it, no matter what I'm doing for it! Blush And have always felt pressure to 'do well' and to achieve things in the following twelve months, rather than feeling hopeful and excited about the New Year.

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Jolonglegs · 29/12/2017 11:05

I agree with falange in that its a new beginning. Whatever was wrong with the old year we can hope for better times in the new. DP and I usually spend NYE with friends, and then try for a family walk on NYD. Should be lovely with the snow about.

artisancraftbeer · 29/12/2017 12:19

I always find my MH is at its worst in January and February and nye is now s trigger for the panic attacks and catastrophising to start.

It doesn't seem to matter what I do on nye - big party, house party, friends, just family, I always feel the start of depression which lingers until March. At least I can recognise it now!

CurryWorst · 29/12/2017 12:29

It's just a day like any other. There isn't anything to like or not about it unless you make an issue of it.

people really will complain about anything, won't they?

elQuintoConyo · 29/12/2017 12:32

I have always been a bit meh about nye/nyd. I'd go out or not go out, meh. Overly expensive places and teeming with perves.

This year we are 4 sets of parents with dc in the same class going for a giant dinner and sleepover in one of the parents' houses. I'm looking forward to it as none of the dc have siblings and they play well together and i get one with the parents (wouldn't go if i didn't). DH is a bit more bleurgh about it as he hates sleeping in other people's houses (he pees ninety times a night, makes him v self consious). We'll all be chipping in to cook, clean up, play with kids, play cards etc once the dc are asleep - somewhere around 1am!

Dc are 6-7yo.

I never reflect on the year past or make resolutions (even mentally, let alone writing them down) for the year to come. Whatever happens, happens.

I try not to shit on others' celebrations, pooh-pooh those who go all out and panic about their outfits etc.

Oh, it is tradition here to eat one grape as each bong of the new year bell goes - surprisingly difficult! Don't think i have managed more than 8.

tehmina23 · 29/12/2017 12:38

Last NYE I spent with my Nan after she'd had a fall, waited for the emergency dr until just gone midnight!!

She was sectioned soon after then died of pneumonia so NYE was the last time I actually spent a few hours with her and I appreciate that....

This NYE I'm going to a house party.

esk1mo · 29/12/2017 12:44

artisan same. its taken me until now to realize.

my year is usually shit and slightly catastrophic from january to march, but like you say, recognizing this may help.

OneOfTheGrundys · 29/12/2017 12:47

Nah, don’t like it either. DH works it every year, earning 3 or 4 times what he’d normally.

So-I’m in front of the telly with my friend and the DC. Cakes and a film or two. Heaven. Smile

Lolimax · 29/12/2017 12:49

I’m probably the opposite. I find Christmas very stressful but like the idea of a new start/New Year.
We have a caravan so we’re driving down there and will see midnight in sat in the clubhouse with a 2 minute stagger back to bed Smile

phoenix1973 · 29/12/2017 12:52

I would rather ignore it. Some booze nibbles my cat on my lap my dd and dh next to me. Bed before midnight if i want to.
It reminds me of how stuck i am in a going nowhere admin groove. I want a real job, one that is MINE not one where I'm doing the dull work for those with REAL jobs.
Instead, we're off to my mums for a bbq where im just going to ignore the pressure to be jolly. Im grateful for the good things i have but i cant pretend ive been successful this year nor that im excited about 2018.
My contract expires March so once again, trying to hawk my wares in a saturated job market....

Nitrobetty1 · 29/12/2017 12:53

I hate NY. And I live in Scotland where for some bizarre nationalistic reason you are generally expected to be out carousing & getting drunk. I hate it. And would far prefer to go away for the whole of the festive season as I hate it all more every year.

onemorecupofcoffeefortheroad · 29/12/2017 13:00

I love NYE - grew up in a close community in the North West throughout the 60s snd 70s - no one had much of anything but I always found NYE made me feel safe. Lots of people old and young together, in and out of each other's houses, didn't care about the cold. Everyone welcome. I loved that sense of community.
Moved south in the 80s and the sense of community wasn't quite the same - going to pubs or clubs never interested me or my friends but we always had a NYE party. Then raising kids throughout the nineties and the noughties put a stop to all that so instead would often get together with other families at one another's houses just for dinner.

Last year my OH and I - now in our 50s- decided we wanted to spend it at home on our own for the first time but ended up in the local Novotel for the night (last minute booking so got a great room for a fraction of what it would usually cost) as our eldest son wanted a NYE party at home with his friends and we didn't want to be shut in our bedroom all night.
Took a load of yummy picnic picky type food and wine (and the dogs as the hotel was dog friendly) and had a great night with our first bit of privacy for two weeks. I'm pretty sure I was asleep by midnight though.

cushioncovers · 29/12/2017 13:06

Nope don't like it and don't really get it tbh. It's the same as any other night surely? Any expectations or reflection on life can be done at anytime in the year. I used to party when I was in my twenties but mostly because that's what was expected and all my friends were doing the same.

Bambamber · 29/12/2017 13:08

I'm pretty indifferent to it to be honest, just another day really.

speakout · 29/12/2017 13:22

Nitrobetty1 I am the same A Scot, grew up and living in Scotland. I detested New Year as a child.
It was a free ticket for neighbours and other drunken random people to turn to to each other's houses - carrying their own bottle of whisky giving gross wet kisses to all the women ( and like me any12 year old that looked close to being of age)

It was beyond grim..

Elendon · 29/12/2017 13:51

It's a time for me to catch up with dear beloved friends. I really enjoy it.

lessworriedaboutthecat · 29/12/2017 13:56

I don't like NY. Never have. This year we'll be spending it with my family and we'll be up the road by about 1pm. Its nothing we couldn't do any other weekend to be honest. Even when I was young and cool it was a chore. It costs a fortune to get in anywhere and then its time and a half for a taxi. Plus there's the whole pressure to have a good time. I don't really like Christmas and New Year tbh. Not I hope in a horrible grinchy way just its a lot of hassle and expense. And its cold.

Namechange16 · 29/12/2017 14:01

I make a point of going to bed well before midnight. I've always disliked NYE. I've also had NYE in America, Asia and South America and all were terrible too!!

ForalltheSaints · 29/12/2017 16:45

Fairly indifferent. Have sometimes gone to the cinema or theatre if something we want to see, usually as it is easier to get tickets.

haveacupofteaandamincepie · 29/12/2017 19:00

I hate it and everything about it. I have never enjoyed nostalgia.

careerandfam · 29/12/2017 21:05

I don't mind it - i use it as a time to reflect on the year (the good and bad!) and get excited about the year to come. New Years Eve evening is always spent in though, we tend to go for a walk new years eve lunchtime with the dog and find a pub for lunch. It's become a bit of a tradition now! :)

BedtimeTea · 29/12/2017 21:20

Just another day/night to me.

jarhead123 · 29/12/2017 21:23

I'm not fussed about celebrating at midnight, but I enjoy the whole new me, setting goals for the new year etc

BackBoiler · 30/12/2017 00:26

I LOVE it! But then we have a nice evening and then go to bed happy!

Orangebutterfly · 30/12/2017 00:38

I don’t mind it. Prefer to stay in with good food and company and get a to bed by 1am. Enjoy watching Jools Holland and listening to the chimes of Big Ben. I wouldn’t mind going to see the fireworks when the kids are older. They look spectacular.

OliviaStabler · 30/12/2017 00:45

I don't care about it. Just another day to me. I am going out this year but that is more about the company than the event.