To think this was uncalled for

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My husband was at work today. I cleaned up today and cooked. I have a toddler so cooking is often difficult. I cooked pasta and the kids ate it apart from my toddler ( who is just getting over a stomach bug!)

My husband was supposed to finish at 21:30 but finished early and got home got 19:00. He came home, tasted the tea and said it's was bland and had no flavour so then proceeded to put it back in the pan and add loads of 'seasoning' to it. It has really upset me. If he didn't like it he could have just given me tips to improve it instead of the way he approached me and said it.

Am I being unreasonable to be upset?

Yes I'm no top notch chef but I'm not bad either and I cook my food from scratch so it is healthier... I'm so upset

I'm not disagreeing when people say he should be allowed to season his food to his taste. Of course he should. The part I dislike is the way in which he seemed to say it. He didn't show appreciation (that we know of) and simply said it was 'bland', then went off to put it in the pan. There are ways of saying it.

I'll change what I previously said to this- if your kids had made you dinner with help from dad and it was bland, would you really say that to them? If you wouldn't then clearly you know it's rude. So why is it ok for an adult to say it to another adult? There are ways of handling situations in life that don't involve potentially hurting the feelings of another person. Some of you really need to take note of that!

Sorry for the late reply.

To answer a few things....

Firstly I don't have a problem with hum adding extra seasoning to his food.. the problem was that he came home and tasted the food and said it was 'bland' 'had no flavour' and said ' I need to teach you and show how to cook this the right way'

The sauce I made was all fresh ingredients.. there was no jars involved. I never use jars. Not that there is anything wrong with them.. I just prefer to make my own. I was very proud of myself for cooking a nice meal for my kids and they ate it all up without complaints and he comes home and dampens that with his comments. I think he thought it wasn't nice because my toddler didn't eat it but my toddler was recovering from a tummy bug.. as was my 10 year old so that's why their appetites where not the best but my 10 year old and my other children at it all. I'm very sensitive when it comes to food.. my mum fed me ready meals and tinned food every day growing up because she very rarely wanted to cook so because of that I want my kids to have a different life.. I cook all their food from scratch because I want things to be different for them and when he criticises me I don't take it well.

He is very critical in everyday life and likes to be 'right' all the time

@scottishdiem I'm married to an African man also so I feel even more pressure to 'cook right' because my husband is so used to having good cooked meals by women because that's their culture but he always forgets I was brought up in a not so good household so I'm trying my absolute best for my kids!!

Thanks for all your replies. I appreciate everyone's post. I guess I'm just extra sensitive and I try to hard to please my husband!

Would you be upset if he put pepper and/or salt on his food?

Stop trying and ignore his comments. You're doing OK. You sound a good mum. You're probably not oversensitive, but he may be a little insensitive or might have had a shitty day.
Get some sleep.