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AIBU to think SIL is a CF

64 replies

subsy1a · 27/12/2017 00:03

I booked a home visit from Santa for today as a surprise for my children. My DB and SIL knew this. SIL and her little girl turned up five minutes before Santa was due to arrive. "Just thought it would be nice for [DN] to meet Santa as well. Is she a CF?

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constantlyseekinghappiness · 27/12/2017 00:03

Absolutely CF behaviour.

SleepingStandingUp · 27/12/2017 00:04

A bit but if there's no extra cost I would have invited her anyway. A personal visit from Santa on boxingday is a bit imo

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 27/12/2017 00:04

She is. But it's a nice thing to do to ler her DD join in

SinglePringle · 27/12/2017 00:05

Meh. I would have invited my niece in the first place.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 27/12/2017 00:05

I would have invited my niece too

rudolphslittlehelper · 27/12/2017 00:06

I booked a home visit from Santa for today as a surprise for my children. Odd

Many people would have invited their nice to join in as well?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 27/12/2017 00:06

Although it's a bit odd having a visit from santa when Xmas is over😳

midnightmisssuki · 27/12/2017 00:09

Confused why is Santa at your house on Boxing Day?? Odd.

Original poster
subsy1a · 27/12/2017 00:10

Perhaps I SHOULD have invited DN but I hadn't thought of it at the time.

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LouHotel · 27/12/2017 00:10

She's unreasonable to not have asked but if you live close by it would have been to have invited niece along.

If yiu want to be grabby send her a text asking to contribute to the santa visit cost but you wont come off well.

Margaritaanyone89 · 27/12/2017 00:12

She should of told you in advance she'd like to bring her daughter so you were expecting her, but I personally would have invited the niece especially as you're telling her about it. Maybe she thought you telling her about it was an open invite.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 27/12/2017 00:12

But you must have thought of it when you were telling your SIL about it, have a heart and let your little niece see santa at your house without complaining

thefourgp · 27/12/2017 00:13

What’s a CF?

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 27/12/2017 00:16

Cheeky fucker

TheQueenOfWands · 27/12/2017 00:18

Isn't Father Christmas knackered on Boxing Day?

Bit much to ask him to come out, TBH.

FuckyNellYaBastad · 27/12/2017 00:21

😂

ReanimatedSGB · 27/12/2017 00:22

Depends if there is going to be an extra cost for your DN coming along. Yes, it might have been nice to invite her, but actually your SIL is being cheeky to turn up and muscle in without an invitation - unless you are always in and out of each other's houses.

pallisers · 27/12/2017 00:26

yes she is.

Santa coming to your house on boxing day though - highly odd and I don't know how a child could believe in santa after it.

froshiechipandbrickie · 27/12/2017 00:27

Yes, she shouldn’t have arrived unasked, that’s obviously rather rude.

But I personally would have invited my nieces... I’m assuming you told SIL about it and yet you didn’t think to invite your DN? Idk, unless there’s some sort of backstory?

Will there be extra costs because of this?

SouthWindsWesterly · 27/12/2017 00:28

There’s usually an extra cost for an extra child. Why didn’t she ask beforehand as from your posts above seem to suggest that DN’s exclusion is more todo with not thinking as opposed to maliciousness

Mxyzptlk · 27/12/2017 00:31

If Santa was bringing presents he wouldn't have any for DN, I'm guessing. SiL should have asked.

LolitaLempicka · 27/12/2017 00:36

I don't think she is a CF, I think you are being mean not even inviting your DN in the first place. Also what Pallisers said, doesn't boxing day spoil all the magic?

gluteustothemaximus · 27/12/2017 00:44

Santa does home visits?

Gemini69 · 27/12/2017 00:47

YES SHE IS..... Xmas Hmm

StepAwayFromGoogle · 27/12/2017 00:52

Er, yes, she is. Regardless of whether it would have been nice to invite DN, you didn't. And you don't turn up anywhere uninvited when you know there's something pre-arranged.