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Tobhave made my husband two drinks this morning

73 replies

Deckerblue · 26/12/2017 20:08

Boxing Day morning ...
I'm heading off to work...

Rushing around sorting out the out DD. DH has a cold. Every morning we have a coffee , but as he has a cold I made him a lemsip and a coffee.

He said aggressively WTF do I want to drink a pint of lemsip and coffee before I get in the shower, have you never made lemsip before?! And proceeded to tip the coffee down the sink saying I've wasted it.

All through my day at work I've pondered what the hell I have done wrong. I text him saying I expect an apology for your actions this morning and he said "Wot fucking planet do u live on where u think I've got time to let a pint of boiling lemsip to cool and drink, then drink another pint of coffee"

The "pint" he is referring to , is that all our normal size cups were in the dishwasher , the only cups left we had were tall ones. Which I didn't fill up to the top anyway.

I'm feeling quite upset actually. Just want some AIBU to have made him two, albeit larger, drinks?

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SassySausageSupper · 26/12/2017 20:11

He sounds awful.

BenLui · 26/12/2017 20:11

What he should have said, regardless of the number of drinks, was thank you.

I’d be letting him make his own drinks in future.

Pengggwn · 26/12/2017 20:11

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 26/12/2017 20:11

What a horrible man. Is he always like that?

Katescurios · 26/12/2017 20:11

Tell him you were trying to be helpful and considerate of his cold but clearly he's in the mood to be a twat. As such the next hot drink you'll make him will be after he gives you a sincere apology. Otherwise he can get his lazy arse out of bed and make his own morning drink from now on.

FlouncyDoves · 26/12/2017 20:12

When you have a cold you’re not thinking straight.

On the other hand, if this is symptomatic of his normal behaviour then clearly he’s a twat.

StickThatInYourPipe · 26/12/2017 20:13

Unless you have a camera set up in the house, would watch him throw away 1 cup of coffee and then prepare to beat and abuse him for wasting what, 20p? Then you are obviously NBU.

He sounds like a bit of a prick tbh

Tipsntoes · 26/12/2017 20:13

If this was very much a one off you could maybe put it down to him feeling rubbish. If it's evenly slightly usual then Shock

Silverthorn · 26/12/2017 20:14

Yanbu massive over reaction from dh. I'd not make him another drink ever again and tell him why. However, beside being poorly does he have any other worries?
Also could have decanted to a flask.
It's not you.

donquixotedelamancha · 26/12/2017 20:14

Just want some AIBU to have made him two, albeit larger, drinks?

Yes, you are clearly wrong :-) one hot drink at a time, but who gives a shit- the appropriate response is 'thank you very much'.

I can certainly be a grumpy dick when I'm ill, but to be so far out of order and continue being rude hours later is ridiculous. YANBU to expect an apology.

glow1984 · 26/12/2017 20:18

Your DH was being an absolute c**t

LadyintheRadiator · 26/12/2017 20:18

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Elmleaisnotcream · 26/12/2017 20:20

In response to your AIBU, making him two hot drinks isn’t very logical

His response does sound rude however.

Oldraver · 26/12/2017 20:22

'The planet I live on, is one where you say thank you for making you a drink, not giving me abuse.

Liara · 26/12/2017 20:22

The way he sounds ywu to make him even one drink, unless it was to pour it over his head!

ToffeeSauce · 26/12/2017 20:24

God, are people’s husbands really so horrible to them? How depressing.

Mayhemmumma · 26/12/2017 20:24

Surely he could have just drunk his preferred option? He sounds bloody horrid. I'd be very grateful for two drinks from a caring partner!

wowbutter · 26/12/2017 20:25

I think what you did was really sensible.
My DH makes me a cup of tea every morning. I don't drink lemsip style drinks, but if I did, I would want both.
Wasting coffee, what one frogging tea spoons worth?! As if it matters.
The correct response to this is thank you. Someone made you a hot drink and cared enough to make you two. That's nice.
Dickface.

Original poster
Deckerblue · 26/12/2017 20:25

I didn't even think about the issue of drinking two hot drinks, coz I love hot drinks and would think nothing of sinking a lemsip and a coffee one after the other (if I have a cold obviously. ... not a lemsip addict!!)

I couldn't believe his tone with me.
I've brought it up with him this evening (as I've come back from work and spent the rest of the day /evening in silence) and he's not apologetic at all.

There is a lot of back story tbh. Far too much to outlay here. But this "type" of petty aeguement is far too many for my liking.
I come on here because I find myself doubting myself and need others opinions.

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Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 26/12/2017 20:27

I’d have told him he coulda kept them himself from now on then.

Fishfingersandwichnocheese · 26/12/2017 20:27

Could make them*

Glowerglass · 26/12/2017 20:28

Pint of lemsip and pint of coffee sounds like the breakfast of kings to me.

He's an ungrateful arse.

JamPasty · 26/12/2017 20:31

Life is too short to put up with that sort of shit from a supposed partner. A nice normal person would love to have someone who thought of them and made them drinks, even if there were too many drinks to actually drink (not that there were!)

Trb17 · 26/12/2017 20:31

He’s a twunt.

I hope your DD doesn’t get to witness her father treating her mother that way.

I think you have far bigger problems that 2 drinks.

finnmcool · 26/12/2017 20:34

On what planet is it ok for a human to speak to another human in that disgusting tone?
You did something nice, kind and loving and got verbally abused for it?
op ask yourself this; would he have spoken so horribly to anybody else who had done the exact same as you?
No? He is a complete disgrace!
Don't waste your years hoping it will get better. It won't.