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Showing off posting pics of your presents on Fb

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HorseItIntoMe · 25/12/2017 21:20

My best friend thinks it’s showing off and she has been really snarky about people we both know posting pics of their gifts

Personally I really like seeing what people have had but also because I like to see people I like happy

Although I personally then decided not to say / post a pic on Fb what I’d had for fear people would think I’m a show off twat 😩

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HorseItIntoMe · 27/12/2017 08:44

Yeah I agree re the burglars ...I would imagine most people don’t have friends who’d burgle their houses 🤣

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monkeysee100 · 27/12/2017 17:33

I think it's tacky. I loathe the huge piles of presents as I think it makes people compete and makes people feel inadequate if their children don't have the same.

A friend on fb has managed to let on that they have bought a Nintendo switch, drone and an amazon prime membership all in about 24 hours, not to mention the display photo of her gifts because she 'didn't have a proper chance to look at them.'

We were asked what we had. It was tactfully ignored!!

PissedOffNeighbour · 27/12/2017 17:39

I’ve never seen this on my FB account and wouldn’t want to. I do see lots of posts from people on holiday though and like seeing these 😎

allinclusive · 27/12/2017 17:49

I have a few people like this on my fbook feed and it's tacky at best and inconsiderate at worst.

One particular Mum posts 20 + pics of her spoilt son. Every bday and Christmas it's like he has won the mega prizes on the Price is Right, the iPad, lap top, virtual reality headset, Bose headphones, the football tickets, designer clothes and even the fan of £20 notes.

I think it's hilarious but I do wonder how those of her friends who have seen it and who want all that and how they must feel.

I like the pics of people at the dinner table in their loud jumpers.

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HorseItIntoMe · 27/12/2017 20:21

The fan of notes is unbelievable 😱 do people seriously do that?!? 🤭

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pilates · 27/12/2017 20:29

No I don’t like it

SlickBubbles · 27/12/2017 20:31

Someone posting a merry Christmas picture whilst wearing new jewellery or something, fine. But lining all your presents up and posting a picture of them on FB with hashtags #boydonegood when you're in your thirties is tacky.

whirlygirly · 27/12/2017 20:32

I haven't actually seen any of these on my fb feed this year - normally there would be a dozen or so.

MycatsaPirate · 27/12/2017 20:33

I am a very much each to their own and have the ability to just scroll past but a couple of things make me cringe. Individual photos showing their child opening each present - so in some cases a set of about 30 odd photos with the child not even looking at the camera. And no ability to see what they are opening either. It's basically a shot of the side of the child's head and a blur of paper. Please, take a few shots of your child holding something wearing a huge grin!

And the biggest cringe was someone who posted a photo of the four piles of presents for the dc and then some photos of them opening them (sides of head, blurred paper) and the caption 'Exactly one hour of orderly present opening this morning!'. I have no idea what that means but think it may mean that their dc are very controlled.

I only posted two photos on Christmas Day, one of DD2 sitting in front of the Christmas Tree holding a little stocking filler and grinning and the other of her holding Pixie, our little foster cat, who is now a permanent cat - we told her on Xmas day. The cat one got the best response and a lot of 'told you so's' from people that know me too well!

MycatsaPirate · 27/12/2017 20:35

This is the pic of DD2 and Pixie. It makes me very happy.

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MistressDeeCee · 28/12/2017 04:27

Love a cat photo😁

Margaritaanyone89 · 28/12/2017 04:43

I do cringe a little bit inside. I had many people on social media who took photo's of all their children's presents before they had wrapped them on Christmas day to show off what they were buying them, I found it odd.

But I'm sure I do things that make other people cringe, so each to their own. As long as you're not harming anyone! Just keep in mind, people may start to 'unfollow' you on their newsfeed if there's too many present spam!

Dixiestampsagain · 28/12/2017 04:57

On FB I can pretty much predict who will post this type of photo (the ‘look how many presents are in our pile- I bet we have more than you!!’ Type post). I’m genuinely shocked at the sheer number of presents in the piles- literally hundreds per child. Each to their own, and it’s their choice, I know, but we come from a fairly disadvantaged area; Christmas always seems a competition to some.

juliesaway · 28/12/2017 05:26

Chavs showing off their “brandz”, innit. Tacky as fuck and singularly unimpressive. Still if it makes them happy.

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HorseItIntoMe · 28/12/2017 09:05

Mycat that picture is adorable 😍

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southeastdweller · 28/12/2017 09:11

Very tacky and inconsiderate. Fair enough that teenagers do it but not adults. They're insecure and thoughtless. And why is is almost women that do it and not men?

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HorseItIntoMe · 28/12/2017 09:13

Southeast that’s very true !!

I wonder what the psychology is behind it 🤔 I’ve NEVER seen a man do it

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ItsLikeRainOnYourWeddingDay · 28/12/2017 09:22

I hate this. In my FB feed it is always the people who shouldn’t be spending as much money that do this. The ones that live in a far too small rented flat, the one whose car is falling to bits but can’t afford to fix it etc.

People need to prioritise and buying so much for Christmas really should be at he bottom of the list.

QueenStreaky · 28/12/2017 09:33

I have a Christmas birthday and usually post a picture of my gifts. I don't see it as braggy or showing off - none of them are expensive or branded, but they are considerate and appropriate I like to show my friends how much I appreciate their thoughtfulness. Christmas birthdays are shite, as a rule - I hated mine as a child because it just got caught up in 'Christmas' and I love that my friends make an effort to make my day special. Saying a public Thank You on the day is my way of acknowledging that, and knowing how lucky I am to have such ace friends Smile.

Tbh I don't much care if anyone disapproves because it's nobody's business but mine .

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HorseItIntoMe · 28/12/2017 12:59

Queen see that’s how I see it too

And if your friends on Fb are your real friends they won’t see it as showing off and probably just be happy for you

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southeastdweller · 28/12/2017 13:06

But why do you post pictures? You can just message them indiviudually to say thanks, can't you? Or just do one update thanking them all?

QueenStreaky · 28/12/2017 13:49

I post one picture, mainly so people will know I've received and liked their gifts. It's a bit like what I used to do when my son was small - instead of written thank you cards, we'd take a photo of him with each one and send them to the giver. Christmas is a busy time, more so when you've got a birthday too, and we like to do things to celebrate so it's all a bit of a rush and there isn't time for individual messages. It's just a quicker way of acknowledging gifts on the day, then I can thank people personally when I see or speak to them.

Oldraver · 28/12/2017 13:58

I'm not keen on the big pile of presents pics, I've only seen one this year and it is someone who likes to impress.

Pictures of lovely presents I don't mind....anyway no one has had as fantabulous pressie as meeeeee

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QueenStreaky · 28/12/2017 15:05

That's stunning Oldraver. You truly are blessed Wink.

MistressDeeCee · 28/12/2017 15:19

Everyone on FB has a little of the "show off" gene in them. Thats a big part of why they're there . Im not excluding myself from that. Just, some take it further than others. To the extreme, at times. It's perfectly possible to keep our thoughts and musings to ourself and just share where relevant in real life with friends and family.

I don't think women show off more. Men show off in a different way. Eg sporting achievements, gym routines, going out & about etc. I've some male friends who are vinyl collectors and will talk and put photos up about their latest find..on and on and on about it. I've unfollowed those.

Why are so many convoluted explanations involved in people pretending they're the private type, or don't want to show off a little at times? We do, that's why we are on FB. Some of us not as extreme as others granted, but we still want to be seen.

I can't imagine a good friend giving me a gift, then taking a photo and saying thanks on FB. What for, when you can and will see/phone friend and thank him/her? It's the need to be seen and admired that drives a wish to stick present photo on FB. It is what it is. No pretence here.