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Showing off posting pics of your presents on Fb

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HorseItIntoMe · 25/12/2017 21:20

My best friend thinks it’s showing off and she has been really snarky about people we both know posting pics of their gifts

Personally I really like seeing what people have had but also because I like to see people I like happy

Although I personally then decided not to say / post a pic on Fb what I’d had for fear people would think I’m a show off twat 😩

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ILoveTheEU · 26/12/2017 06:50

Skint Friend with several DC said it's painful to see huge piles of stuff, knowing she simply cannot do that for her DC. They lost a lot (emotionally) when their Dad left, as well. I'm sensitive to that.

Single items I'm cool with, beautifully wrapped single item or much appreciated single item, even if expensive, no problem. But huge piles of stuff for few people: it's unkind.

Oblomov17 · 26/12/2017 06:50

I really don't like it. Majorly. Or when they post birthday shots, with a primary aged child/toddler with a humongous pile of presents. I think it's grotesque. A big present/a main plus a small pile of a few presents.
Who needs more than 6 or say 10 presents.
But 25,35,45 presents. Really? Vile.

Ohyesiam · 26/12/2017 07:01

I bet burglars love it.

CocaColaTruck · 26/12/2017 07:06

My FB friends tend to post just one or two things. A completed lego model, for example. I love to see them.

I posted a joke present DH bought me because I knew it would make my friends smile.

Billben · 26/12/2017 07:14

I think it’s crass and in many cases a pathetic attempt to show off in front of your friends when truth be told, very often the gifts are only of relatively cheap value.

AndhowcouldIeverrefuse · 26/12/2017 07:18

Eurgh why would you put pictures of your presents on the internet and add some trite comment? We had a lovely day yesterday and didn't go anywhere near Facebook - the day was better because of that! Guess it's just not for me.

Alicetherabbit · 26/12/2017 07:19

I think the difference is posting a huge pile of unopened presents compared to posting a picture of them playing with their toys.
Personally I haven't posted, maybe cos Dds present pile was meagre by comparison (eight) still took all day for her to open them!

OliviaStabler · 26/12/2017 07:20

Doesn't bother me at all

Fourfantasticfrogs · 26/12/2017 07:31

I've left FB for the Christmas period. For me I find it a bit an anxiety inducing seeing what ppl have done in the run up to Christmas and on the day.
I've stayed on Insta, oddly it doesn't create the same feelings of inadequacy, but have found the showy offness a bit too much. Not so much with kids presents but from adults showing off their Laboutins and Louis Vuitton trainers and handbags.

Beakyplinders · 26/12/2017 07:50

Posting a picture of someone smiling with a much wanted or appreciate gift - yes.

A photo purely of the gifts with no one in it as in 'look at all the stuff I got' - no.

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HorseItIntoMe · 26/12/2017 12:32

I’ve posted pics in the past of gifts

I think with me it’s because I’ve been in real poverty in the past and can’t believe how different my life is now

But can totally see how that could be seen as showing off esp by people who don’t know me well.

Interesting thread

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JustHope · 26/12/2017 12:42

There’s something seriously lacking in a persons life if they feel the need to do this.

Dionysuss · 26/12/2017 14:02

Family member uploaded a whole album of her ds holding up each and every present he received. Purely to show off presents, in a fair few he had his eyes shut/wierd expression so not even a good photo to share iykwim.

BrownLiverSpot · 26/12/2017 14:05

I'm really disappointed as people are not doing it on my FB feed anymore. I would never do it myself but I'm nosey so love seeing what others have received. Maybe it's just my friends but would seem that many are recognising that it is a difficult economic climate and are not flashing their gifts anymore - I haven't spotted any #spoiled posts...

BalthazarImpresario · 26/12/2017 14:05

Teenagers on social media- understandable, they thrive on attention etc but adults? No thanks

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HorseItIntoMe · 26/12/2017 16:52

I do too Brown out of sheer nosiness 🙈

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RainyDayBear · 26/12/2017 16:56

I don’t mind the odd picture, I put a couple up of DD playing with her trampoline as she was delighted with it, and I like seeing similar pictures of my friends children happy with something that Santa has brought them.

I really don’t like the huge piles of unopened gifts though. I think it must be so upsetting if affording Christmas has been a struggle. A woman who lives down the road that I know from school put a picture like that up - the gifts for her three children quite literally covered half their sitting room. It was ridiculous! I think that would have upset me if I’d not been able to afford much for DD and was feeling guilty about it.

Wishingandwaiting · 26/12/2017 17:03

Live in very affluent area.
Many very high earning friends, acquaintances and ex colleagues.

Not ONE photo of presents etc.

I feel very blessed!

Wishingandwaiting · 26/12/2017 17:06

Ohyesiam

Doubt it. Piles the plastic, Lego, the odd expensive bit of games paraphernalia.

House robberies have plummeted in last 40 years because there’s so little money to be made in selling second hand when you can buy for new for not much cheaper.

passmethewineplease · 26/12/2017 17:14

I must be weird I actually like seeing the tree and presents wrapped underneath it.

I don't like when people unwrap lots of expensive gifts and organise them to take pics of, especially if their captioned with something like #boydonegood

I also don't get the burglar comment, surely it's a given that at Christmas there will be presents around?

LemonShark · 26/12/2017 17:15

Do people actually think burglars sit and monitor their Facebook feeds to see which people on their friend list (who they're close enough to know the address of) they can go rob? I don't understand the 'burglars love it' comments, how would a post showing gifts give the viewer the address? I'd have thought in this day and age where the vast majority of homes in certain areas and many more poverty stricken areas have the basics of tv, smart phones, laptop, console, that almost all homes are worth bungling if you're that way inclined.

Can anyone explain the burglars on Facebook thing?

Re huge piles of gifts on social media: incredibly crass. Post a photo of a special item to show friends if you like, but if it's chosen solely for being an obvious and expensive brand it's a bit transparent. I got a gorgeous unique handbag from OH unlike anything I've seen before (not too expensive, less than £30) I posted as I knew my friends would love it and find it funny. Posting a pic of everything you were given is so tacky and reminds me a lot of how a young child would behave (reeling off every item to anyone who asks)

notgivingin789 · 26/12/2017 17:15

I also don't see the need to do this either. I'm very mindful of people who get nothing at Christmas...whether that's due to being homeless, family break-downs, not enough money. But each to their own. My friend reckons only insecure people do this.

TheVanguardSix · 26/12/2017 17:18

It's a bit boring. If you like that sort of thing, then great. I like seeing pics of everyone's kids being surprised by a gift they wanted or a baby's first Christmas. But my friend posted a pic of her slow cooker and it did nothing for me.

passmethewineplease · 26/12/2017 17:19

They're not their.

etap · 26/12/2017 17:22

Pure jealousy and/or snobbery

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