Taking the tree down!

[Elsouth]

Is it wrong to consider taking the tree down tomorrow? When is everyone else doing it?? I think last year I did it just after Boxing Day. As the kids get older the presents seem to get bigger and I end up having to rearrange the whole room. Need that tree gone. Does that make me a grinch?

Love the decs up from start of December but find them slightly depressing once Boxing Day is over. Makes me a bit maudlin (and dusty)

Well I’ll chop mine up and burn it, as it happens, but not when it’s still Christmas.
I literally know no one in RL who does this. It really is very strange.

Oh so when you posted “strong reactions on both sides” on this thread you didn’t actually mean on this thread.

It’s really not strange karlos just different to what you do. And literally hurting no-one. I’m not sure why it bothers you so much.

Mine - absolute minimalist decorations - are all taken down on New Year's Eve, I like a fresh new year with no echoes of the last year.

And by the way I won’t be rampaging around the lounge slashing the decs down whilst wailing. No children will be hurt in the process...

Really wine? I was thinking of setting fire to mine infront of the DC. Might chuck some of their presents on too. Cause I’m a wicked bastard.

Donny yes, I meant on this thread. My post also 8ncluded comments about earlier threads. Did you read it before you got all aggressive with me?
I get it, your Christmas was not great, like lots of people you were disappointed. Your situation is difficult. No need to snap at everyone though. FYI - you are one of the people on the down early side whose reactions are strong.

Karlos No I think you're barking up the wrong Christmas tree 🌲. I've done exactly the same ASA sahm and a work outside the home mum. Don't try to make this a them and us thread please.

I worked up until 23rd and went back today - 365 days a year work place, will probably have to do Christmas day next year. Makes zero difference.

For me what matters is the kids are home - the tree's for them, I vaguely like it for the couple of weeks from 24th to 6th, along with the log fire... But the fire is far more important and we wouldn't bother with the tree if we didn't have kids (didn't before we had them).

cardi but you did make a bit of an ignorant comment about autism which I think is the main reason you got jumped on.

Surely it’s obvious that to prepare a child with autism for Christmas changes you might have to get in there early before trees go up everywhere. You can’t just keep your kids inside until you decide it’s close enough to Christmas for a tree

We suspect DD has autism, I tried to keep a lid on Christmas exposure until Dec 1st and that was hard enough.

I did actually want to burn our tree Donny, we lit the fire today and everything! But DH put it outside in the pouring rain

Now our poor neighbours will be traumatised by it.

Does it really matter?
Whether you are a person who puts your tree up in November and takes it down Boxing Day
A person who puts it up on Christmas Eve and takes it down on the 12th night
Or whether you put it up a week before Christmas and take it down the 12th night.
Who gives a shit? As long as you are happy with what you do!
(I'm a 13th nighter and I'm sticking to that!)
Your tradition is your tradition- stick to it!

No need to snap at everyone though. FYI - you are one of the people on the down early side whose reactions are strong.

Reaction to being called immoral, disgusting, miserable, joyless for taking my tree down was strong? Of course it was. Wouldn’t yours be? But I haven’t called anyone any names or ridiculed them for keeping their tree up. Which isn’t the opposite side of taking it down. My posts have been in response to people’s horrible judgements of me and others like me based on something entirely inconsequential to them or anyone else. None of my posts have been hurtful about anyone keeping their tree up. They have all been defensive posts.

Which is the opposite side

I agree with Donny. Why are people having such a strong reaction with us taking our decorations down early? Some folk doth protest too much.... I couldn't care whether you keep yours up until march; what ever makes you happy.

Some people just seem rather emotionally invested in the Twelve days of Christmas and The Christmas Tree, and don't seem to grasp that it's not that important to other people, so they call them , miserable, smug, immoral, consumerist, and other insults.
It would be understandable if people were telling them they should be taking their trees down now and immediately stop celebrating Christmas but seeing as no one has said that it can only be seen as a massive over reaction.

But Donny I haven't called you any of those things. Why so snappy with me?

I mean some people don't even own Christmas trees but they put other decorations up. Some don't put any decs up at all. Who cares and why?

Batteries I didn't make any comment about children with autism, ignorant or otherwise. I said I appreciated managing change with autistic children was hard. I just asked why the poster felt it was important for her children to be used to the tree by December 1st, rather than mid December in time for Christmas. It was a question about the ouster's view of the Christmas period, not about autism per se. That's what I mean about strong reactions - posters are snapping without even reading posts.

Because you said there were strong reactions on both sides. There aren’t. No-one who has taken their tree down early is name calling or passing judgement on those who keep their up. There have been strong defensive responses to those throwing nasty judgemental comments around from those on the receiving ends of those comments.

Right back at you re reading posts cardi

You can’t just keep your kids inside until you decide it’s close enough to Christmas for a tree

I saw that Batteries but it was in your post, not the one I was asking about. In that one, the poster said she put her tree up so her children were used to it, not so they were used to other trees elsewhere. I was simply asking about her timescale. If the answer was that it was to help with trees outside the home, she could have said so. I was not being judgemental, I was asking a question. You, on the other hand, seem to want to imply that I'm stupid.

Each to their own bit 12 th night here - don’t understand people not wanting tree up for New Year’s Eve - that being said, we don’t put ours up at beginning of December. It seems sad to me when there’s so much preparation and planning goes into the festive season that some people seem dying to get rid of any traces of it - can slightly understand if both parents back at work, but for those with children and extended break I do think it’s a pity!!

We’re obviously talking at cross purposes and as you say I can’t speak for the other poster.

I read your post as critical - I don’t understand why you would question that she knows what’s best for her kids.

I am very sensitive to this kind of criticism at the moment tho - my DD has found Christmas difficult and my fucking family have predictably been total arses about it - WHY is your tree up so early WHY did you open some presents early WHY did you delay some presents til Boxing Day WHY don’t you do things the same as us WHY isn’t your family normal (ok I’ve imagined that last one).

People are so judgey about Christmas and it only serves to put a downer on people doing things differently for whatever reason

I agree I just don't think its anybody's place to be questioning what's right for somebody else's dc. If certain measures are put in place it will be for a good reason.