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AIBU?

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Original poster

To ask you to look at the mental health board

55 replies

BabsCabsIsLocal · 25/12/2017 18:35

... because MN shunt any posts there if someone is struggling, and it's soul breaking tumbleweed. Like we're not fully human, need to be sectioned off away from the normal people. I'm sure that's not the intent but it's a great way to isolate posters who need support.

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ElenaBothari · 25/12/2017 18:36

Oh yes that's very sad. Will pop over later.

Pengggwn · 25/12/2017 18:45

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JamPasty · 25/12/2017 18:48

Linky: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/feeling_depressed

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BabsCabsIsLocal · 25/12/2017 18:59

Yeh I'm not sure what the best solution is...it's so sad, it echoes real life where people hurting are expected to take themselves off to the doctor and get fixed, away from other humans. And then it's medicalised rather than looking at the actual problem.

And then people already struggling are left to support others (as they're the only ones on mental health board).

OP posts:
JamPasty · 25/12/2017 19:44

I have had a big whinge at MNHQ about this. I don't know if they'll listen, but I thought it was worth a try. And in the meantime, I might just bump the heck out of this thread.

Bump :)

FuzzyCustard · 25/12/2017 19:49

I found the same thing happened on "life limiting illnesses". I posted there once and it was 3 weeks before I got a response and that was from another person struggling with the same sadnesses. I don't know what the answer is really.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 25/12/2017 19:56

Totally agree OP. It does make you feel you've been shunted out of the way, though I understand the reasoning.

LooksLikeImStuckHere · 25/12/2017 20:01

I had no idea. I’ll take a look tonight, thanks OP.

JamPasty · 25/12/2017 20:02

Bump

missyB1 · 25/12/2017 20:04

Taking a look now.

Clandestino · 25/12/2017 20:06

BabsCabs I don't consider it being shunted away. You post something in the AIBU as it usually us, you get ripped to pieces. Do you think a person with MH is really going to take it on the chin without any problems?

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 25/12/2017 20:08

But maybe chat is a gentler place. Mental health tends only to be read by people in the same state if mind when sometimes you might benefit from a wider perspective too.

TheHodgeoftheHedge · 25/12/2017 20:09

I've just had a whinge at them for deleting one of these threads all together as it "wasn't allowed" rather than shunting it to MH. Someone really needed help and I feel like we've just kicked them in the teeth :(

SouthySa · 25/12/2017 20:10

As much as I would love to it kicks off my own MH issue so I hide it as much as possible. Sorry

FabulouslyGlamorousFerret · 25/12/2017 20:11

I just look on 'active posts' I thought everyone did? I've never looked at a specific 'topic'. I'm sorry you're having a shit time 💐

Crunchymum · 25/12/2017 20:16

I find almost every sub forum (barring the select few) to be quiet.

Sorry if people are feeling ignored and cast aside.

MN doesn't seem to offer much beyond CF threads / trollery these days anyway Hmm

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 25/12/2017 20:18

No I always find that genuine posts are ignored in favour of more exciting ones

BrownLiverSpot · 25/12/2017 20:23

Chat might be a more visible place than MH topic board but less brutal than AIBU. I have sometimes posted on specific topic threads but didn't get any replies so I've stopped doing it now. Never for anything delicate though.

CantSleepClownsWillEatMe · 25/12/2017 20:23

It's a difficult one because on one hand I can see why it might feel like being shunted off out of sight but on the other I've seen vulnerable posters take an absolute mauling after "posting for traffic" on a more active topic, usually AIBU or Chat.

A pp suggested Chat might be gentler but I don't think that's true anymore. These days AIBU sets the tone for most of MN imo, I've definitely noticed that tone has spread to the rest of the site. Add to that you have a fair number of posters who are clearly here to be argumentative, aggressive or goady fuckers and I'm not sure MN is an ideal place to seek MH support any more Sad.

Chocfingers · 25/12/2017 20:28

I wish MNHQ would ditch AIBU. They could split chat into different categories.

Farontothemaddingcrowd · 25/12/2017 20:29

Yes AIBU permeates other boards now

BlackRod6 · 25/12/2017 20:33

Bump

JamPasty · 25/12/2017 21:05

Bump

JamPasty · 25/12/2017 21:29

bump

Straycatblue · 25/12/2017 21:48

But maybe chat is a gentler place. Mental health tends only to be read by people in the same state if mind when sometimes you might benefit from a wider perspective too.

I agree that chat is a gentler place however unlike AIBU the threads in chat get deleted after 30 days and the thread might be a great source of support for the OP and information for others and deleting it would lose all of that.