To wish Soap and Glory giftsets next existed

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Every fucking year.

My family do lists and I bought them all presents they had asked for.

In return I have received four fucking Soap and Glory sets. I hate the stuff and they know this; plus I find the 'Boots 3 for 2' stupidly thoughtless.

I know I'm being ungrateful but it just highlights that no one really knows me.

Re-gift - it's the only way.

I can see the OP's original post was not grabby, but some of the responses are unbelievably rude.
Would people really do/say some of the things they advocate on here? Can you imagine how you would feel if you were the buyer of the unloved gift?
It's much easier to not bother with gifts for adults, but honestly, reading some of the posts on here this morning, I do wonder if some people ever become actual adults, or spend their entire lives as children!

I've asked them all for receipts and they are all not speaking to me now.

Cathf why would you feel upset if you were the buyer of the unwanted gift? I don't think they've been particularly emotionally involved in choosing the gifts...

Very very rude to ask for receipts.

We teach our children to say thank you and act accordingly if they get a duplicate or something they don't like. Then we give to charity after Christmas or pass onto someone who will use it.

We also have a table at work that people take smellies etc in they don't want and swap for something else.

Yellow have you read the actual thread?

Haven't read full thread but if no one else has suggested this give them to a women's refuge or homeless shelter after Xmas

Read the thread.

So you get them what's on their lists and they ignore yours? Next year, just tell them, 'No more gift exchange for us, please.'

Its not about not liking a gift.
It's about op specifically askingbfor things she will use and getting something completely unrelated and useless to her instead.
Its about her going and getting things others asked for and spending a lot of money on them because that was the whole point in the lists, to get feck all back.
Its not inconsiderate at all. The only people who are incinsiderate are the people buying the 3 for 2 sets and giving them to someone they KNOW doesnt use them because she is allergic to it .

yellow i highly doubt you spent ages getting people great presents and told them i hate xxx product but just get me shedloads of the horrible stuff and i can give it all away and not have any gifts at xmas!

Is it from 'land of hope and glory?' My father, in the 1930s, used to sing 'land of Soapy water'.

Then I would ignore their lists next year and gift it all back to them

Sweetpea - that is INSPIRED!

Thanks for the food bank idea btw. I have five lots of shower gel, nice stuff but too highly perfumed for me (I like very subtle scents or I get migraines)
Someone else can feel pampered

Just don’t bother buying for them next year. I am considering not bothering, as well as the Poundland gifts for my dc’s I also got a present from my friend which was identical to what she bought me last year (not really something you need 2 of), smellies that I can’t use and chocolate which I won’t eat (I only eat a tiny amount as I like to diet and keep fit, we have been given mountains of chocolate, biscuits and sweets). I don’t want to sound ungrateful but it just feels a bit sad when I put so much effort into choosing gifts for people.

Luckily dd’s School are always asking for raffle prizes, I’m happy to send stuff to the local woman’s shelter too.

OP, I can see why you are upset, why bother asking what you would like and then buy something completely different. There’s lots of small things I would be happy with, I wanted handwarmers as I’m outside a lot, fluffy socks and thermals would have been good too and not that expensive.

I would donate it as I've said, but I was relying on getting what I had asked for because I can't afford to buy it myself now that I've spent money on Christmas presents, and it's stuff that I need! That's what's really pissed me off.

I feel the same tea, I think next year I won’t bother buying for some people and just buy a couple things for myself that I need. I spent a fortune this year on people. The only person that has bought me what I have asked for is my mum.

So it sites unused in your house? Why?

Why not lay every unused S and G gift out on a table next time they visit and they might get the message?

oh I would so gift them back - not the exact one to the same person though

I love soap and glory mother pucker lip gloss! If it's a makeup one send it to me

Regift it back to them for their birthdays next year and give them a tin of shortbread for next Christmas. That'll learn them

Next year say no presents. You’ve spent money you need and got a load of shit in return. Just don’t bother next year. This year, you should donate the lot somewhere so you don’t have to look at it any more.

I would be pissed pff. It’s not about being ungrateful - it’s about them deliberating choosing to give you something you don’t like!

OP I used to work at Boots and we would exchange without a receipt as long as we sold it in store (unless we thought it was stolen!). Definitely try to exchange it.

My DH participates in a Secret Santa where he works. Every year he really tries to buy a nice thoughtful present for the person he has drawn out. Every year he gets shite. I told him before he bought this year's offering - why do you bother but he called me a grinch. This year he received a table top football game suitable for a 10 year old. He's a middle aged man. Clearly a regift. He has conceded defeat and he won't be participating next year. You are not been unreasonable, you are right to feel peed off.

Yanbu. DH had this with his DB for years. We no longer exchange presents.

2 years ago I got 11 bottles of shower gel for Christmas, along with loads of other toiletries.
Toiletries are quite a lazy gift although I love soap and glory and sanctuary products.