To wish Soap and Glory giftsets next existed

[teaandcakeat8]

Every fucking year.

My family do lists and I bought them all presents they had asked for.

In return I have received four fucking Soap and Glory sets. I hate the stuff and they know this; plus I find the 'Boots 3 for 2' stupidly thoughtless.

I know I'm being ungrateful but it just highlights that no one really knows me.

Why don't you do list too next year?

I do a list!! I sent it to everyone! And they have just ignored it.

They'd only give you something equally thoughtless. Do they pride themselves on being super organised and done with Xmas shopping by October?! I wonder if they buy this shit as soon as it goes on sale and then just try and match it with a recipient. Keep all the sets and regift them back next year.

brilliant idea. gift them back to them. male or female.

Send them to me, I love soap and glory and am too mean to buy it for myself.

In exchange you can have the too small slippers I received!

Ha Snjp I have a bathroom cupboard full of the stuff from Christmases past! I must have about 10 tubs of body butter. Brings me out in a rash.

Well if you do a list and they ignore it, all etiquette about polite thanks and looking grateful go out of the window IMO.

Put everything together so they can see that they've bought you all the same crap and get them all together and say to them 'why do we do lists when you've all bought me this stuff you know I don't like'?

I really don't get the S&G hype. It's awful. I bought myself a shampoo, shower gel and conditioner set in the sale, used it a couple of times and put it back in the cupboard. It just seems really cheap and nasty.

I know it's been bought because it's in the 3 for 2. Fine if they're short on cash, but i would rather we didn't bother and I would save my money!

For context, for them I have purchased specific items of clothing, record and aftershave which was not cheap.

I don’t get the Boots 3 for 2 hype

Grabby ungrateful threads like this are the reason I’m dreading Xmas this year. We’re on a budget and I’ve done my best but am worried my DH’s wealthier family will be sneering behind my back at our gifts. I didn’t know Bayliss and Harding was a problem until I saw it on Mumsnet and now it’s soap and glory too. I just want to cry. This isn’t how Christmas should be

I really wouldn’t say thank you in this instance. Tell them what you’ve just told us and buy them 3 for 1 soap and glory gift sets next year if they don’t see, to understand the issue?

Do boots sells any of the things you wanted? If so pack all your gift sets into a big bag and take them back to boots, ask for a refund in gift vouchers and buy something you want instead.

*seem to understand

I apologise for being so negative - it’s just me feeling sad, not a reflection on everyone else. I apologise, everyone. Sorry. And happy Christmas.

I asked for some specific make up which is probably around the same price so will try an exchange but no one has kept their bloody receipt!

I made a point of saying no soap & glory (I’m allergic to it!) but I’m guessing i’ll Get at least one set. Last year I got two from my mum alone.

craigglen I'm inclined to agree with you. However I think the issue here is more that the family have agreed as a whole to do lists, then the lists have been ignored.

I'd like to think the majority of people are happy with any gift when it's a surprise gift. I for one certainly don't care what brand it is or whatever, am just grateful and pleased to be given a gift. It's a bit weird if the tradition is to do lists and then one list is ignored. I always wonder if there's more to it, like the gifts the receiver is unhappy with are extras or something.

Honestly I have baskets and baskets of it that I don't use!

To make it worse - I used to work at Boots head office in buying for Soap and Glory - I got shitloads of free stuff then and I don't use it!

craig Why dont you agree not to exchange presents with adults in your extended family if money is tight. Most people don't want people spending money they don't have on things nobody wants.

It seems all one way in the OPs family.They do lists and she has followed the list and they haven't, which is not fair at all.

Trouble with returning it is that it will be all in the sale now and she'll get hardly any money back. I would honestly regift it all back to them next year and then say no more presents for adults.

Craigglen I'm pleased you're so righteous - but I can't believe this wouldn't annoy you a bit.

I don't have loads of spare money, so I always write lists of things I need - so it pisses me off when I dont get it as I now have to buy it - but have also shelled out buying other people gifts.

Aw Craigglen, I like Bayliss and Harding (and I’d like soap and glory too!).

OP if you don’t like it, exchange it - you don’t need the reciept. And from about June next year start making big hints about being sick of soap and glory!

I agree with just agreeing to not buy for adults next year. Spend the money buying what YOU want for yourself.

Grabby ungrateful threads like this are the reason I’m dreading Xmas this year.

I don't think this is grabby or ungrateful.

If family KNOW that OP doesn't like this stuff, they shouldn't buy it. Even if the budget is tight, a small, cheaper gift is much better than something you know the recipient won't or can't use.

I don't like Soap and Glory, to Bayliss and Harding (Molton and Brown is okay) because it brings me out in a rash. Any stuff like this I get goes straight into

Charity shops
Church raffles
and lately, Food Banks - they often need toiletries, and just because I can't use it doesn't mean someone else wouldn't be able to. Not everyone is allergic.

It would have been as cheap for people to have bought OP a pair of pyjamas/ book/ CD/ toiletries they wanted.

I would be pee'd off too.

Teaandcakeat8 - I’m sorry, I apologise. I didn’t intend to seem righteous and I regretted posting what I did as it wasn’t in the spirit of the thread. Everyone - please ignore my post, please.

Again, sorry and happy Xmas.

I asked for make up, socks, some running stuff like energy gels (am doing a marathon next year), books and face wash/moisturiser that I've run out of.

None of it hugely expensive and I would been pleased with any of it.

Ironically my 80 year old Grandma who is housebound has bought me some perfume and make up that was on the list!