Just walked in on my husband standing stark naked in front of his mother

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Just walked in on my 34 year old husband brushing his hair having come out of the shower and his mother was standing there talking to him. He was STARK NAKED. That's so weird isn't it? I told him it was weird and said I wouldn't stand naked in front of my dad and he kind of conceded. I'm freaked out. AIBU?

I was an au pair to a nudist French family. Everyone sun bathed naked but they wore clothes indoors. I very much doubt they went into each other's bathrooms. After a while it was all very boring and mundane.

Wouldn't bother me. I walk around half naked around my mum and sister, I don't see nudity as a big deal.

You must be rather lacking in imagination then JanetStWalker!

Why wasn't he wearing a towel if he'd just come out of the shower, and if he was dry shouldn't he have been getting dressed.
It's a bit unusual I suppose to be so unconscious of nakedness. If you're not having us on, OP

I suppose it's a bit unusual. Doesn't shock me though.
And for the record I don't think penises are "grim" or ugly. They are just another body part, but one that can get interesting if you are in a sexual relationship with the owner ( which I'm assuming his mother isnt) .
I do find it odd when women go on about how ridiculous or ugly naked men look. Is it just me that is quite partial to a naked man, or what?

It’s weird.

Once my ds was old enough to bathe/shower by himself without supervision, I gave him privacy. I would never just walk into the bathroom while he’s in there or his bedroom when he’s not dressed yet, or at least has something on. Part of teaching our children about safety from predators is teaching them that their personal spaces are their own only and not to be invaded by anyone else, close relatives included. He’s 34, presumably his mother has been doing this all along. I think that’s weird and that the excuses for doing so are weird.

It’s not about being prudish about nudity. It’s about respecting other people’s personal space and them respecting yours. What is the point of the mother having to speak to her son when she knows he is stark naked and getting dressed in his bedroom? Why can’t she wait a few minutes until he’s done?

OP doesn't mention penis swinging. That's your over excited imagination adding bits.

Had you read my previous posts to this thread, you would have realised that there is nothing about a penis that could ever fire my imagination.

And yes, if a penis isn’t contained within underwear or clothing, then it will just be hanging there (would you prefer ‘hanging’ to ‘swinging’?)

Doesn’t change the fact that a man choosing to walk around penis swinging/hanging/clutching etc is not the same as breastfeeding.

I do find it odd when women go on about how ridiculous or ugly naked men look. Is it just me that is quite partial to a naked man, or what? grin

I don’t think naked men are inherently ugly or ridiculous looking. Quite the opposite.

Just their penises.

@butchy
there was no walking around either. OP says "standing". Perhaps you will tell us now there is no difference between standing and walking now either.

Just no ... Put your pants on next time Fella 😝

I do find it odd when women go on about how ridiculous or ugly naked men look. Is it just me that is quite partial to a naked man, or what

I find that a little odd to state on a thread about a mother and her naked adult son.

Bottom line is as witnessed by this thread, most people would find this intimate scenario presented by the op as discomfiting and odd behaviour from both of them. Lack of normal adult boundaries would be my initial thought.

there was no walking around either. OP says "standing". Perhaps you will tell us now there is no difference between standing and walking now either.

Who is “us”? Is this the royal “us”? I thought I was answering your post? Is there more than one of you?

Unless he’s been standing in the same position since the OP first saw him, I’m going to assume there’s been an element of walking (if only to get his clothes).

But whether he walks around naked or stands still naked in front of his mother, I’m afraid my opinion is unchanged. Breastfeeding is functional. Standing/walking around naked in front of one’s mother is not.

Are you Charlotte York? Is your MIL called Bunny?

I find that a little odd to state on a thread about a mother and her naked adult son. hmm

She was responding to me saying that penises are grim, so it wasn’t really related.

And I was responding to a poster trying to conflate breastfeeding with this scenario, as I recall.

The comment about penises being grim was an aside.

That is really weird. Too weird.

DH family are like this but they are German to be fair.

True enough. My ex h was German and we'd go to baths and nude beaches and not think anything of it. My best friend is Dutch and she and I share a bed in hotel rooms, walk round naked, etc. Meh. We are both married and mothers and we love naked men . We did a long route together and her h met us with their motor home on each leg. We all slept in the one bed and got changed, etc in the motor home when the weather was bad. Nothing happened.

YANBU.

The one and only time I went swimming with MIL she came out of the shower cubicle starkers, walking towards me, talking to me. It was a female only changing room.

I did not want to see that, honestly. Would have been happy for the body which gave birth to DH to be forever a mystery from the neck down.

It's weird. YANBU.

He prob won't do it again and wasn't thinking about it. Fact that they obviously thought it normal suggests they don't think anything of it but now you've pointed it out to him he prob will be more cautious.

You must be rather lacking in imagination then JanetStWalker!

My username alone would suggest otherwise.

Wouldn't bother me. I walk around half naked around my mum and sister, I don't see nudity as a big deal.

And your dad and brothers too, right? Uncle Dave?

No, but by God, penises are grim. I think men often don’t realise this

Grim? In what way? And why are you suggesting they should think their bodies are "grim" because you have some weird issues?

Grim? In what way? And why are you suggesting they should think their bodies are "grim" because you have some weird issues?

By “grim” I mean aesthetically unappealing, to put it mildly, not that I think they should be bobbitted.

If that means I have a “weird issue”, then guilty as charged, m’lord.

My username alone would suggest otherwise. smile

I’ve just googled and am still none the wiser.

No, but by God, penises are grim. I think men often don't realise this.
What a bizarre thing to say. A penis is a part of the human body, no more grim than a nose, ear or hand.
Having said that, in our family we keep our private parts private generally, and I think thats true of most families, so can understand why the OP was taken aback.