I have 2 sisters. Both younger than me. I am 34, one is 32 and the other is 28. Our parents separated and divorced when I was 10, and we moved 150 miles from where we grew up to where my mother still lives, which was the village where she grew up, as there was more family around.
From when I was 10, my mother left all of us home alone to look after ourselves (bearing in mind my youngest sister was 4), including cooking etc. whilst she went to work.
My middle sister (2 years younger than me) is psychotic. There is no other word for it. She has multiple neuroses that we had to deal with when she was growing up (my youngest sister being made of slime, and she couldn’t touch her directly, or anything she’d come into contact with; she couldn’t see the soles of anyone’s feet; you had to shut the bathroom door in a particular way or she’d have a huge tantrum. The list is endless).
She was also a thief, stealing any food from the fridge that she fancied. There was never very much in there but it was usually yoghurts and things for my lunch (so I always went to school with no food for the day). She would steal valuable things and sell them at school too - she took my mothers engagement ring to primary school and sold it to a friend. Luckily their mother found it and gave it back.
She was also exceptionally violent towards me. She would push me down the stairs on a near daily basis; grab my hair to pull my hair back and hold a knife to my throat, then telling me to lie on the floor whilst she kicked me black and blue; she sprayed aerosols into my eyes at point blank range (literally holding my head in a vice like grip); she dropped a sledgehammer over my head (which I only dodged as the sun came out and I saw her shadow moving towards me up the wall) - it was meant to kill me. She also put cigarettes out on my arms too.
She has subsequently been expelled from 2 schools, thrown out of the Royal Navy for violence and in prison for GBH.
Never once did I get any protection or support from my mother. I made sure that my youngest sister was safe and unharmed.
I was also raped when I was at uni, 500 Miles away from home. I called Mother to tell her what happened and she replied “at least he didn’t strangle you afterwards” then hung up on me.
My mother seems to worship her 2 other daughters. When she’s talking to me, she’ll refer to “her ex-husband” (my father) and “her girls” (my sisters) like I’m a work colleague?! I am never invited to family events (apart from a BBQ a couple of times, and even then my aunt said “she didn’t have much choice”) and even tonight my mother and 2 sisters were at a carol concert I knew nothing about.
My youngest sister has just been in New Zealand for 10 months, and will be moving out to the Middle East for 2 years on a teaching contract. She has come home to find the house literally covered in dog poo (mother’s dog has been incontinent for months). She had taken the dog to be put down and now told me she needs to get Mother some help to look after the house.
When I was living there (but paying rent) I did all of the cleaning, tidying, polishing of the furniture. Mother never lifted a finger. My youngest sister had taken over (she lived there rent free). My mother hasn’t lifted a finger ever to clean or tidy anything. Ever. The house has been gathering dust and shit for 10 months.
My step mother told me last night that I need to help out more as I love closest. My sister has sent me a message to say “I guess I’m dealing with this one then 😂” like a bloody martyr.
I am a single mother with a 3 year old, working 6 days a week. I have literally paid my way through life. I have never been given any support from my
Mother. Even my work cheques were paid to E surname, as we share the same initial so the cheques could be paid into her bank.
My mother paid for youngest sister to fly back from New Zealand so she could be home for Christmas.
She paid for an all inclusive holiday to Rome for my psychotic sister and her to go on.
She promises me £50 for my son’s shoes (I never asked for the money as I don’t want it) but she keeps saying she can’t afford to give it to me yet.
AIBU to just ignore the whole fucking lot of them?