Staying with PIL and room is full of BILs stuff - is this weird?

[Seahawk80]

We're staying with PIL for 3 nights before Christmas and 2 nights after. Before we came to stay they said that they had spoken to BIL and said that now we had DS we would need his old room as you can't fit a travel cot in the room that was DH's. They said he was ok with this - I thought well he should be - he's in his 30s! The house was bought when DH and his brother were in their early 20s so it's not even childhood bedrooms. When we arrived yesterday we came up to the room and it's like one of those living museums! BILs stuff is everywhere- there is no wardrobe / drawer space which is annoying but not that bad. There is a a desk and chest of drawers both covered with his stuff - things like old letters, business cards, pens, postcards, just bits of crap. We have had to put everything on the floor and can't unpack. It also looks a total mess. I'm sure they have other people to stay and can't believe they leave things in such a mess - he doesn't live here and hasn't done for years - God knows how long it's been there! Is this normal? I know I would never have guests to stay in a room that was a tip! Please tell me your funny stories about staying with PIL so that I can read them after stubbing my toe on an open suitcase when I get up for night feeds!

It feels rude, entitled and selfish.

why? My kids will keep their bedroom even when they move out. They can come back after uni, they can need to move back in, but even if they have their own property - which I hope they will- our door will be always open, it's their home too, they won't need a formal invitation to pop in.

My mum still asks me if it's ok if someone sleeps in my bedroom when they have a full house

My room at my mums could be that of a 13 year old, pictures of my dog/horses/rosettes/old jewlery I never wear/young adult books.
I love it...

Temptress my children are certainly not rude, entitled or selfish.
Will you just sling everything out once yours have left home and forget they ever lived with you?

Actually when I was 20, my mum was moving house. My stepdad took it upon himself to burn all of our childhood mementoes. I have nothing from my childhood at all - it’s really sad and I still get very angry about it.
Things like pictures of times with my Dad which I’ve nothing of now. I did manage to save a few bits but it hurts. He’s never apologized for it.

It's not Mothers of boys. I've four and only the one still living here has his bedroom as he wants it. The other bedrooms have been remade into naice guest rooms in case anyone wants to stay with us.

like they didn't want us to use our clip on high chair on their table as it is very old, they said oh he's happy in his bouncy chair. I had to point out that he needs to eat and that he can't just live on air to protect their table!

That's a bit rude of you to be fair. You can't just go into someone's house and expect them to say yes to everything. If they don't want their table ruined, they don't want it ruined. It's not your place or you house to override their requests is it?

And some of those clip on chairs can mark tables so if it's an old table that means something to them or they actually like, I think you should try to respect that.