To flush the toilet during the night...

[MelbourneClown03]

... in other people's houses.

When staying over night at other people's houses, do you flush the loo if you get up in the night for a wee? I don't know what the etiquette is.

I can remember, when staying at my nan and grandpa's house as a child, that no one flushed the loo if they got up in the night. By the morning it seemed to resemble a long drop and made me feel even as a child.

Staying for a few nights with PIL at the moment and DMIL has made several comments about hearing me get up in the night to go to the loo. I have apologised to her for disturbing her and she said not to worry, it was just that PIL could hear the loo flushing from their bedroom. Help!

I don’t flush in the night. But I do put the lid down.

I would rather be woken by a flush than come face to face with a bowl full of wee in the morning! As your PIL have mentioned it, could you just ask them what they'd prefer you to do? The only quieter option would be to pour a jug of water in after you'd used the loo, which would more or less flush it but wouldn't be so noisy.

Ask them. In my own home I wouldn't flush, but would always flush when visiting

I always do. I live in halls of residence half the time just now (in a block for mature students) and hear the loo going, it lasts what a minute or less and I fall back to sleep. It wouldn't occur to me to worry about it in someone else's home, just is a necessity , I hate an unflushed loo. I always seem to have a period or when I sleep in other people's houses too and couldn't leave that for them to find!

Our house rule is 'If it's yellow, let it mellow. If it's brown, flush it down.' Apologies, its a gross rhyme.

Feck sake.

Some trivial pursuits here! I could never leave a loo unflushed and if they wake up their problem. Sorry to sound so callous but there we are.

Flush always. Leaving wee in the bowl overnight is just grim.

I'm a light sleeper - I'd be really fed up if anyone flushed in the night. Check with your hosts and honour their preferences

Ugh rank. Always flush.

All loos should be flushed after you use them. At night. Whenever.

Not doing so is gross.

Ear plugs, eyemasks and a total hatred for visitors is me.

Just saying. I'd say most people are the same if they are honest.

I would be mortified if anyone walks in the loos after me and I hadn't flush. I always do.

'I'm a light sleeper - I'd be really fed up if anyone flushed in the night. Check with your hosts and honour their preferences'

Agree! Sleep is everything.

I flush it because it is essential. If people wake up, tough. That is their problem.

Some people don't flush in the night? That's ghastly.

My grandma made me use a potty underneath the bed when I was a kid.

Can't you just check with the hosts when you stay, for clarity? I'd prefer to flush!

Growing up we didn’t flush generally as we had a mechanical pump for water so it made a hell
Of a racket. Now we generally don’t flishbat night unless we have guests in which case we do as who wants a bowl of someone else’s stale wee?

When we first moved to this house the plumbing was terrible and flushing the loo was an awful noise of pipes clanking and banging which would go on for well over ten minutes. It still never occurred to us to ask guest not to flush.

However, as MIL in this instance seems bothered I would be inclined to ask directly and honour their wishes

As a pp said I'd rather hear a flush in the night than face someone's "evacuations" in the morning.

Likewise I'd rather face the wrath of a host for flushing than leave my bodily excretions on show for them in the morning.

A toilet bowl full of wee, or worse 💩 is not what I want to encounter when I get up.

That said I may have been scarred by a relative who took the mantra of "if it's yellow let it mellow, if it's brown flush it down" to the max. So all the toilets were perpetually filled with the piss of 10+ toilet visits and stunk to hell.

I always flush the chain. My FIL never flushed my chain and it stresses me out. I think it's so disrespectful to not flush someone else's toilet when you use it. Regardless of the the time of day.

I never flush wee at night Urine is sterile i dont care if it sits in the loo all night

Always flush!

My in laws used to be night flush resistant, but they think nothing of stomping about, closing door heavily, thundering wee, farting, coughing, aggressive lights switching on but the flush was apparently a noise too far!!!

I think where people may have grown up with water shortages or extremely poor plumbing there may be different attitudes to what is necessary.

During the summer our well would dry out and in winter it would ice over. Saving water became second nature. I also never leave the tap running when brushing my teeth

I dot flush on a night on account of the fact that our toilet is roughly next to DH’s head (all bar a thin stud wall). But that’s only ever for a wee and I’m always first up to use it again anyway. But at 34 weeks pregnant if I was to flush every time I got up all night I would wake the whole house up several times over. I do close the lid though.

However if I was away or our toilet wasn’t so close to us/ someone else then I would definitely flush. And I always do during the day.

Urine is sterile

It most definitively is not.

God, flush! Always. It's grim to leave it and makes disgusting stains on the limescale which I'm the only one who bothers to scrape off.

It might be sterile but it stinks. Especially men's wee.