To flush the toilet during the night...

[MelbourneClown03]

... in other people's houses.

When staying over night at other people's houses, do you flush the loo if you get up in the night for a wee? I don't know what the etiquette is.

I can remember, when staying at my nan and grandpa's house as a child, that no one flushed the loo if they got up in the night. By the morning it seemed to resemble a long drop and made me feel even as a child.

Staying for a few nights with PIL at the moment and DMIL has made several comments about hearing me get up in the night to go to the loo. I have apologised to her for disturbing her and she said not to worry, it was just that PIL could hear the loo flushing from their bedroom. Help!

Agree about flushing being automatic. I don't know that I could reliably remember to not flush, especially when tired.

My slightly unreasonable belief is that this could all be solved with either a plumber or a child-trainer of some kind.

ALWAYS flush. If I go to the loo and it's not been flushed I flush it before I use it! Unflushed loos are grim.

The only time I don't flush the toilet is in my own house, between DH coming to bed (around 3am) and my normal time for getting up (6:30am). If I pee between those times, it's allowed to 'mellow' as I know I will be the next person to use the toilet.

If I am anywhere else - especially DM/DF - I always flush. I'm sorry if that disturbs them, but it's grim to find somebody else's pee and paper in the toilet; plus there's a 1-in-4 chance that I have my period when I'm visiting them, and I definitely wouldn't want them to find blood splashes too.

We flush our en suite but not the loo next to the baby’s room as it clunks when it finishes and always wakes her up. I’d rather a bit of wee in the bowl than trying to re-settle a baby a couple of times a night.

Not at home for wees because my children will wake up at anything

So do you stop flushing early in the evening when your DC's go to bed?

I'm also in the camp of flushing, it's disgusting to be met with a loo full of stale pee. Especially first thing in the morning. Eugh.

I got DP to ask his mum as I was too embarrassed to bring it up.

Apparently they are in the 'if it's yellow' camp. It makes me feel ill thinking about weeing on top of other people's wee and possible splashes but ho-hum, their house their revolting rules.

I might also add that PIL have a carpeted toilet. Another thing that makes me My PIL are lovely in most other ways but there's nowt queer as folk, when it comes to joining another family, it would seem

According to Debretts, if your host objects to you flushing the toilet during the night one should take a shit in the kettle. But of course then turn done the cup of tea first thing in the morning.

a carpeted toilet

that cannot be legal.

We always flush during the day. But, only flush at night if it's brown. I bleach my toilets every day though so I've never noticed any staining or smell.

Me and DH flush every time, day or night, and do so when staying away from home.

If we went anywhere and were asked not to flush during the night that would put me off staying with them quite honestly, even if they were family.

I cannot stand an unflushed toilet - vile

I always flush, it's vile not to. But then I don't get why people get so irate at being woken up in the night - I wake up half a dozen times a night, every night, and have done for as long as I can remember, so I can't understand why it makes people so rageful!

I always flush and wouldn't stay anywhere I was asked not to. It's revolting.

It depends on the house and family.

I have a small house and my daughter/partner and grandchildren all share it. Because of the layout the toilet is the other side of a thin wall from my daughter/son in law and sometimes restless babies head.....so 3 inches.

Flushing would be so cruel. But on general agreement we flush the rare night time poo.

Surely most people can have a conversation about this...certainly your partner should have a clue on this houses etiquette.

Gross.

If someone was really insisting on the disgusting "mellow" rule in their house, I'd be looking for bleach to pour down (and avoiding unnecessary stays).

Flushing would be so cruel. But on general agreement we flush the rare night time poo.

Surely most people can have a conversation about this...certainly your partner should have a clue on this houses etiquette.

No. I really, really DON'T want to discuss such matters with the ILs.

Definitely flush.