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Husband constantly correcting me on semantics who is Bu

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Tmtiger · 20/12/2017 19:55

My husband drives me mad. What could be an interesting conversation fizzles out because he constantly has to correct me on stuff which is unnecessary of just plain wrong.

I'm having a conversation with him about a mate who insisted years ago he would never leave London, never move South of the river. He said he was enjoying the space of the new house.
I said "so a guy who said he is never leaving London is now enjoying the country side?"
His correction "he did live in x for the first few years of working in London"
"Ok but what I mean is a guy who loved London so much he said he would never move South of the river has now moved out and is enjoying it?"
Him "he hasn't moved South of the river"

I know this he has moved north of London. All I'm trying to ask is someone who was well into London life and has said he couldn't leave it or even live South of the river and is living somewhere remote and is enjoying it.

It's not just that, two days ago I was talking about the Russell Brand sachgate thing, and the media response and he interrupted me to say the BBC did not get a fine, when I googled it to prove him wrong he said the amount £150,000 was so trivial it didn't matter.

I just want to talk to my husband without his constant unnessicary corrections causes the conversation to die out?

OP posts:
RoganJosh · 20/12/2017 19:57

He sounds like my husband. Who I suspect might have some Aspergers type thing going on. Or he’s just plain mean, I don’t know which.

RoganJosh · 20/12/2017 19:58

Sorry, that wasn’t terribly helpful!

TidyTinsel · 20/12/2017 19:59

My dp is similar. I'm not allowed to call a vacuum cleaner a hoover if it is in fact a vax Hmm

twiney · 20/12/2017 19:59

He sounds Aspergersy

twiney · 20/12/2017 20:00

Cross post with @RoganJosh !

DailyMailReadersAreThick · 20/12/2017 20:00

I couldn't put up with that.

PepperSteaks · 20/12/2017 20:02

My husband can be like this. Drives me mental as I take it as a critiscm. Is he stressed about other things? That makes DH worse.

XmasInTintagel · 20/12/2017 20:03

Does he work? Hard to imagine he's arguing with everything colleagues say like this! I suspect his being picky and obnoxious is a bad habit he does only with you.
He actually sounds quite insecure, the thing with the BBC fine was actually him being wrong, not correct in some strict interpretation of the words, but wrong...but insisting he was right in the face of you showing the evidence. Do you think he feels a need to try to show he's cleverer than you for some reason?

ButchyRestingFace · 20/12/2017 20:04

I agree with him re disagreement number 1 (sorry).

Re disagreement number 2, he's a fud.

If this is typical, I'd start doing it back to him, when he's full-flush in the middle of a story. See how he likes it.

ShatnersBassoon · 20/12/2017 20:07

My husband can be like this, picking up on and correcting unimportant minutiae in casual conversation. He does it to make himself look clever Hmm

He regularly recalls the time I accidentally called William Baldwin Alec Baldwin, to his mum, who wouldn't know who either of them was anyway.

RefuseTheLies · 20/12/2017 20:08

My husband used to do this but now doesn’t bother because I nicknamed him the ‘fun sponge’ for soaking up any enjoyment in having a conversation with him.

DH: says something pointless and argumentative for no reason
Me: are you being a massive fun sponge again DH?

CauliflowerSqueeze · 20/12/2017 20:10

Keep asking him if it makes him feel clever when he does that. He’s being a dick.

Branleuse · 20/12/2017 20:14

My dp does this at times. Its an aspie thing i think. Does piss me off though and i pull him up on it

DonnyAndVladSittingInATree · 20/12/2017 20:14

I’m like this Blush people have suggested I have Aspergers but I haven’t sought a diagnosis. I even annoy myself with it sometimes. I bite my tongue a lot.

YeahRightOk · 20/12/2017 20:18

Can you not just give him a good hard kick up the arse? he sounds like a right bollox.

Tippexy · 20/12/2017 20:19

They don't use the term Aspergers any more, and don't diagnose it either, I believe.

echt · 20/12/2017 20:29

I work with someone like this, though they don't do it nastily. They always correct you if they can, 99% of time going against what you say. The other 1% they tell you why what you've said is correct. In minute detail.

SueGeneris · 20/12/2017 20:36

I do this too. I don't mean to be an arse, and I do try not to.

For example, DH: You always leave sharp knives close to the edge of the worktop where 3 year old could reach them.
Me: I do not always leave knives near the edge. I do sometimes.

Not the best example, but I do get confused if what is being said is not the exact same as what is meant or actually true. I understand that by 'always' he means it feels like he's forever having to ask me not to do it - not that I actually leave sharp knives in the 3 yos teach every time I use them.

Splinterz · 20/12/2017 21:09

'Aspergrsy' ??

Really??????

Bambamber · 20/12/2017 21:14

I do this too, I am very pedantic and it drives my DH mad. Although sometimes I do it sarcastically just for a bit of fun. It gets so annoying it makes him laugh Grin

meredintofpandiculation · 20/12/2017 21:16

I have to try really, really hard not to correct DH's pronunciation or use of the wrong word. I don't always manage it.

Snowman41 · 20/12/2017 21:17

He sounds Aspergersy

Fuck me. Really?

Would it have been that difficult to just write a non offensive sentence Hmm

MistyKnightsTwistout · 20/12/2017 21:18

My dp is like this but I get my own back because he gets very muddled with words so I mock him. (He'll call a bracelet a necklace and mixes things up. Keeps it fair)

Italiangreyhound · 20/12/2017 21:20

Can you explain that his desire to correct us killing your desire to make conversation with him?

parietal · 20/12/2017 21:25

fun sponge is a great term. must make more use of it.