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Husband constantly correcting me on semantics who is Bu

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Tmtiger · 20/12/2017 19:55

My husband drives me mad. What could be an interesting conversation fizzles out because he constantly has to correct me on stuff which is unnecessary of just plain wrong.

I'm having a conversation with him about a mate who insisted years ago he would never leave London, never move South of the river. He said he was enjoying the space of the new house.
I said "so a guy who said he is never leaving London is now enjoying the country side?"
His correction "he did live in x for the first few years of working in London"
"Ok but what I mean is a guy who loved London so much he said he would never move South of the river has now moved out and is enjoying it?"
Him "he hasn't moved South of the river"

I know this he has moved north of London. All I'm trying to ask is someone who was well into London life and has said he couldn't leave it or even live South of the river and is living somewhere remote and is enjoying it.

It's not just that, two days ago I was talking about the Russell Brand sachgate thing, and the media response and he interrupted me to say the BBC did not get a fine, when I googled it to prove him wrong he said the amount £150,000 was so trivial it didn't matter.

I just want to talk to my husband without his constant unnessicary corrections causes the conversation to die out?

OP posts:
WishingOnABar · 21/12/2017 00:36

grooovylass I think I may love ass-burglars even more than ass-burgers!

gillybeanz · 21/12/2017 00:39

My dh does this, but it's with grammar, spelling, comprehension, context
I'd be a right dimwit without his help over the years.

I don't think I'd still be with him if he didn't know I wanted him to do this though and it never kills a conversation, or punchline.
he tells me after.
I am always being corrected though and sometimes you just don't need it. In my case though, it's 99% of the time appreciated.

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 21/12/2017 00:56

My DH can be like this. Drives me fucking nuts. So hung up on semantics rather than just thinking "oh she doesn't mean x she means y" and moves on.

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 21/12/2017 00:58

Aspergery? Aspergers = mean?

Fuck off, you two

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 21/12/2017 01:04

Really wish that threads describing a partner as being a bit picky/insensitive/a bit of a thoughtless pratt wouldn't immediately go to assumptions of ASD

"Oh, my partner's a critical shitbag"
"sounds like he could be on the spectrum"

See also: "could he be depressed"

80sMum · 21/12/2017 01:14

Gosh, I do that! I do try not to do it all the time though, as I know it annoys people.

But what is it that's wrong about being given the correct information? In the OP, the friend hadn't moved south of the river, so why imply that he had? I would have corrected that!

IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 21/12/2017 01:33

In the OP, the friend hadn't moved south of the river, so why imply that he had?

I’m assuming that “not moving South of the river” was a phrase the friend used to demonstrate his attachment to London proper and OP was referencing that.

Also it sounds like your DP knows exactly how pedantic he’s being and it’s about him proving his smarts because he didn’t back down on the £150,000 one when it was obvious that he was wrong.

I’d take the piss out of him each time he does it until he gets the message.

LineyRunner · 21/12/2017 01:34

Do people who insist on saying 'vacuum' cleaner even know what a fucking vacuum would involve?

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 21/12/2017 01:43

I think it’s great that people who are going on about “aspergersy” don’t seem to realise they’re doing exactly what the DH is doing. 😂

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 21/12/2017 01:49

My DP (whose mum is diagnosed as aspergersy) does this. He isn’t on the spectrum but he picked up a few of her traits just living with her. She does it a lot but it’s because she/they think little details may become important in the story later so they’re constantly clarifying. I have to tell them both to just be quiet and listen and the point will eventually become clear.

I guess that’s slightly different to op’s situation. Agree with PP. on the first comment he’s correct because going for a short rural visit and enjoying it is in no way comparable to leaving your London area home. On point 2 he’s being a dick though. He just doesn’t want to be wrong and it’s disrespectful to not admit when you’re wrong.

MissBax · 21/12/2017 01:50

DM does this, taking pedantic to a whole new level. She also "corrects" things incorrectly and focuses on those things that aren't even relevant to what I'm actually saying. It's very odd and makes having a simple conversation very difficult.

BlackeyedSusan · 21/12/2017 14:41

sounds aspie to me too. tis annoying though.

I have a little pedant.

ds oin the other hand uses the logic to find a loophole that he can exploit... the one thing that you have not explicitly banned.

stilltheykeepcoming · 21/12/2017 14:52

Sounds a little smartarsey to me.

amusedbush · 21/12/2017 15:01

I have Aspergers and don't find "aspergery" offensive.

Velvetbee · 21/12/2017 15:07

I couldn't live with this, I'd end up killing somebody. An inability to be wrong is deeply unattractive.

PuppyMonkey · 21/12/2017 15:13

The bickering and corrections on this thread about ASD and Asperger syndrome, considering the OP, are hilarious. Grin

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 21/12/2017 15:22

Glad you're finding it so amusing

cakeymccakington · 21/12/2017 15:47

That's because we are all aspergersy 😂😂😂

bengalcat · 21/12/2017 15:52

Sounds like an insecure dick - there's no correlation between aspergers/being aspergery and him

Branleuse · 21/12/2017 16:50

i have no idea why the fuck they removed the term/diagnosis of aspergers. Completely unhelpful

PuppyMonkey · 21/12/2017 17:10

I do find it amusing yes - especially as my DD really does have a diagnosis of Asperger syndrome, I mean ASD Grin

PatMustardsMoustache · 21/12/2017 17:12

My exh (who has HFA) did this, and farted through almost every conversation we had. Rude bastard. That’s just one of the reasons he’s now my ex. Somethings may be excused, but downright rudeness....Just no

SheRaaarghPrincessOfPower · 21/12/2017 17:38

🙄

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