Christmas rant about PIL

[2beesornot2beesthatisthehoney]

Sorry going to have a rant.
MIL just rang . Despite sending a million presents probably tacky junk that will be recycled as usual she has omitted to get something for baby DGGD . Can I buy something and she will send a cheque ?

So I would have to choose something, drive into town , park and purchase ; wrap it up and after all that say it was from MIL and sometime later in the new year receive a cheque which I would then have to drive into town , park and take to the bank to put in my account!

Using my best Mumsnet speak and not just say Fuck Off I suggested they get a suitable token on line . Not possible as MIL doesn't use computer and FIL won't cooperate in buying something for his Not so DGGD . No idea about this why etc

FFS

fortunately the call was terminated at that point because they had to go shopping in a different town to mine which presumably doesn't have any shops which sell tokens or something for a baby !

Shall I explore the incooperative FIL comment or just explode quietly here instead ?

Can't you just order something on Amazon and get it delivered to her and if you are seeing them she can give you the cash?

The internet was made for this

We are not seeing them at Xmas - never do. If I choose and buy anything it will be a present from me regardless of her giving me money st some point.

Exactly but MIL doesn't use internet only FIL and he won't cooperate

YABU.
She's giving you money and you can buy something your DD wants or needs rather than crap that takes up space and never gets used.
You can buy gifts online with a wrapping service so all you have to do is take in the delivery.

To be honest more concerned about uncooperative FIL

She is my grand daughter, her great granddaughter

OP you don't say how old your DGC is, could she not send a card with money in it?

You say baby DGGD so would the baby not just benefit from being sent a cheque directly (or to its parents?) Babies often get a lot of unneeded tat as presents as they need stuff when they need it, and we each use different things ( I had stacks of unused muslins for example). That way baby can be bought something it actually needs in Jan/Feb and is very likely to be none the wiser!

Out of pure curiosity I'd have to find out FILs problem.

Any clues?

How old is DGGD? If she’s too little to notice or care who’s sent a gift then don’t bother. If she’s old enough to be happiest with a card with money in it then suggest PIL send a card with a cheque or cash directly to DGGD.

Yes maybe the 'won't cooperate' needs tackling. Has he seen the baby? What is his usual communication over DC/dggd ?

Oh sorry you said baby. Yes unco-operative FIL is annoying but DGGD won’t know or care so it’s not worth stressing over

If s she their only DGGC?

She is 9 months , cheque sent directly excellent idea . Not sure about What to do about FIL though.

I feel there is a massive backstory here....

I would have told them the baby doesn’t need a present off them and not to bother.

Yes their only DGGD , He hasn't seen her since he refused to come to our 25 wedding anniversary in the summer when he could have and didn't bother before or since. C

If DGGD is only a baby I'd probably just tell her give her her present next time she's sees her, it's not like she's going to know any different anyway. I would however be concerned about what the FILs problem is though? Is it because the mother/father of the baby is unmarried or something? :/

Not so DGGD
Is she a baby serial killer? Or has she been stealing rusks? This seems so weird.

I'd go with buying something she needs and get the money back from MiL. I don't think your DGD will notice.

Probably is a massive backstory . I have always found PIL difficult . MIL very attention seeking; PIL obstinate . Lots of examples I could relate but if would take too long . DD does not get on with them that well either due to backstory but mainly to do with MIL not FIL

Is she a baby serial killer? Or has she been stealing rusks?

I put not so DGGD as it appears she is not a darling to him!

I just wouldn't bother getting involved. A nine month baby witll not know. Tell PIL to send a cheque direct to GD if they feel the need