To not want new rings?

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I have an engagement ring, wedding ring and eternity ring. I remove them when I bathe, shower and had also recently been decorating so hadn't been wearing them whilst I did it. I have a toddler who is like a magpie. I realised they were missing but cannot find them anywhere. I have turned my house literally upside down. My Husband has said he will claim them on the insurance but I am so upset. I don't want new ones. I can't even sleep thinking about where they are! Do I sound really ungrateful telling my Husband I don't want new ones. I don't want to sound like a brat but I just want mine back! :'(

Not the same, but my ds lost 4 lego figures about 4 weeks ago. I literally looked everywhere I could think, turned the house upside down and couldn't find them! Then last night i went to put the elf on the shelf inside our tall lamp and found them, sitting in there next to the lightbulb, my ds can't even reach up there!! So don't give up hope!!

My DS used to put things in shoes and boots.

They will turn up. DH lost his wedding ring and I was more upset than him. We had even looked in a jewellers for a new one and about a week later he found it. Assuming they haven’t been binned (fingers crossed!) or eaten (ick!) then they MUST be in the house somewhere.

Inside toys. Eg bags or cars

Definitely go through the bin carefully. (speaking from experience). Also try pockets and inside fingers of gloves. And inside anything like dolls house, or toy garage etc that toddler plays with a lot

Check hand bags and shoes!!
Kitchen drawers /pan cupboards.

Inside washing gloves?

Another vote for the letterbox and inside shoes here. Found a jigsaw piece that had been missing for ages inside a shoe the other day. I’m at the stage where I try to bribe my ds to “find” things for me. He also has learned to squirrel things away and transport to/from his Granny’s house (so far only toy figures).

Bottom of a paint tin

I lost my engagement ring and found it six months later. I hope it turns up!

I once lost a ring my mother bought me and I was distraught. Several months later I dipped my hand into a packet of dried apricots for a snack and pulled out my ring! It must have slid off when I last put my hand in I really should eat them more often i hope you find your rings.

I lost my engagement ring when the house was being decorated (had also taken it off and didn't see it again).

I bought another which was not as nice but I really missed wearing it.

Holding out hope it is here somewhere but it has been a few years

He can see you are upset and is trying to make you feel better. Don't have an argument about this.

I lost mine/had mine stolen at work (hot weather, swollen fingers, unfastened handbag) and never recovered them, so I completely understand how you feel. Yours are somewhere in the house, though. Hope you find them.

Lost a special necklace once was realllllly upset about it searched everywhere washing machine seals and filter etc. Then randomly after a week of doing washing i pulled filter out one more time and it was just sat in there! Was a washer dryer st the time so filter was right on the front but just never actually expected it to turn up there.
So dont lose hope xx

Last Thursday I lost mine I knew they were in the house I looked at photos I took at an event I went to with the kids zoomed in on my hand I had them then . I tore the house apart and then thought maybe they somehow got in the bin . I was so upset I couldn't cry and then I searched a place I and my husband had looked and they were there . I was so relieved ,I think the panic stopped me seeing them .

Inside any little containers dc has, inside lift up seat in ride on car.
Ask St Anthony for help, it usually works for me, don't know why.

Look inside the loo rolls? If your loo roll is hung horizontally, also any bath toys with flappy bits (octonaut gup I'm looking at you)
Examples assuming i recalled correctly that you took them off in the bathroom

Don't do the 'panic searching'. I've found things in places I'd already looked. Fingers xed you find them soon.

Your DH is trying to make the best of the situation. If you try to frame it in that way maybe it will help? Not sure you can claim if they are mislaid in you own home?

They must be somewhere. My kids have lost mine before and sometimes it takes a few days to find them but I always have.

I was once convinced I'd lost my engagement ring. I dropped it in our tiny bathroom at the time and it vanished! I looked EVERYWHERE and was completely puzzled.

Turns out it was caught in the turn-up of a pair of jeans in the wash basket.

My suggestions based on bitter experience:
Take the sofa apart.
Check the bin
Check any toys you put things in/post things through
Dvd/ps4 etc.
All shoes and boots.
All drawers below waist height.
Behind the bath panel.
Behind the mattress
Search toddler bed

Has your toddler swallowed them?

My mum's wedding ring turned up 6 months after she "lost" it. It was secured into my little brother's toy bus as a passenger.

My dh used to work away and when our ds was 2 and dh had just come home we realised that dh's car keys were missing. We searched everywhere for two days, pulling furniture out and going through ds's toy box.

On the second evening, I happened to ask ds "sweetheart, have you seen Daddies car keys, we have been looking for them everywhere and if we can't find them then we can't go out", right away ds took me by the hand saying " I knows where they are Mama", he led me to his bedroom, pulled out the drawer under his bed and produced both sets of DH's car keys. I asked ds "we have been looking everywhere for these, why didn't you tell me where they were?", I got the response 'You knows ask me". I then asked him why he had hidden Daddies keys '"I no want him go way gen" followed by "I teach Daddy lesson, he no leave his keys out gen"

We were speechless! I should add that having taught ds baby sign language at five months, then spent hours every day with ds demanding I read the picture word books so he could learn every word, he was very vocal at two!! (My little girl was the same) My ds has since been diagnosed as autistic, which explains his very literal language!

Have you asked your dc where they are? It is worth a try lol as my story above shows! Do you have a sandpit? Does your ds like posting things down the back of radiators? My ds liked posting everything down the back of radiators at that age, including wax crayons, which made a lovely rainbow effect on our lounge carpet! Unfortunately, he also liked posting things into the toilet too! Thankfully you can use a knife to turn the lock on the outside of our bathroom door!

It's worth thinking of any schemas your dc might be going through, e.g enveloping, so putting objects inside things or wrapping objects up, transporting? posting as above!

I also recommend checking his poo, just in case he has swallowed your rings! In which case you might prefer to claim your insurance!

This link gives good examples of play schemas, maybe they will give you a good idea of what your toddler might have done with your rings!

www.flyingstart.uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Schema.pdf

You'll find them next time you're searching for something else. Promise.

You can't do a pretend search tho. You can't trick the magic like that. You have to be patient.